brock9911 Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 since my breakup, iv tried every way possible to avoid thinking about my ex, especially when i try to sleep. im sick and tired of having to rely on drinking, smoking or taking medication to sleep. ill go out with friends and drink a bit...well a bit turns to alot. or chill at a friends and smoke than go home. or if nothing is going on ill take sleeping medication because i have insomnia. last night i tried to sleep all natural, but it was a failure again. i keep trying but i always resort back to my medication. i went and worked out and ran for 3 hours yesterday. i than came home, took a nice hot shower. had a bite to eat than laid down at about 830. i was exhausted but i tossed and turned till about 11. i than cut ,y normal dose in half so i wouldnt feel hung over in the morning. (my medication is strong sh*t). in the process of trying to sleep, i COULD NOT stop thinking of my ex. my mind was running and i couldnt stop it. thinking of her, and having someone by you. holding them in your sleep. and than the anger of knowing i was holding her, not knowing she was cheating behind my back. all the emotions literaly erupting as im trying to relax and sleep. it absolutley sux!!!! does anyone have insomnia especially now after a breakup?
adamt Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 I have started reading books. Read before going to bed as it will take your mind off the ex and she wont be the last thing on your mind. If you are struggling to get to sleep or wake up at a weird time then just start reading the book.
caramel c Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 Try melatonin until you get into a regular pattern. It's not like other sleeping aids. Your body naturally produces melatonin and you can buy it as a supplement from a health food store or vitamin store. Many people use it while traveling because of the change in time zones.
Author brock9911 Posted August 4, 2009 Author Posted August 4, 2009 ill try reading, even though i suck at comprehenshion. and with the melatonin, how do you take it, b4 bed or earlier in the day so it works into your system for a natural sleep
adamt Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 I'm not a great reader of books, but it helps to take your mind of the ex and you have somethign else to think about. Think what interests you and try to pick a book along a similar theme. it helps because you arent thinking about the ex as much just before goign to sleep. How long have you been broke up? I've been 2 months and only know does my sleeping pattern seem to be returning to normality. before that i was waking up at 5:30 and 6am. i tried to keep of the booze as i dont think that helps in the long term. At some point your mind has to deal with it on its own. Rather than fight not being able to sleep, get up make use of the time and do something round the house. Then you might feel tired once your mind is a bit more relaxed
caramel c Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 ill try reading, even though i suck at comprehenshion. and with the melatonin, how do you take it, b4 bed or earlier in the day so it works into your system for a natural sleep You take it about one hour before bedtime. You don't just pass out like you do with a regular sleeping aid. You start to feel tired, then once you lay down you should fall right asleep. There are different dosages available but I think 1mg is all you need, and you can find a bottle of 1mg pills. Some of them go up to 4mg so just look at it before you buy.
Author brock9911 Posted August 4, 2009 Author Posted August 4, 2009 Well im big into sports, i'll try to find some books in that field. we've been broken up for about 2 1/2 months. but in that time, the 1 year anniversary of my fathers death passed, my birthday, which she contacted me. and her birthday. and in a couple of weeks would have been our 8 year anniversary, so my mind has been a little busy. the drinking..... yeah well my family has a long history of alcoholism, and i had the whole attitude that it wouldnt happen to me. im bigger and stronger than that. next thing you know, im out all the time with friends drinking. im making a stong effort to keep the drinking to a low. but its not easy when every friend you have likes to drink, and none of your friends have real jobs. also, i was trying to occupy my time with friends to keep her off my mind, but when im with them, of coarse they drink. iv been keeping myself active with handball, hockey and running. so im going to try to focus more on that to keep my mind off of the boo's, and her
adamt Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 Reading autobiographies of sportmen might be a good thing to start on. yeah, i joined the gym 6 weeks ago. never done it before and i'm 38. I'm getting fitter and in better shape. Starting to go out on my bike with friends. I've had this mountain bike for years and hardly ever went out the garage. I fancy doing more camping too.Way i see it is a new era and a chance to do new things. its all good for the confidence and rebuild. i do like my booze but i've kept that to a minimum to one night a week. I can see how easy it is to slip into it because it makes you feel better. But its only a temporary problem solver. You get a happy from it but then the feelings come back and you are more depressed. I learn what to keep away from that makes me feel worse and focus on things that give me a buzz afterwards if i had more time i would do some charity work to help people. That will make you feel better
Author brock9911 Posted August 4, 2009 Author Posted August 4, 2009 ill look for the melatonin. actually i have a vitamin shop next door to my job so ill go during lunch. yeah iv been traveling a good amount. nothing crazy or out of the country. but doign weekend visits to different cities around the us. pennsylvania twice, boston this weekend. chicago in 2 weekes, and vegas on labor day weekend. i want to make a california trip soon, but a full length vacation not a weekend trip. i like to site see. boozing can deff cause problems, and it makes the work day hard when your hung over. and im spending soooooo much money at bars its not funny. so my half year resolution is to excesively cut back.
