whimsical_memory Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 I do control myself. I don't cheat. Unattached ATTRACTIVE women are a myth. From my experience 99% of desirable women have some sort of attachment. If they don't want to come onto me, they don't have to. I am not the one who promises myself to someone else and flirts with others. I didn't create the game, but I am forced to play it. Chances are the next girlfriend I have will have some attachment when we meet. It's just the way it is. No, just women that are attractive to YOU are a myth. What you find attractive is not going to be the same as what might be attractive to someone else.
Author EddieN Posted August 5, 2009 Author Posted August 5, 2009 I wonder about people's environment, where there are no single people. Eddie, there are singles everywhere. There are thousands upon thousands on LS, alone! Actually, most of the women here seem to be here for advice on a particular guy. I've only seen a few on here say, "What do I do to attract guys?" A lot more guys, like me, are on here because they can't seem to find anyone to even go out with once. Why not ask outright, if you see a girl that looks interesting? Why be afraid to ask the question? And no, I'm not going to read the entire thread, for my own reasons. Because girls are judgmental in their first interactions with a guy, and rightfully so. If I ask outright, "what exactly do you define as a boyfriend?" That's just weird. Girls don't want to answer that, not after meeting a guy for the first time. A few confident women might not mind it, but asking that to most girls my age will only hurt me.
sally4sara Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 Lol, this reminds me of a very attractive girl who I took out on a date. She told me I was the 4th guy she was dating. I paid for my own tab and left her at the club. And if you'd had a date 3 nights prior with some other girl, it would be wrong of you. You don't pay the tab for a girl you barely know even if you're the only guy she has had a date with in a year.
sally4sara Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 Lol, this reminds me of a very attractive girl who I took out on a date. She told me I was the 4th guy she was dating. I paid for my own tab and left her at the club. Also odd, because you will "get with" a girl with a BF - but can't hang at a club with a girl who tells you in honesty that she is currently dating casually. This might be part of the reason why all the girls you date had BFs when you met them.
Isolde Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 Millions? Not in my experience. I've yet to meet a girl who has come out and said she's single. She ALWAYS has some kind of attachment. This is patently UNtrue.
Author EddieN Posted August 5, 2009 Author Posted August 5, 2009 Going out on a few dates with a few different guys to try and find one you like isn't "guy hopping". Do you expect a girl to know if she likes you enough to have a serious relationship with you after one date or after you ask for a first date or is she suppose to precog your intention before you ask her out? I'm not sure how the kids are doing it these days; can someone explain this one to me? I quoted what I'm getting at; where you talked about how every girl is either dating one guy or several guys. I am trying to point out that if she is dating several guys, she isn't a "girl with a BF". The second part was for Lizzie, not you. I understand what you're getting at. We're thinking of different things when I say "guy-hopping." A guy-hopper is a girl who gets into many consecutive mini-relationships with guys, each for a few months or so, and then hops to a different guy to do the same. It's different than playing the field and casually dating a few guys at a time. I'm talking about a girl who can't be single or admit to being single, so she needs to get in quick relationships. My point is, I wouldn't mind dating a girl like that, but I don't want to get committed with her, because I know chances are she's going to hop to another guy.
Jilly Bean Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 Eddie - I think until someone is married, it's all fair game. But, keep in mind that many women with BF's ARE genuinely happy and committed, and will quickly reject the advances of any guy. So, I think if a woman with a BF says no, then move on and don't keep pressing it. Also keep in mind, do you want the kind of chick who would either cheat on her BF with you, or, leave him for you? I always believe that they way they come to you, is the way they will go out on you. Just things to consider... That all being said, one of my GF's was engaged to a guy, met someone else, broke off the engagement, started dating the new guy, and now they have been married for 19 years. Go figure.
Author EddieN Posted August 5, 2009 Author Posted August 5, 2009 This is patently UNtrue. There are exceptions, but they're very hard to find, especially in a college environment. Every girl here has some other guy on her mind that she met at some frat or through one of her girl friends or something. I don't get out enough to be one of those guys who a girl is focusing on, so I have to try to work with what I have and try to take the blinders off a girl who has oneitis.
Chubbi Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 Oh please! Did someone say something about college!! I go to a small, private school but let me just say there a ton of girls at my college who are single and looking- and from all types of looks: big-busted and curvy or skinny or hippy etc. I call bs that you go to a big school and can't find a single girl (no way). The ones who are like me are also very confident in class and so guess what? guys pull the "You're intimidating" card. I noticed college boys don't put in any effort with certain girls. They give up extremely easily and instead go for the more easier-to-get-with chicks. They swarm the partying, drunk girls but they don't stick around to talk and ask a good girl out for a date. Sure, they'll get some courage to approach you on a dance floor, wanting to grind on you all night) but they never try to romance or conversate or hold philosophical discussions. Instead they pull the "I'm intimidated" card which when translated means: I'm an insecure just wanna be laid jackbutt and too immature for you to waste the valuable time you can be studying on So me and my friends don't. Don't make up excuses for yourself. There are single girls out there- you probably know a girl who is beautiful and intelligent and it just seems to me that combination turns off a lot of guy interest. I can turn heads all day, but of course, I work hard and for some reason that scares college boys. They go for the more... alternatively-focused types.
