Kitkat2 Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 Hi I need advice and can't really ask the people around me.... I met two friends of my borther in law about 18 months ago. When I was introduced to John and Paul, I didn't think much of either of them. We started talking and John and I were mostly having the discussion, with Paul sitting next to John. As Paul hardly said anything, I hadn't really thought much of him, however whilst I was talking to John, mine and Paul's eyes met a few times. At the time, I wondered why he was looking at me, but his gaze actually caught my attention and my interest in him at that point seriously developed. I thought "this guy is cute, good looking, wouldn't say no to him"... Over the past 18 months, I have seen him again at different parties and events and we've always said "hello" to each other, and the eye catching across the room has reoccured, however our conversation has never been further than "hello" simply because he is always with his mates (4 boyish boys) and seems to feel better just staying there. My fondness of this guy has seriously developed over the past couple of months and I just can't stop thinking about him, but my problem is this: Does he actually like me? I do have a rather low self esteem, but being 33 and him 30, I keep thinking he can't want anything with me because 1) he's younger than me and parties all the time, most nights and goes on partying holidays, whereas I am settled and have done all that. I am telling myself he's not ready to "settle" down 2) I have a 5 year old daughter and same as above, he's too young to want to accept that, but would rather have a girl that's his age with no ties 3) Why would he fancy me when all the girls on this planet are more beautiful than I am, he might me embarrassed introducing me to his friends 4) Say he would possibly be interested, how do I do this as I won't see him now until November at least?? My sister and brother in law do know I find him attractive but they don't know that I can't stop thinking about the guy and in the past when I have shown remote interest in him, both of them have just said "forget it, he's too young etc....", maybe they are just telling me nicely, "forget it he's not interested"........ I am sorry I have written such a long message, but I don't know what to do anymore, or just can't evaluate his interest in me....I can't work as my mind is on him all the time...... Thanks for any advice xxx
boogieboy Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 Youre looking too much into it. He sees you, but i guess hes not interested enough to say anything. He might not know that your settled down with a 5 year old. But you wont find out if he knows about you till you say something. You can either find out if he likes you by going up to him and taking a chance or keep looking at him from afar for the rest of your days. You already see the situation not working out because hes party guy and youre settled, are you prepared to deal with that eventual situation? Maybe he does want to setlle down.
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