relationship_learner Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 Here is my situation: I just broke up with my gf about 2 months ago. Recently, I met this new girl when I went out with a couple of my good friends. Obviously, I was a little bit excited that night since it was my first time looking like a player (go around flirting with other girls, getting their numbers...) Later on that night, I made out with this new girl (we weren't that drunk and kinda knew what we were doing). The girl later confessed her interest in me, that she had her eyes on my when I flirted other girls. However, her impression of me is that I am a player since she has seen what I did that night... We went on a pretty cool date later on and it worked out well. Then, I had to leave the day after the date. We both agreed that we haven't had enough time to get to know each other. I told her that I am becoming more cautious in relationship since I was cheated by my ex, and that I want to take everything slow. She seemed to agree to that. She said that long distance relationship didn't work for her in the past since she's outgoing and has a lot of guys friends (her bf would get jealous). We chatted on IM and talked on the phone everyday after I left. She told me how she was having fun going out with other guys (not sure if those were dates) But I just played it cool since we only went on one date and there was no commitments from neither of us yet. Recently, I felt like we are distancing from each other from time to time. It'll be a while since I will be able to see her again. Should I just leave it like that and move on until we can meet up again later? What should I tell her to let her know that I am not a player? (I guess my actions would tell her!!!) One more thing, she seems to let me know that there are a lot of other guys interested in her. Did she do that to get me jealous to test if I am really a player? Or did she do that to test if I can stand a gf who often goes out with guys? Thanks so much
JadedHeart Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 Girls that say they want to keep their options open are those that claim it's because they were hurt or some bull like that. I'm sorry but I'm too good to be anyone's option. I deserve to be a priority, because I'll make them one too. Remember guys, never make someone a priority if they're only making you an option.
dreamergrl Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 Girls that say they want to keep their options open are those that claim it's because they were hurt or some bull like that. I'm sorry but I'm too good to be anyone's option. I deserve to be a priority, because I'll make them one too. Remember guys, never make someone a priority if they're only making you an option. No one wants to be your priority... trust me.
SoulSearch_CO Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 WTF is going on, here? I'm so confused. Is this a game? Person above me is most definitely a troll. relationship learner - I don't see a whole lot of potential, here. She doesn't sound very serious about you. But even if she were, it would be hard for her to really get to see who you are as a person if she never actually SEES you in person. And I think she made it pretty clear that she's not into LDRs. I'd give it up until you can see each other in person. Then go on some dates and see where it goes.
JadedHeart Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 WTF is going on, here? I'm so confused. Is this a game? Person above me is most definitely a troll. relationship learner - I don't see a whole lot of potential, here. She doesn't sound very serious about you. But even if she were, it would be hard for her to really get to see who you are as a person if she never actually SEES you in person. And I think she made it pretty clear that she's not into LDRs. I'd give it up until you can see each other in person. Then go on some dates and see where it goes. Haha it's not a game soul search, dreamergrl just expects guys to bend over while girls get to explore their options. Honestly I don't see how refusing to be a mere option is being considered a troll? It's called having self respect for yourself. If you know your self worth then you know you're better than that. Dreamergrl possible couldn't relate because nobody has made her a priority before, and options are all she knows... I pity you, maybe one day you'll realize you can only expect from people what you give out in return.
Author relationship_learner Posted August 5, 2009 Author Posted August 5, 2009 Girls that say they want to keep their options open are those that claim it's because they were hurt or some bull like that. I'm sorry but I'm too good to be anyone's option. I deserve to be a priority, because I'll make them one too. Remember guys, never make someone a priority if they're only making you an option. To me, it seems like she isn't serious about the relationship for now. But she showed me interest in relationship later on when we get to spend a little more time with each other by saying "wish we could have had more time"... Probably you're right, just let it be it for now til we can see each other more often and she's serious about this relationship...
Author relationship_learner Posted August 5, 2009 Author Posted August 5, 2009 WTF is going on, here? I'm so confused. Is this a game? Person above me is most definitely a troll. relationship learner - I don't see a whole lot of potential, here. She doesn't sound very serious about you. But even if she were, it would be hard for her to really get to see who you are as a person if she never actually SEES you in person. And I think she made it pretty clear that she's not into LDRs. I'd give it up until you can see each other in person. Then go on some dates and see where it goes. It sounds like what I have in mind right now
dreamergrl Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 For the record... I was calling Jaded a troll.....
Trialbyfire Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 I'm confused. What does an LDR have to do with this scenario? Were you in another town or place, on vacation or business or something, when you met this girl? How far away are you, from this girl? For that matter, the two of you barely know each other, meeting at a bar and chatting a few times over a period of a week or two (this is just a guess, based on how you used the word "recently" in conjunction with your breakup, 2 months ago). Spend less time analyzing someone as a potential lifemate, someone you barely know, and spend more time relaxing and getting to know her. If you feel she's a write off, cut and run now, instead of wasting more time on her.
Author relationship_learner Posted August 5, 2009 Author Posted August 5, 2009 I'm confused. What does an LDR have to do with this scenario? Were you in another town or place, on vacation or business or something, when you met this girl? How far away are you, from this girl? For that matter, the two of you barely know each other, meeting at a bar and chatting a few times over a period of a week or two (this is just a guess, based on how you used the word "recently" in conjunction with your breakup, 2 months ago). Spend less time analyzing someone as a potential lifemate, someone you barely know, and spend more time relaxing and getting to know her. If you feel she's a write off, cut and run now, instead of wasting more time on her. We both were on vacation at the time we met. She will go back about a month later but we live about 9 hours away from each other. We spent just a couple of days together. I guess it's just a crush that we have for each other at the moment....
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