Ingenue Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 In the past few months I've been liquidating the gifts/objects/souvenirs of my past 5 year relationship that my ex gave to me. It's been cathartic. Ever since the break up, I had put away all of the visible reminders of the relationship gone south, particularly a very large framed piece of art that he gifted to me one Christmas. I know that he spent quite a bit of money on it to buy the print and have it professionally framed. Since the break up, it's been gathering dust on my floor, unhung. After attempts to sell the art proved uneventful, I offered it for free online. I figured that it was better to declutter than to have it simply sitting there unseen for the rest of its life. Perhaps some other person could enjoy it. In one day, I've received over 45 interested emails and suddenly I'm struck with this very strange feeling that I'm unable to let it go. I am sentimental in general, but this picture means nothing to me other than it was a gift from my ex. I can't explain why I'm suddenly feeling like I cannot let this art go. I'm happily in another relationship with a man who is fabulous. I haven't spoken to my ex in 6 months since he came fishing. Why am I suddenly becoming overly sentimental over this art piece? It makes absolutely no sense to me.
Nedved Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 I think your prob feeling a little bad about giving it away online to a total stranger. Its quite natural to feel sentimental about a gift that was given to you when times were good but that was then and the person who gave you the piece prob dose'nt even think of it anymore. Its in the past now and you've a new guy in your life. You should maybe give it to a friend or relative if you feel somebody else will enjoy it.
2sure Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 Having tried to sell it for cash and getting no response... And then so much interest when you offered it for free... Your gut is telling you to hold out for cash
Author Ingenue Posted August 5, 2009 Author Posted August 5, 2009 Having tried to sell it for cash and getting no response... And then so much interest when you offered it for free... Your gut is telling you to hold out for cash I think that's exactly it. I'm mistaking the potential monetary gains for some sort of misplaced sentimentality. There's a bit of me that feels bad for giving it away considering how much he spent on the print and to frame it.
2sure Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 Oh yeah, I wasnt being sarcastic even tho it did sound funny when the subject was Sentimental. But still...I can see it, you hesitating handing it over to a stranger as tho it was worthless.... And feeling a twinge, wondering what it is that is causing you pause. Is that a twinge of regret, of longing?... Nope. Just a little greed. lol. Pass it along to someone in love, or furnishing a newly shared apartment.
Author Ingenue Posted August 7, 2009 Author Posted August 7, 2009 Just as an update, I gave the art piece away today. I selected an individual who I know will cherish it and it feels good to pass it on to someone else who will treasure her. It's now out of my house, out of my mind and no longer collecting dust on my floor.
trueblue72ny Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 Just as an update, I gave the art piece away today. I selected an individual who I know will cherish it and it feels good to pass it on to someone else who will treasure her. It's now out of my house, out of my mind and no longer collecting dust on my floor. you will probably feel better in the long run over it.
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