outdoorsgirl42 Posted November 12, 2003 Posted November 12, 2003 Ok i need some real advice here. ? I met this guy in the begginning of october. we are both divorced single parents & young (25) well. we hit it off great, we talked on the phone for hours, we went and had like 2 or 3 dates with teh kids etc. we had this connection like we've known each other for years. well then we were going to go on our first alone date and he calls me like 20 min before we leave and tells me he's uncomfortable with teh situation etc which i basically get out of him he says helikes me to much but doesnt want to be committed to anyone but his kids and hes nervous about how much he likes me. we didnt talk for a few days then he called to come over he came over apologized etc , so we started hanging out at my house after the kids are sleeping (so no babaysitting issues) and one thing lead to another i knew where we were headed so i had said something to him about how i was scared about getting hurt , he said i'll have to take a chance i said are you going to take that chance on me he said yes. well we've also been on a few dates with just us. But when i confronted himt osee where we stand, he says he just wnats to be friends. well then i started feeling like this situation would just be a friends with benefits kind of istuation and i'll end up getting hurt .. well... i told him i didnt wnat to have sex any more or anything just act like friends if that was what he wants so he agreed. then he came by to watch a movie last night at first it was like we were friends but eventually one thing led to another. I"m so confused. he seems like 2 differnt people i miss the guy i first met when we talked on the phone alot (he still calls me like at least 2 times a day but usually we talk for about ten min) and when we got together with the kids and stuff now i'm feeling used. and i dont know what changed everything or how or if i can fix it. any ideas.
ArdeaCandidissima Posted November 12, 2003 Posted November 12, 2003 How about this? 1) Decide what you want from this relationship 2) Tell him 3) See if he agrees 3A) If NO, then stop seeing him 3B) If YES, then continue 4) Don't settle for any less than what you wanted *) Don't snuggle on the couch late at night if you don't want to be tempted into sex. Sheesh, I learned that from a filmstrip when I was 12!!
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