dressing up Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 Is it a good idea to keep in contact or nurture a new friendship with an acquaintance you have a mini crush on when shortly after you met you found out he was going out with someone?
tigressA Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 No. No, it is not. "Mini-crushes" only turn into bigger crushes, and since this guy is taken it definitely will be unhealthy if your attraction to him grows. You didn't say that your attraction to him stopped once you found out he has a girlfriend. It's a bad idea. Don't pursue a friendship with this guy, for your own good.
Author dressing up Posted August 6, 2009 Author Posted August 6, 2009 Thanks for the reply, TigressA. The crush didn't go away immediately after I found out. Friendship would probably be an even worse idea now, huh?
tigressA Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 I was close friends with a guy I had always had a big crush on; we had been FWB for a few months. I thought I could just be his friend but I was lying to myself--every girl he dated I became extremely jealous of; I did little things to try and break them up. It would work, but he would always move on to a different girl; I was always just the friend. It was manipulative and awful. I never want to be like that again. Trust me, if you try to be friends with this guy while being attracted to him you will end up regretting it.
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