yn249572 Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 it's a long story but i will make it short, briefly my ex bf and i broke up cuz i was abroad and ignored him a lot those days, it's about 8 months ago, we went out for 2 years and lived together for 1 year before we broke up. but it was an impulse decision so i was pretty shocked to know my ex took it seriously and he started going out with another girl who looks like me not even 2 weeks after we broke up. Anyway i came back to the city and pretty sad, and it's been 8 months, i still didnt over him, so i initiate no contact for 1 month and half, recently i feel like i finally moved on. He recently called me a lot and 2 days ago he came over to my place and he finally opened up himself to me, told me he couldnt sleep well for the past 8 months and dreamed about me 2 or 3 times every week, now i know he feel as sad as me. But he's still with the other girl, but he told me they are not that close, not even close to us at all. he miss me everyday. but he doesnt know what to do with his current gf cuz she's a nice girl, so he doesnt wanna just break up. I told him no pressure, just figure out what he wants and i will not get in his way before he figure out what he wants. but i really love him still, i would love to get back with him, especially know he's still love me, but with that girl in the way, what should i do now? and he said during the mean time he wish we can hang out more often and wish i do not act weird or anything, i know i have to control my mood and do not pressure him anything, but should i really just leave him alone till he contact me again? any advice?I feel he messed up with my emotion again...
lizzy_09 Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 You should have told him that he should examine where he really is happy. One way or the other, he'll end up hurting her as well. If he has genuine feelings for you, then he should tell his GF that he never really have gotten over you and that it would be best for both parties to end their relationship. They'll just both make each other miserable. She may hate your former BF now, though, sooner or later his GF will realize it was never meant to be. I've always find it better to heal ones feelings first before getting involved with another or I'll be comparing everything the guy does with my ex. The truth hurts. But it can also be a blessing in disguise. Think about it.
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