ana_etheridge Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 I started dating my boyfriend a few months ago, I really love him we're so similar. We were best friends for a fair while before and while i was still with my ex he told me that he was in love with me. I was happy coz I knew I loved him too but I was still with my ex and I didn't want to break up with him coz he had a lot of issues and I didn't want to hurt him. I eventually broke up with my ex and started to date my now boyfriend. We were really happy together because we liked everything the same and we both have the same personalities. That was good most of the time but coz we were so similar we fought a lot too and we're both really stubborn so neither of us will admit we're wrong or just give in. We had been fighting a lot, like nearly every day for a few weeks and then the other night something quite traumatic happened to me and I tried to tell him but it was at about 5:30 in the morning and he'd just woken up so he wasn't really understanding me. All he said was "we have to talk in the morning" and that he was crashing. Naturally I was really upset but I had other stuff to deal with at the time. The next day things had sorted themselves out with the traumatic thing that happened but i was still really shaken and crying on and off. I didn't get a message from him, though I'm not sure if he even remembered texting me the other night because he was half asleep. When I did it was when i was on a train home with little to no reception. He messaged me with "I want a break" I pretty much flipped and lost it on the train with all the crap that had happened earlier. I just said to him that we should just be friends, i didn't even think before I sent it coz I was just so screwed. I was out of my mind but trying to keep it together coz i was home with my parents and I didn't want them to see me how I really was. But that night it kinda hit me with what I'd done. Although he was a jerk about the whole thing that happened to me and we'd been fighting a lot I still love him and i definatly didn't want to break up with him and I tried explaining that to him but he's so angry and upset and he won't listen to me when I try to explain. When I asked him about the break he said that he didn't want a real break just a weekend appart so he could stop stressing about us and hopefully stop us fighting, but with previous experience all i thought a break meant was a temporary break up where he could go off with other chicks. He'd already thought it through and cancelled his plans for the weekend that he'd had for 3 months with his friends so that he could have alone time to think about us and sort out everything but me being insane at the time didn't consider that he could've meant anything else... I tried to explain everything but he's so upset and hurt and I don't know what to do coz I really love him and I want to be with him but I don't know how to get him to forgive me... please give me some help... I really need it.
Mimsicles Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 I feel for you i really do, i am in a similar situation. Me and my bf were together 2 yrs and he's decided he wants a break. I know its hard but try not to contact him. I think he may possibly need some alone time, and if you contact him it will push him further away. I know its hard i contacted my boyfriend today, i know i shouldnt have and feel worse for doing it. If he realises that he misses you he will contact you. Otherwise be strong and accept things dont work out the way you want some times. Remember, No man is worth your tears, and they one that is, won't make you cry.
Author ana_etheridge Posted August 5, 2009 Author Posted August 5, 2009 Hey, Thanks for the Advice, it was really good, I told him I'll leave him alone and to please think about getting back together and to talk to me when he's ready and not so angry and to tell me whether he's willing to give us another try. I just hope he will, I told him why and that I'm sorry but he's really upset and angry... If anyone else wants to give me some advice to it'd be really good
adamt Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 I hope things work out for you but when one person asks for a break it is really to see how they manage without you around. In most cases it will lead to a permanent break up. All you can do his respect his wishes and give him space he needs. leave him be and keep yourself busy. If he sees you are coping ok without him he may want to work things out.
Author ana_etheridge Posted August 5, 2009 Author Posted August 5, 2009 I'm not sure what we're on at the moment, I don't think it's a break or a break up, we're officially 'broken up' I guess but we aren't completely over... The whole thing is screwed -.- I hate it
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