Author moo Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 He wasn't trying to isolate me, but he was controlling. I go back and forth over whether or not I was emotionally abused. When I was in the relationship, just the fact that I had to question that was a terrible thing. I still feel I was emotionally abused, but it's very possible when I get more emotional distance, I will change my mind.
hoping2heal Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 He wasn't trying to isolate me, but he was controlling. I go back and forth over whether or not I was emotionally abused. When I was in the relationship, just the fact that I had to question that was a terrible thing. I still feel I was emotionally abused, but it's very possible when I get more emotional distance, I will change my mind. Well, wether you were or not; it was a volatile relationship. It made you feel anxious and unhappy a lot of the time. You're doing yourself a world of favors by being away from it.
Author moo Posted August 8, 2009 Author Posted August 8, 2009 Thank you for your emotional support. I appreciate it.
Author moo Posted August 19, 2009 Author Posted August 19, 2009 It was rough this weekend. I cried and cried, but I did not break NC. Today I was singing sounds of empowerment (ex: "I'm Still Standing," etc.) in the shower. I'm strong!
Ilovecake Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 Moo may I suggest you read this book? How to Break Your Addiction to a Person by Howard Halpern
silic0ntoad Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 Ignoring my calls, standing me up with no explanations for hours and hours, worrying me because I think he is in an accident, always talking about a woman in which there was a rumor at his job that they were seeing each other. Talking about her even though it hurt me. Seeing me once every 5 weeks, then telling me I should get a man who's available 24/7. Yelling at me when I finally trust him enough to discuss exchanging Xmas presents when I didn't want to do it before because I thought he wouldn't buy me a present. Telling me he would write me snail mail letters if I wrote him and then not following through. Always putting paperwork ahead of me. Not sharing his job schedule with me because "it always changes" yet he could make a plan to see me on a particular day. Not doing anything for my birthday, not even a card. Telling me he loves me then leaving me 2 weeks later and throwing another woman in my face and treating me like a stranger. Not caring enough to take me shopping for a winter coat when I don't drive. Making me wait three months for that. Turning down my offer to spend all 4 days with me if I came to town because his friend might want to hang out...a friend he saw very frequently when I saw him for about 4 hours once every 5 weeks. Telling me he doesn't have money for flowers, but spending 50 dollars on CDs and 25 dollars every other week so he could run in a race. Getting nasty with me when I didn't want to have sex because I was in pain from cramps. Wanting to ditch me in a city I was not very familiar with for nine hours until my friend could pick me up so he could think about what his car breaking down means to him. Throwing it in my face that he couldn't ditch me. Taken all together, it feels like emotional abuse. Moo- you come off as entirely too sweet to be strung up on a d-bag like this guy. I actually hurt when I read what he did to you. That's horrendous. This dude deserves every emasculating insult to be hurled at him and have it be meant. You should never put yourself in a position to be someone else's punching bag. This dude is a scum bag.
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