skreen23 Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 Well, i met up with my ex today for a meal. We've been broken up/on a break for the past 3 1/2 months at her request. Things went really well over the meal for the most part. We caught up on news, had a few laughs, had a good time. Then for some stupid reason i brought up the break-up. Things were a bit awkward, but thankfully there was no anger or raised voices. She more or less said she needs to be on her own, stand on her own 2 feet, yadda yadda yadda. I told her i still had feelings for her and i couldn't be friends. I also told her i felt anger at the way she handled the break up. She kept pushing the friends thing a lot though. At the end of the meal i drove her home and she hugged me. Later on i rang her and told her i enjoyed the meal and if she wanted to meet for coffee in the future i wouldn't mind. Just so you's know, i still love her, want her back, it'll be a cold cold day in hell before i'll be her friend. Oh yeah, i am going to move forward in life and try and meet new women and try and get in their knickers. What i want to know is does anyone reckon we have a chance in the future.
Thomas X Forever Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 Oh yeah, i am going to move forward in life and try and meet new women and try and get in their knickers. Why anyone would leave such a charmer is way beyond my knowledge.
adamt Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 YOu sound confused. One minute you say you can't be friends with her then next minute you tell her to contact you if she fancied a coffee when she just wants to be friends. THen you say you want to move forward and meet new women then ask if you have a chance in the future with the ex. You don't sound ready to move on yet.
boogieboy Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 Aye dood, as long as you are in touch with her, and you are meeting up with her, you are her freind. She is getting what she wants from you. She wants you as her friend so she can get over you easier. If you let her get over you by hanging out with her, you will have no chance. You have to cut her off or she will never miss you, and she knows this. When girls lose love for you, it generally doesnt come back, and since youre falling for her "friends" scam, youre ruining chances. Stop talking to her, stop meeting with her, tell her youre not going to talk anymore, because you cant be friends, and then dont answer anymore calls or texts. by the time you get a new gf, you wont want her anymore anyway. You must move on.
Author skreen23 Posted August 4, 2009 Author Posted August 4, 2009 Aye, the prob on these yokes is when you put the whole story down it ends up like a small novel. I want to get back with this girl because i love her still and want to spend my life with her and have babies. She has gone through a lot of stress since just before christmas and i get the impression she's confused. I may, i repeat may, keep limited contact for a while but the minute i reckon she thinks we're becoming friends i'm out of there. I intend to go on with my life and have fun. During the whole 3 1/2 months of our break/break up we have had very limited contact, almost none. During our conversation today she brought up the friends thing several times and i said no each time. During the meal she said she wouldn't find anyone as good as me in the future and i agreed she wouldn't. I told her not many fellas would put up with the crap she put me through. When she told me i would find someone in the future better than her i said it wouldn't be hard. I love this woman but i'm no longer taking any crap from her. If she thinks we can be friends in the future she can go and sh**te.
Author skreen23 Posted August 4, 2009 Author Posted August 4, 2009 Good lord, Americans have no sense of humour. I was'nt been serious when i said that. I'm still hung up on this girl in the name of jesus. Do you reckon i'd bother me hole posting here looking for advice if all i wanted to do was ride any old slapper that crossed my path. My main goal in life is to be succesful in business, have good friends, meet a beautiful woman, fall in love and have a gaggle of kids. I've got an ok business, great friends, i met a woman i loved, asked her to marry me, travelled with her, did my best for her and never cheated on her. Now i want to get back with her but i realise that may not happen and maybe i should look for someone else. At the moment i'm not emotionally prepared for that as i was with my ex for 6, count them 1,2,3,4,5,6 years. So the only bit of sex i'll be getting is with my hand for the next while.
redy2 Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 no offense but once they are gone they are gone usually. i mean they may flirt when they come back around. but that deep undying love you can hang that up. if she had those feelings she wouldnt be needing to stand on her own. sorry to be bleak. best to grieve, get over it and move on to someone worthy enough to want to be with you .
Author skreen23 Posted August 4, 2009 Author Posted August 4, 2009 The whole getting in someone knickers thing annoyed me. I reckon you're right redy. Best advice i got this millenium.
