mm4184 Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 So we've been broken up for almost a year, stopped seeing each other in January... but since then there's been drama and some unfinished business that involve a best friend I lost (she's good friends with my ex) and ill feelings towards each other. I want to resolve things because we run into each other at times and I don't like having that chip on my shoulder but I've always been the one (with both my ex and my "friend") to initiate fixing things so I don't want to anymore.. I just want us to be cool. I'm past my super depressed state where I couldn't even get out of bed. I'm doing things I enjoy, go to work, go out with family and friends and I'm ok now, but I still hurt from time to time when I think of the loss of both my ex and my friend AND it hurts even more that THEY are close. I just think that if he ever starts dating, if not already, another girl, would my friend be supportive and not care that he's bringing the new girl around when WE used to be best friends. I know I said USED but after 14 years, I miss her. I miss my ex but I know it's not going to work between us, at least now. I still get jealous at times because we have a lot of mutual friends and I wonder how he is, etc. How do I get over the last bump in the road? I feel like I'm at a standstill where I'm past the horrible stage but I want to get to the point where I can be ok that we may never be friends or we may never resolve the issues we have and the misconceptions we were told. I want to NOT CARE and just really wish him well, but I'm not there and I feel like I've been stuck in this position for awhile. I just want to be happy, but I'm a very emotional person so I kind of dwell on how to fix things when I know I should try to just let it go. How do you get to that point??
digitalwizard Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 First, we have a question. Who did your bf know first--you or your ex? Thanks.
Author mm4184 Posted August 6, 2009 Author Posted August 6, 2009 Me. She's known me for 14 years and him for 3ish. Stupid right? But she works for him in the music industry where she wants to pursue her dreams and I had to accept that they would still be friends. Then it just got all messed up...
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