clintsgirl Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 I've been on here a few times and recieved some great advice, hope i can get some more! To sum it up we have had are share of problems, but we have always gotten threw them. I dont know how much longer i can take of this. He is extremely depressed and it has gotten worse. Yes there are many things that has caused this depression. His father passed away unexpectedly 3 yrs ago. After that he got on anti-depressiants. They worked wonders, he wasn't back to himself but he felt better. well a little over a year now he has been out of work (laid off), at first he was fine about it all about getting a new job and everything was going to be okay. For the first couple of months he was fine, now a year later i'm in a nightmare. He has ganged 50 lbs, his days consist of sleeping till noon, internet, xbox, starts drinking at 5pm. during this time, of being laid off, his engine blew in his car, it will cost us almost 5k to fix, and we just dont have it right now. so we are down to one car, which i dont mind we can survive. he hasn't takent his A-D for almost six months now. He claims he looks for jobs, well as long as they are on the internet, cause he wont leave the house unless he absolutly has too. So that leaves me with everything kids, finances, dinner, cleaning, errands etc. I honestly and truly was okay with it 6 months ago, and promised i would always be there for him cause i love and care about him. Now it has turned into him critizing every single thing i do, name calling, blaming me for every single thing, picking at me constantly, pretty much making me feel like crap. I have tried to talk to him nicely, calmly. It gets me no where, he yells and screams, tells me i'm a liar, i'm a bitch. Pretty much if i dont agree w/ everything he says and does and i dont argue (even when i know i'm right), he will be tolerable. He says everything will be 100% better if he had a job and his car back. When i'm just happy we have are kids, our health, nice house, food on the table etc. all he does is complain, he wont take his medicine. When do you say enough is enough?!?! I love this man, and i want him to get better. But i honestly cant live like this anymore, the kids know something is wrong, you can cut the tension w/ a knife. he wont do anything as a family anymore, he just holes himself up in our room in front of the tv and pc, which he says is the only thing that makes him happy. I dont know what to do anymore, i cant take it. His mother has talked to him about this as well and he treats her the same as me. Of course he is a jerk to those that love and care about him, and nice and sweet to those that could careless.
konasexone Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 He is seriously sick and needs to be in a hospital. Your job is to get him there. You are to love him in sickness and health, better or worse. I was in his shoes once and got treated. Then my wife left. She was the one that got me sick in the first place so no great loss. This might not be the case with you. Treating this kind of illness is tricky. What he says to you in sickness should be totally ignored. His feelings are out of control due to chemical imbalances in the brain. This can be treated. You need to be patient and get him hospital care, now!
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