Beeotch Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 Well, i met up with my ex today for a meal. We've been broken up/on a break for the past 3 1/2 months at her request. Things went really well over the meal for the most part. We caught up on news, had a few laughs, had a good time. Then for some stupid reason i brought up the break-up. Things were a bit awkward, but thankfully there was no anger or raised voices. She more or less said she needs to be on her own, stand on her own 2 feet, yadda yadda yadda. I told her i still had feelings for her and i couldn't be friends. I also told her i felt anger at the way she handled the break up. She kept pushing the friends thing a lot though. At the end of the meal i drove her home and she hugged me. Later on i rang her and told her i enjoyed the meal and if she wanted to meet for coffee in the future i wouldn't mind. Just so you's know, i still love her, want her back, it'll be a cold cold day in hell before i'll be her friend. Oh yeah, i am going to move forward in life and try and meet new women and try and get in their knickers. What i want to know is does anyone reckon we have a chance in the future. Well that seems like it went well and that you have your wits about you. As for chance in the future...the truth is...anything is possible in life, but are they probable? None of us can tell...not even you and her sometimes. There is no reason why it would be impossible...but we don't know where life takes us etc soo who can say for sure?
huck Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 Hi Skreen - dont worry i got the british humour straight away about getting in other girls knicks..!! From your other replys on this thread I think you realise that you and your ex both want different things... Deffo dont do the friends thing - it will cut you up.. Time to move on probably??
Author skreen23 Posted August 4, 2009 Author Posted August 4, 2009 Argh, i'm not british, i'm irish. Those damn brits stole our cabbages and women. They can keep the women but i want those cabbages back. I think the best thing here is just move on with my life and what will be will be. I love the girl but there ain't no way i'm chasing after her. I got the impression shes confused and doesn't know what she wants today (like all women). A friend of mine was going out with someone, she broke off with him. He told her where to go and in the mean time went out with 2 other girls. Months later, out of the blue she came back chasing him. Now they're back together. Really surprised him. God knows what will happen in the future but one thing i know for sure, i'm not british (thank god).
huck Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 Haha - was originally going to say english humour but thought id make you feel wanted. I dont like Irish people anyway Good luck with your probs dude - chin up.. Huck..
MrFun Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 I thought the thing bout the knickers was right on the money. Maybe there's a bit of Irish in me afterall
Author skreen23 Posted August 4, 2009 Author Posted August 4, 2009 Hmmm, intersting. Thanks for the advice and the support. Just so you know i have several aunts, uncles, cousins, friends who are British. As far as i know British isn't a race but a political union of 4 countries (England, Wales, Scotland and Ireland). after the act of union in the mid 19th century. Now ireland had a war of independence and 26 counties broke off and formed the republic while the north (6 counties) remained in the UK or britain. Due to historical reason Ireland and Britain has had strained relations over 800 years, a couple of wars, religious persecution, terrorism, etc but thankfully relations have improved 100 fold since the peace process. I am off a generation of Irish who have a limited interst in the past and hold no grudges or spite to my nearest neighbour Britain and have a lot of relations in that country. But you're amazing the way you can judge my character in just a few paragraphs i posted. Just so you know i have Irish, english, scottish, protestant, hindu, muslim, black, gay friends and i try my best to judge people by their actions and not what they post on a internet forum. Anyway those brits still have'nt returned our cabbages!
Thornton Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 You can debate semantics and try to wriggle out of it all you like, but you still made an unacceptably racist comment. Sorry, but the excuse about having British friends just doesn't wash - for example I have Pakistani friends but that doesn't give me the right to go around saying "thank god I'm not a Paki". You really need an attitude adjustment.