Isolde Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 There are exceptions, but they're very hard to find, especially in a college environment. Every girl here has some other guy on her mind that she met at some frat or through one of her girl friends or something. I don't get out enough to be one of those guys who a girl is focusing on, so I have to try to work with what I have and try to take the blinders off a girl who has oneitis. It sounds almost like this is just what you THINK is true, but don't have empirical proof. One-itis doesn't typically prevent girls from talking to new guys, unless they're like IN LOVE or something.
westernxer Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 Every girl here has some other guy on her mind that she met at some frat You don't want those type of girls. LOL
Author EddieN Posted August 5, 2009 Author Posted August 5, 2009 Oh please! Did someone say something about college!! I go to a small, private school but let me just say there a ton of girls at my college who are single and looking- and from all types of looks: big-busted and curvy or skinny or hippy etc. I call bs that you go to a big school and can't find a single girl (no way). The ones who are like me are also very confident in class and so guess what? guys pull the "You're intimidating" card. I noticed college boys don't put in any effort with certain girls. They give up extremely easily and instead go for the more easier-to-get-with chicks. They swarm the partying, drunk girls but they don't stick around to talk and ask a good girl out for a date. Sure, they'll get some courage to approach you on a dance floor, wanting to grind on you all night) but they never try to romance or conversate or hold philosophical discussions. Instead they pull the "I'm intimidated" card which when translated means: I'm an insecure just wanna be laid jackbutt and too immature for you to waste the valuable time you can be studying on So me and my friends don't. Don't make up excuses for yourself. There are single girls out there- you probably know a girl who is beautiful and intelligent and it just seems to me that combination turns off a lot of guy interest. I can turn heads all day, but of course, I work hard and for some reason that scares college boys. They go for the more... alternatively-focused types. Chubbi, I always like to hear from people my age. I am not your typical college boy. The last party I went to that was packed and had random hook-ups going on was years ago. I do activities that prevent me from doing things during nights. I would LOVE to meet a sweet and intelligent girl. There's no way a girl with that combo turns me off. I can't say it enough, though, everyone I talk to has some kind of a boyfriend. I give up easily because that's what guys are supposed to do. It's creepy to pursue a girl hard when she turns you down.
westernxer Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 I would LOVE to meet a sweet and intelligent girl. I can't say it enough, though, everyone I talk to has some kind of a boyfriend. How about the library? I had so many opportunities to hook up while sitting at the big tables out in the open. Chicks came in and kinda scooted over toward me, trying to catch my eye. And I was studying, too. I miss my college library, mostly for the books I'll never read again. LOL
Trialbyfire Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 Actually, most of the women here seem to be here for advice on a particular guy. I've only seen a few on here say, "What do I do to attract guys?"I've seen plenty of single women on LS. Single, as in either dating or not, but not in a relationship. For that matter, there are tons who have just gotten out of LTRs, some ready to date, others not. Edit - I should add that there used to be even more but the misogynists have scared away quite a number of the more sensitive ones. A lot more guys, like me, are on here because they can't seem to find anyone to even go out with once.I've seen this for both genders. Because girls are judgmental in their first interactions with a guy, and rightfully so. If I ask outright, "what exactly do you define as a boyfriend?" That's just weird. Girls don't want to answer that, not after meeting a guy for the first time. A few confident women might not mind it, but asking that to most girls my age will only hurt me.No, keep it stupid simple. "Do you have a b/f?" and if you have problems with multi-dating, ask her sometime later, how she views multi-dating.
V.Vixen Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 I do control myself. I don't cheat. Unattached ATTRACTIVE women are a myth. From my experience 99% of desirable women have some sort of attachment. If they don't want to come onto me, they don't have to. I haven't read beyond this yet, but i must call BS on this point. I am living proof, and guess what.. I have been single and attainable for a long time! I consider whoever gets to be my boyfriend a lucky dude, and I think there are more women like me in this world than you think. With the attitude that we don't exist, you'll never get the opportunity to find us.
dreamergrl Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 Yeah, now let's define what spoken for means. If I meet a girl at a pub, and she comes onto me, she's not "spoken" for. Actions speak louder than words, darlin'. I am not a double standard because I don't cheat. What others do is beyond my control. Um, the girl told you she had a boyfriend. What else do you need to know?
dreamergrl Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 She told me she had a boyfriend, then proceeded to drag his name through the dirt and stick her tongue down my throat. Mixed signals? Neurotic? Slut? Poor girl.... No one said she was in the right, but you're responsible too. But it's easier for you to sit there and place blame, and make it so it's everyone else's fault. You don't seem to get that you are part the pattern. You claim it's okay for men to cheat, but woman get tossed to the curb. It's okay if you assist them in cheating, but heaven forbid a girl do you wrong. Get over yourself.
Woggle Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 A man who persues an already taken woman for anything but some quick fun is a fool in my book. If she will cheat on him she will cheat on you.
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