CarrieT Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 Just a quick rant -- I am in a local art exhibit and the opening reception is Thursday night. I have been turned down by four different guys and I really don't want to go alone. Yeah, I can speculate that maybe they are "artsy-fartsy" types or are busy or aren't into me. But I'm just tired of being alone and the fact that the only hits my online profiles seem to get are from guys on the other side of the country or boys looking for cougars. The loneliness is becoming pervasive and is making me ineffective in my day-to-day work. I've got two really big trade shows this weekend and next weekend and instead, I sit and trawl the dating sites and read this site instead of making art. Trying to get motivated is proving more difficult.
CaliGuy Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 I'm experiencing this at 40 but you know what? I'll go alone anyway. Never know who you're going to meet!
Author CarrieT Posted August 5, 2009 Author Posted August 5, 2009 Can you take a girlfriend along? I've asked three -- they are all busy...
Author CarrieT Posted August 5, 2009 Author Posted August 5, 2009 I'm experiencing this at 40 but you know what? I'll go alone anyway. Never know who you're going to meet! It is probably what I will end up doing. But I am going on a year of this sort of thing. I will meet a lot of people who admire my work, blah-blah-blah... I'm just bitchy because it is a full moon and I would like to celebrate my accomplishment with someone - instead of alone all the time.
NopeNah Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 I always use the ole "does this rag smell like chloriform" approach.
jerbear Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 I've gone to some events by myself w/o friends in tow. It is easier to find more singles that way. The singles at the event will self select and either group together or hang out with their backup date. Even some that travel with their "friends" will have some baggage in case one of you two hits it off and gets a drink later.
kizik Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 what inspires people to be creative was the pain, suffering, happiness, lonliness , love that drives an artist to draw and create and comedians to make better jokes to cover their pain and that without all these valleys and joys in life - the artist in you wont come out. Good point. Pain is a necessary part of the art for me. CarrieT, I just spent the whole weekend alone. Why? Because my "friends" don't call me, and I'm sick of it. I'm not going to call people all the time, and lose valuable self-esteem when they're predictably lame. It's hard not to take it personally. What did I do? Am I not fun? Do I repel people? Take some time alone. Clearly your friends are not as there for you as you wish they were. There's a phrase that gets tossed around a lot here. Something about value being created with scarcity, meaning that if you don't call your friends and if you focus on you and you only (and especially your art), you can not only learn about your needs and priorities better, but you are desired MORE. Carrie, you have an art show coming up. That in itself is something to be very proud of. I know the bittersweet feeling, though, of not having an SO or close group of friends to share my successes with. For now, be proud of yourself and don't let the actions of average people get to you. Most of them are idiots.
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