Juno Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 ...what a jerk off. He told me a month after we broke up he started seeing some one else, but still missed me. I was hurt and confused but kept my distance. Then a few weeks later he said he wanted me to join him on his vacation. I asked him if he was still seeing the other girl and he replied "I didn't ask her to join me on vacation, I'm asking you". I guess he wanted me to make some kind of assumption based on his statment. He contacted me all the time saying how he is not looking for anyone else because he is only looking for me. I was leary, and never brought up the vacation thing, but still communicated with him. I haven't heard anything from him two days before his vacation. I assumed he was busy packing and preparing for his trip. Then a day into his vacation he texts me and says "You are not here...oh well, the fantasy was fun while it lasted in my mind". It became clear to me his intentions, but to confirm I replied, "Could live out another fantasy when you return". He writes back, "Not the same I fear". WTH, so I go on to say "you only wanted to be with me while on vacation? Are you planning on seeing me when you return?" Here's the kicker...he writes, "not sure now if I will see you when I return, really wish you were here, would have been so special...bye." I have not heard from him since and he's has been back from vacation for a couple of weeks now. I texted him once, but no reply. My conclusion is he just wanted a fling with me away from home to keep clear of his girlfriend finding out. He never made his status clear, as a matter of fact he lead me to believe he wanted us to work things out. Besides him being a total jerk, what do you make of his behavior? Is he just pissed off that I didn't go on vac with him, did he just want a fling, or is this something else?
boogieboy Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 Yep, he just wanted a fling. He would have been in touch with you more often if he wanted to talk to you and be with Juno the person. When he has to be way too cryptic with his words, hes an ass. Ignore him.
mickleb Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 I think your insticts are keen. He sounds like a complete tw*t. The short reply is that you are worth so much more. So sorry you were treated like this. Take care x
Author Juno Posted August 4, 2009 Author Posted August 4, 2009 I am so pissed about this. I mean he poured on the charm so heavy. Contacted me almost everyday for a month up until two days before he went on vacation. Now nothing. I am so tempted to write him an e-mail to let him know what an a** wipe he is. I guess I should count my lucky stars I didn't go away with him because he would have probably treated me the same and disappeared once we returned. I will never understand how someone can be so hot, then cold. And why me? Once he knew I wasn't going to go, he could have moved on to the next victim instead of pursuing me for a month. I am trying my hardest not to let on to him how angry I am. He seems to feed off of me reacting to his crazy a** behavior, but I really want to rip into him something fierce.
Taucher Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 Juno, maintain a dignified silence. Dont email him, dont rip into him. It's probably what he wants, and as soon as you do what he wants, the power shifts back to him. Take care T
Author Juno Posted August 5, 2009 Author Posted August 5, 2009 Juno, maintain a dignified silence. Dont email him, dont rip into him. It's probably what he wants, and as soon as you do what he wants, the power shifts back to him. Take care T Thanks for the advice. You are probably correct. But I feel the power has already shifted back to him. I am so angry I can't see or think straight. I will chant "maintain dignified silence" throughout the day.
Taucher Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 Thanks for the advice. You are probably correct. But I feel the power has already shifted back to him. I am so angry I can't see or think straight. I will chant "maintain dignified silence" throughout the day. Yes you are right, he DOES have most of the power in this. But you can get some back, and some self-esteem too. I am maintaining a dignified silence to my ex, and I feel...dignified. Which is better than feeling stupid or guilty or anything else I might feel in my situation. I will chant it too T
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