KellyP Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 Hi, I've been a good friend of Tojaz's for many many years. I read his posts here regularly but never really knew what to say. He seems to touch a lot of lives and speaks of all of you often. Lupa, MrMAYI, Dela, Ladybug, Vangel2 and Especially LisaUK! I thought I would embarrass him a bit and share how he touched my life, so you all can understand the kind of guy you're talking to on the other side of the screen, and the kind of guy his wife has abused! I wrote this a few months after it happened, but never shared it with anyone until now, the names have been changed to protect the innocent. I'm pretty sure he would have been a senior in high school when this happened. Tojaz used to have this beautiful Trans AM, picture Smokey & the Bandit, that is almost exactly what this car looked like. This is what happened to it. This all happened about a year after Tojaz broke up with me. I had cheated on him and really don't blame him even a little. I was eighteen and had just moved to North Cape with Nick, the guy I had cheated with. We lived together happily for about six months before he started hitting me. I don't mean a push or a shove, this man hurt me bad and often. I was trapped, I had no money and a lousy job, I couldn't afford to start over on my own so I kept taking the abuse, I thought I deserved to be his punching bag. To this day, Tojaz has never told me who called him. I had wanted to ask for help so many times, but he was very hurt and had said that he never wanted to speak to me again. One day early in the morning, Tojaz bursts into our place and drags Nick out of bed by the hair. In the front yard he gave back every bruise Nick had ever given me, then drove him to the hospital and left him there. When he came back, he sat on the porch, sure that the cops would be along to arrest him, they never showed, and I never saw Nick again. He didn't even come back for his things. That night I offered to "thank" Tojaz the only way I could, but he refused and just asked to sleep on the couch for a couple hours. When I woke up the next morning, he had left. There was a short note and the signed title to his car. The note said to sell the car and go somewhere safe and start over. I did. I fell in love with him that night. Even though he was so angry at me for what I had done and had not spoken to me for over a year, he took it upon himself to drive up there and rescue me. Nobody has ever matched up since then. Tojaz has helped so many people. He's hurting, and I don't think he believes in himself much any more. The one person whose opinion he valued has treated him like trash. I just hope he reads this, and remembers all the good things he's done in his life! She's not worth it!! LoveYa, Kel
LisaUk Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 Hi Kel Thanks for sharing that, Tojaz mentioned to me that you had been saying you might post here. Tojaz, has helped me more than he could ever know, he has been there for me on countless evenings, PMing or e-mailing me for hours sometimes, going through every aspect of my self doubt over the way my ex treated me and the way he had me doubting my own character. I am very thankful for his friendship. Thanks for the tarot readings as well, todays was spot on! It said something about crossing a strangers path. Well, I had a driving lesson today and a women stepped right out into the traffic, sideways with her back turned, right in front of my car. Luckily she turned, saw me, jumped back and I missed her by inches. Scared the h**l out of me, if she hadn't of turned there would have been no way I would not have hit her. Thank God I didn't. So, perhaps there is something in them!
delajoonal Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 OMG! ok..i will have to post more after i stop crying...that read like a movie... wow! tojaz...what an amazing person you truly are... you are selfless and always here for ALL of us...and yes, especially lis...you have been an amazing friend to her this past few days... thank you for that..she is a good person and deserves only the BEST from life...as do you tojaz! thank you kel...for the story...wow..i really am speechless...i am just in aw! at how there really are still such giving, kind and loving people/men out there... i hope that all made sense...i am just too touched beyond words and still crying.
tojaz Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 Well, kel sure has a way with words dosen't she! I've never been proud of that night, and i don't think it was nearly as film of the week as she makes it out to be. Deffinitely not tear worthy. I was young, stupid and violent. Not much else. Thanks for the kind words Lisa and Dela. Friendship is a two way street, and both of you more then hold up your end. TOJAZ Kel, payback is a b***h.
tojaz Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 To this day, Tojaz has never told me who called him. Since all is public record now, Allie called me.
lupa Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 MAybe you were young and angry, but you were also noble, for what it is worth. ...and I like this girl already.
tojaz Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 MAybe you were young and angry, but you were also noble, for what it is worth. I suppose, just don't really see it the way she does I guess. ...and I like this girl already. Back off Steeler boy!! If you want to like her a little more, her pics on my profile page, should have never let this one go! TOJAZ
Gunny376 Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 One day early in the morning, Tojaz bursts into our place and drags Nick out of bed by the hair. In the front yard he gave back every bruise Nick had ever given me, then drove him to the hospital and left him there. OOoooooooRaaaaaaaahhhhhaaaa! GET SOME! WALKING TALL!