adamt Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 I've spent a lot of weekends visiting old friends and family, but i know that cant go on forever. I realise i've got to get back to normality and hit this thing full on and get it under control. Then keep it safely locked away in its box and throw away the key. Then begin to look for some nicer boxes to look in Hows things goingwith your job? First 2-3 weeks i couldnt concentrate, surprised my boss never said soemthing. I work with computers and it was a nightmare.
Author brock9911 Posted August 4, 2009 Author Posted August 4, 2009 yeah, the whole box thing sounds like a sexual remark haha. work isnt to bad. im actually really good at it and my boss was getting pissed. in the beginning he didnt say anything because he knew what i was going through. but as things progressively got worse he would make remarks. so thats why iv been good and im working on keeping it that way with the whole drinking and breakup thing. but i also work on computers. im a draftsman supervisor, but one of my draftsman is got injured somehow and cant come in. so thats another reaason why i need to be on my game. in recent weeks with my growth in production, my boss has been complimenting me on how iv been handling everything, so thats alway a nice pat on the back
Sbrizio Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 Sport is always a good idea...it makes you tired physically and it helps uncharging your emotional stress... i try to practice swimming and weight lifting (alternating between the two)... the problem is that sometimes i just don't have enough concentration or rage...and i just would say, "who cares?" and live the pool/gym (this always happens when i think that my ex wasn't at all a sporty person..i feel like i'm doing something not important in her mind..crazy!) As for reading, this could be really good, if you choice properly. I find that in this stage i can't stand anything too complex (my mind would drift to her) or too funny (it would distract me until i close it and then i would find myself back in the grief)...what works best for me are things like Hemingway's books... stories of hunt, or war or travels.. Unfortunately my ex was a passionate reader and we spent quite some time on books... i have several books at my place reminding me of her ...
BeSteady Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 Walk, Run, Bike, Lift, move until you can move anymore, and then do it again the next day, and continue it for 6 weeks and you will sleep and feel 100% better. Exercise - Nature's Prozac, sleeping pill, and diet drug all rolled into one.
love_fool Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 How about 5-HTP tablets? You can get this at health food stores.. and I don't think it's as harmful as actual sleeping meds.
Author brock9911 Posted August 5, 2009 Author Posted August 5, 2009 yeah i played handball for about 2 hours last night (for those of you who dont know what handball is, its racquetball but using your hands instead, and it only has 1 wall. created in N.Y.) than i went home, jumped in the pool and than went and played hockey in a rink that was 110 degrees with humidity because there to cheap to get a.c. well needless to say, i came home, took a warm shower and it still took me till 130 am to fall asleep. i got home at 1130 ugh this was all mainly because i heard a few songs that belonged to me and my ex and once again my mind was racing
PinkToes Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 If your mind is racing when you're trying to sleep, you might try keeping a TV on in the background. Sometimes it can take just enough concentration to derail your own thoughts. Also for me, exercising too close to bedtime can be its own nightmare. I've been up half the night after a late soccer game. Sweet dreams!
Soul Bear Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 How to naturally sleep ... Organic hemp paper, naturally grown smoke, and some oganic tobacco with noadditives. 100%natural
adamt Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 a few years ago when i was stressed out in a job i would put the radio on to help me get to sleep. Basically, you need to occupy your mind in the last 30-60 minutes before going to sleep to help you stop thinking about the ex.
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