Author skreen23 Posted August 4, 2009 Author Posted August 4, 2009 God god man, you don't know me from adam. 1. Britain is a country that contains people from England, Ireland, Wales, Scotland, Pakistan, Mauritaus, Peru, India, France, Lituania, Poland, Russia, Morroco, Nambia, Nigeria, Vietnam, China, Jamica, Brazil, US, Canada, Argentina, Narnia, Hobbiton, Kronos, New Zealand, Thailand, etc. etc. all who have British citizenry because of that country's multi-cultural view on emigration at the moment. British is not a race, english, welsh, scottish or irish is a race. But to be honest thats crap as well as these "races" are just a mix of angles, saxons, celts, norse, norman, spanish and god knows what else. 2. My father was british, even though he'd dispute that himself as he was a nationalist form the six counties, but technically he was born in the uk. 3. i was joking about "thank god i'm not british", i couldn't give a rats hole where i was born by some accident of fate. Thornton, man, you don't have a clue who i am, or my views. You have no idea about the stupid political situation in my country or my neighbouring country. You don't know what its like seeing your uncle being beating up by british soldiers at a checkpoint when you're a kid. Or how humiliating it is to see your ma being strip searched by british soldiers. You've no idea what its like the shame you feel when you're visiting your english relations and you hear on the news about a bomb killing english civilians in london planted by your country men. You've no idea how fed up you get hearing peole bring up the same stupid history lessons on how ireland was frigged over by the brits. You've no idea what its like visting you granny in the north during marching season afraid to leave the house. I got my morals from my father, he had relations murdered by both the british army and the ira. He held no grudges and took everyone he met at face value. He saw a young british soldier dead in his back garden blown to bits by a bomb his brother in law planted. My father's uncle was tortured to death by the ira. How dare you call me a bigot. I am sick to death of listening to all this "the brits did this, the brits did that" i have no interest. You have no idea who i am, what i do, how i feel, how dare you judge me. I have no ill feeling to any english person i ever met. Its not there fault their government made awful mistakes in my country. I still want those cabbages back though.
Taucher Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 Argh, i'm not british, i'm irish. Those damn brits stole our cabbages and women. They can keep the women but i want those cabbages back. I think the best thing here is just move on with my life and what will be will be. I love the girl but there ain't no way i'm chasing after her. I got the impression shes confused and doesn't know what she wants today (like all women). A friend of mine was going out with someone, she broke off with him. He told her where to go and in the mean time went out with 2 other girls. Months later, out of the blue she came back chasing him. Now they're back together. Really surprised him. God knows what will happen in the future but one thing i know for sure, i'm not british (thank god). As an English (British? Pah!) man through and through, I have to say that I am deeply DEEPLY offended by your comments. Because of this, I am not going to repatriate the cabbage, that is in my fridge, back to Ireland. It's a REALLY nice cabbage too. As far as your situation with the ex is concerned Skreen23, I think that you need to pull back a bit. It's been 3 and a half months? You might get back together, you might not. I dont think that your actions can influence this much right now. But being aloof and NC might help a bit?
Narf Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 G'day haha im an Aussie but i was wondering if you would mind sending some of those cabbages my way... They sound lovely...I'd steal them myself if you werent so far away... As a side note. You can send a few of your lads too your accents are awesome... And to the person up there, who totally missed the joke.. Stop taking life so seriously! As for the girl Friend ... You never know but at this stage if she was saying the friends thing alot.. I would guess she doesnt want to lose you but right now she does not want a relationship and it will only mess with your head... Go LC or NC and try to distance yourself a bit, otherwise you might go a little crazy like me...
hopesndreams Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 A funny thread, I chuckled throughout. Too bad about the reason you posted though skreen, but hey, that is why you're here and maybe I can help. My H of 10 years has been stringing me along as well. Going on 4 months now. (he's English) I'm Scottish btw, not Scotch, I'm not a Whisky, and I enjoy cabbage rolls even though I have no German blood in me, or are they Polish? Do yourself a huge favour ok? When she next calls you to go for that coffee, just ask her this before having any further conversation. "Are you wanting to get back together?" and if she says she is still trying to stand on her own two feet, blah, blah, blah and wants to be friends, then just tell her straight that friendship is not an option for you and she can only get in touch with you again if she wants to get back together. Then end the conversation and the contact. Go strict NC with her, the LC will only frustrate you and in the end, she will get what she wants. She wants to wean herself off you and when she is completely over you, she will no longer want to be your friend. She will then never have to experience any pain from the break-up and you will still be hurting. You need to take the control away from her. To go strict NC might snap her out of it and get her to doubt her decision on ending it with you. You must get her to miss you and wonder what you are up to. This does not and will not happen with LC. If she doesn't come back, NC gives you the chance to break free from her and find someone worthy to have that gaggle of kids with.
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