nes9 Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 Bear with me, but there is an important background to the situation im in now. So this past March I started hooking up with/dating a girl that I had really liked for a long time (shes a really good friend of mine). She had also recently just broke it off with a dude she was kinda seeing to start dating me. About three weeks into it, I came back to her apartment and was a drunken ******* to her. This gave her second thoughts about whether or not she made the right move so she put the brakes on our relationship. Over this summer she went to another part of the country for an internship but is returning soon. I know that over the summer she was giving herself time to think about the other guy she had previously been dating and me. She made it seem like things between us were final but I recently found out she has been "thinking about me again." She still likes this other dude too, im sure of it, but I'm usnure of how to go about handling the situation when she gets back. Over the summer I tried to detach myself from her by not talking on AIM/text so I could get over her and move on. After a whole summer of that, I still really do like her but I don't want to come on too strong when she gets back and set myself up for failure. Any advice for me in this situation on what to do/not to do?
boogieboy Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 Bear with me, but there is an important background to the situation im in now. So this past March I started hooking up with/dating a girl that I had really liked for a long time (shes a really good friend of mine). She had also recently just broke it off with a dude she was kinda seeing to start dating me. About three weeks into it, I came back to her apartment and was a drunken ******* to her. This gave her second thoughts about whether or not she made the right move so she put the brakes on our relationship. Over this summer she went to another part of the country for an internship but is returning soon. I know that over the summer she was giving herself time to think about the other guy she had previously been dating and me. She made it seem like things between us were final but I recently found out she has been "thinking about me again." She still likes this other dude too, im sure of it, but I'm usnure of how to go about handling the situation when she gets back. Over the summer I tried to detach myself from her by not talking on AIM/text so I could get over her and move on. After a whole summer of that, I still really do like her but I don't want to come on too strong when she gets back and set myself up for failure. Any advice for me in this situation on what to do/not to do? Dont do nuthin. When she gets back she will contact you, let her take the lead, and let her earn her way to you. If you give in too easy she will go for the other guy. And for god sakes, stop drinking!
everylittlething Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 You said you were good friends before, I don't think it would be coming on too strong if you contacted her when she gets back and asked her to meet up, just to catch up and all that. Keep it strictly friendly though, and you will be able to get a better idea of how she feels about you. If she's still unsure about what/who she wants, there isn't much you can do but let her have her space to figure it out. But I do think that catching up with her as friends would let her know you're still around without pushing too much on her all at once.
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