messiah Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 hello people, there is a girl that takes the same papers as me at University. I have introduced myself and we talk and sit next to each other in class. I have been meaning to ask for her number so we can go do some study together or grab a drink. But everytime Im about to ask something stops me. For instance today she stayed after class to talk to our tutor. I was going to hang around and wait for her outside but that might have looked creepy and desperate since I hardly know her. So I just left without her, so i just want to know peoples opinions on weather there is a time limit on these sorts of things, is it best to ask for her number straight away? or does it not really matter. Im sure if I wait too long she will think im not interested and ill be friendzoned!
Author messiah Posted August 4, 2009 Author Posted August 4, 2009 yea I know that. haha sometimes I just wished she mentioned that she has a bf so it would ease the pressure off me! but she hasnt mentioned anything of the sort. it just kills me that i dont know these things!
caramel c Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 yea I know that. haha sometimes I just wished she mentioned that she has a bf so it would ease the pressure off me! but she hasnt mentioned anything of the sort. it just kills me that i dont know these things! Just do it asap. Even if she has a boyfriend then at least you asked and you know. The worst that can happen is that she gives some excuse as to why she's not interested. So what? Take it from me, I have never looked down on a guy or felt bad for him in any way after saying no to a date. I always think to myself, good for him for asking, and also I'm flattered. The worst of it is not so bad because you still get to be the guy that complimented her.
utterer of lies Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 yea I know that. haha sometimes I just wished she mentioned that she has a bf so it would ease the pressure off me! but she hasnt mentioned anything of the sort. it just kills me that i dont know these things! Who cares if she has a bf. Ask her out, and you'll find out soon enough. Better than wasting time on the internet because you're too scared.
Author messiah Posted August 4, 2009 Author Posted August 4, 2009 haha believe me I am not scared, just feel really content about the whole thing, deciding on whether I should bother or not with her. I guess I would like to because she is pretty damn hot! even if she does have a bf it will be nice to have study buddy! or maybe create some dramas between them
caramel c Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 haha believe me I am not scared, just feel really content about the whole thing, deciding on whether I should bother or not with her. I guess I would like to because she is pretty damn hot! even if she does have a bf it will be nice to have study buddy! or maybe create some dramas between them oh no you don't!! lol, just ask her, and then come back & tell us what happened. Do it today!!
utterer of lies Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 haha believe me I am not scared, just feel really content about the whole thing, deciding on whether I should bother or not with her. I guess I would like to because she is pretty damn hot! even if she does have a bf it will be nice to have study buddy! or maybe create some dramas between them Then why are you posting here, instead of either enjoying the date with her or writing long, sad diatribes in the coping forum?
Author messiah Posted August 4, 2009 Author Posted August 4, 2009 haha well hopefully she turns up to class today! if not, then it will have to wait till next tuesday but I will definately ask.
caramel c Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 haha well hopefully she turns up to class today! if not, then it will have to wait till next tuesday but I will definately ask. She will show up for class so don't even think of lying to us! lol
Author messiah Posted September 16, 2009 Author Posted September 16, 2009 Bit of an update. I finally asked for her number and she seemed really keen to give it as if she was waiting for me to ask. She even said "funny that, I been talking to my flat mate about how I should ask for your number without sounding so wierd, She was like just ask him!" so it makes me feel really good that she wanted to ask for my number as well but was too shy to do so. Havent texted her yet or anything. I just hope she knows my intentions because I am interested in her.
Author messiah Posted September 17, 2009 Author Posted September 17, 2009 So i txted her asking her what she has planned for tomorrow night. She didnt txt me back, but she sent me a facebook message the next day saying: "hey, i got your text last night but i dont have any credit to txt you back! ill top up in the next few days and get back to ya but now you've got my facebook so all good. hope your having a good day" dont kno what to make of this! or if i should make anything of it. Thoughts and opinons greatly appreciated. I guess I will just wait for her to get back to me.
Thaddeus Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 She's probably simply telling you the truth, there's nothing really to "make" anything of. I think she'll likely get back to you once she's got more cell credits. Sounds like things are progressing nicely! Congrats!
caramel c Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 hello people, there is a girl that takes the same papers as me at University. I have introduced myself and we talk and sit next to each other in class. I have been meaning to ask for her number so we can go do some study together or grab a drink. But everytime Im about to ask something stops me. For instance today she stayed after class to talk to our tutor. I was going to hang around and wait for her outside but that might have looked creepy and desperate since I hardly know her. So I just left without her, so i just want to know peoples opinions on weather there is a time limit on these sorts of things, is it best to ask for her number straight away? or does it not really matter. Im sure if I wait too long she will think im not interested and ill be friendzoned! I suggest asking her right away, as soon as you engage in the next conversation with her. Start talking, and then ask if she's interested in doing _______ with you, if she says yes, get her number.
caramel c Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 lol, looking back I already replied to this thread
Marks Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 Now here is the most important part of my advice, at the end of your time with her that night or some time before kiss her. You have to kiss her! Then there will be no doubts, even if she dodges your kiss she will still know your intentions clearly and if she agrees to go out with you again then you just try kissing her again, and if not then at least you took a shot. Remember you have to risk losing a girl in order to gain her affections. So you're saying that on any first date, you should always go for the kiss? I've always wondered whether this is proper and something girls expect. I don't have much experience in this. And on a side note, what do you guys think about a guy texting with a girl? Good/Bad? I've always shied away from texting with girls because it always seemed to me that they would think I'm too scared to just talk to them over the phone. But then again, I always see girls texting, though I'm assuming it's with other girls.
Author messiah Posted September 18, 2009 Author Posted September 18, 2009 I believe that it is up to the guy to make the first move and just go in for a kiss. That way you will know right then and there how she feels towards you. If she kisses you back then sweet! if not, then you can move on to someone else. I guess its all about reading the signs tho, you can tell if there is some attraction and if you can see it then do it. There is nothing worse when a girl is showing all the signs that she is not interested and at the end of the date the guy goes in for a kiss! haha. Its not too hard to tell if she is into you or not. I think its fine txting girls too and im sure they dont mind contacting through txt because it is the 21st century! Well im gona take my own advice and definately make the first move and kiss her on our first date! lifes too short to be thinking what ifs and this and that so just do it!
Author messiah Posted September 23, 2009 Author Posted September 23, 2009 Bit of an update here people, how ironic the way in which this thread as concluded itself. I asked her out for a drink, she said "I wished you had asked me earlier because I am seeing someone now, so I have to say no" I am really really really kicking myself over this for two reasons: 1. It has literally taken me 10 weeks to pick up my balls and ask for her number and ask for a date. 2. If I had asked earlier, lets say at the start of the trimester when I first introduced myself then she would definately be my girl at this very instant because she only just started seeing this guy for about a month. These two reasons compound to the notion that I have no one else but me to blame. I have never really noticed how **** I feel when there really is no one else to blame but yourself! To answer the original question of the thread which was "is there a time limit in asking for a date?" the answer is ironically "yes" all you guys please adhere to this and know that, time really is of the essence. If something is good, then you must take it and do not wait around because time waits for no man. Especially a woman's time. Well I did learn a lot from my own stupidity. Guys do not be fooled into thinking that a woman will wait around for you because most likely she will not. Show your interest and take it!
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