MrMayI Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 that's a man! don't let anyone strip that nobility from you tojaz.
quankanne Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 this is going to sound stupid, and isn't meant to be mean, but I have a little bit of a problem with T's posts ... whenever I see his name, my mind reads "toe-jam" and it just throws me off. I don't know why, but it just does. sorry, dude *shrugs* though for OP's sake, I'm glad you beat the crap out of her abuser. I've got a female relative who refuses to leave an abusive marriage, and there are days the family fantasizes about someone swooping in and opening up a can of whoop-azz on her husband, much like you did on "Nick" ...
Author KellyP Posted August 6, 2009 Author Posted August 6, 2009 Kel, payback is a b***h. :p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p
tojaz Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 :p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p Now your just trying to piss me off arent you!
tojaz Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 OOoooooooRaaaaaaaahhhhhaaaa! GET SOME! WALKING TALL! that's a man! don't let anyone strip that nobility from you tojaz. Thanks I suppose. Never really saw it as noble. As a matter of fact, when the wife mentioned emotional abuse, that night ran over and over through my head. The thought of what may lie beneath, and being capable to do something like that scared me a little, though I've never regretted the outcome, just not very proud either. though for OP's sake, I'm glad you beat the crap out of her abuser. I've got a female relative who refuses to leave an abusive marriage, and there are days the family fantasizes about someone swooping in and opening up a can of whoop-azz on her husband, much like you did on "Nick" ... I hope your relative gets help, these things go from bad to worse. I just lost my best friend to an abusive husband, please keep your relative safe. Read this thread if you haven't already! http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t194021/ I'm going to leave the toe-jam alone, tojaZ
Gunny376 Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 When a Marine gives you one of his his EGA's (Eagle, Globe and Anchor's) its an Honor! If I could do so in person? I would!
tojaz Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 When a Marine gives you one of his his EGA's (Eagle, Globe and Anchor's) its an Honor! If I could do so in person? I would! Thank you Gunny, I know that means alot! Kels father gave me one. TOJAZ
Author KellyP Posted August 7, 2009 Author Posted August 7, 2009 Now your just trying to piss me off arent you! No, thats just a bonus.
PWSX3 Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 I just want to know how much this is costing tojaz????? J/K!!!
Author KellyP Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 Wow, this site is def going to the birds. I just want to know how much this is costing tojaz????? J/K!!! How insulting! Is this how people are treated here? I will always be grateful for what he did for me. Tojaz has grown very close with some of the people here, and I wanted to share this so that they could understand the kind of person he is in the rest of his life and hopefully to remind him that he has been special to people other then his wife. What is so wrong with that? Kel
2.50 a gallon Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 Kelly Fear not, Jonesy and PW were honoring TOJAZ. Male bonding humor. It is a guy thing
LisaUk Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 Hi Kel, Pw was just kidding I'm sure, he is really a lovely Christian man. Like Galoon said, it's a male joke thing, I'm sure no one meant any offense.
tojaz Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 Kel, payback is a b***h. For those in my contacts, I have posted a pic from me and Kel's first date. In 1982, I know how much you love this pic Kel, so I added you as well. I love the hat! :laugh::laugh::laugh::lmao: TOJAZ
Author KellyP Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 For those in my contacts, I have posted a pic from me and Kel's first date. In 1982, I know how much you love this pic Kel, so I added you as well. I love the hat! :laugh::laugh::laugh::lmao: TOJAZ OMG I hate you so much
Author KellyP Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 I just looked, if I remember right, you used to be in that picture too, your such an a**! I have pictures too you know! Kel
tojaz Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 OMG I hate you so much But why, I think you look great! :p:p:p
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