Fun with the L-word: when he doesn't say it back.

[Hkizzle]

Yes. Some do.

 

One couple I know of got married 3 weeks after they met. They just shared their 40th wedding anniversary.

 

It happens.

 

It depends on the individuals involved (as it is with every single relationship on the planet).

There just are no hard fast rules when it comes to falling in love.

 

There are no hard rules. But there are general rules that apply to large percentages of men or women.

 

Back to the OP, you really feel for your guy so in a way subconsciously pushing him to say I love you back. When he first said it he was most probably saying it just to please you, because you wanted to hear it. If you read what you wrote you were saying it to him and in a way giving subtle pressure for him to say it back.

 

You also moved into his place then had a fight which made him realize the negatives of living with someone, that he had his own space before and now there's potential for conflict.

 

Just slow it down. Even if you're head over heels for him it doesn't mean he has to feel for you at exactly the same pace, since different people respond differently.

 

You going to really send me cookies? I live in Asia.

[Athena]

You going to really send me cookies? I live in Asia.

 

why yes, the mail Does Go to Asia!

[Athena]

 

Guys don't develop deep feelings in such short time, maybe some liking.

 

I agree. This is a red flag for a guy with commitment phobia issues, because THEY are the ones to push hard in the beginning, gauge your reaction, then pull back.

[Athena]

But if you actually love someone, how can you not bring yourself to say it back? I mean, even when I was angriest at my ex and wanted him to die, if he told me he loved me, I couldn't help but say it back!

 

I think guys are different... he wouldn't say it back unless he felt overwhelmed to say it, and certainly wouldn't say it to you if he felt you were Expecting him to say it!

 

Just chill, take care of yourself, and things will fall back into place if you had something there. No use worrying about it.

[Fay]

Thanks all.

 

Surely enough, in traditional cat-and-mouse style, he's gotten progressively sweeter over the last day, practically begging me several times to go stay with him again (because "it's better than staying on a friend's couch") and ending our last phone convo with "Bye, mi amor" (means "my love" in Spanish - he doesn't speak Spanish but knows that one, lol). I told him absolutely not, I won't sleep over his place until the weekend because I need to get out of his space.

 

Why can't we just give what we receive and be done with it? If/when he decides to take the plunge I'll take it with him. No questions asked. I hate games.

[Fay]

So he finally said it last night. But in the context of a "conversation".

 

"I love you too, but you know I just got out of a really bad relationship and I'm still sore about it," his self-esteem is shot, in the back of his mind he's scared to get hurt again, that's why he's a little guarded, etc.

 

 

(The girl cheated on him, lied constantly, and emotionally abused him for over a year... I guess that's what he gets for dating a badly damaged 19-year-old. They'd broken up maybe a week or two before I met him.)

 

Red flag? Maybe. I'm not stupid; I know the deal. I've read/heard all the pop psychology pertaining to this. But I can't help but hope that it's the real deal, because he is truly the one I've been waiting for.

 

Besides, I can't talk because I started seeing him two days after my ex left me for a girl he'd never met in person. But that wasn't a huge deal; I'd never been in love with that one, we'd only been together two months, and though he had a douche-y personality, he'd never caused me any grief. It was a pretty clean cut.

 

Anyway, this morning in a cheerful phone convo with A, I said to him out of nowhere, "So last night you basically flat-out told me that your baggage prevents you from getting too close to me." He was like, "No, it's not like that. I'm just saying I'm still sore in general and that's why I seem guarded. I obviously want to be close to you - I wouldn't have even considered dating anyone, under these circumstances I'm in. You're the only one who could make me do it." Et cetera, and I say to him, "Just know that I'm never going to hurt you - my only goal is to make you happy 24/7 and I only have eyes for you. And even when we had that huge fight I still didn't break up with you. Obviously I'm not going anywhere." He said, "I'm not going anywhere either." Yadda yadda, and again he ends the conversation with "Bye, mi amor."

 

I just want it to be known - I want you all to be clear on this - that I love him with all my heart. The longer I'm with him and the more I get to know him, the stronger it grows. He is beautiful, and he doesn't even know it.

 

An aside: yesterday he shaved his face for me even though he has some shows coming up that he needs his goatee for. He says a bald face isn't metal. But he did it for me. And let me tell you, this man has the most GORGEOUS face, and when he shaves I can't stop staring at him.

 

Anyway, opinions are welcome. Thanks for listening.

[Birdy]

...bump...

[hoping2heal]

Are you still "being guarded" and having the atitude of "whatever, I'll just keep this to myself." For a love relationship to grow and strengthen, both parties must be vulnerable, you can work up to what level of vulnerability you each show in stages, but there can't be one vulnerable person, and the other hiding, or both hiding.

 

Why are you referring to him as "true cat-mouse-fashion", you're the one that's driving this behavior because you want to hold yourself inside of your head. I agree you are acting rather immature right now, do you thrive on drama? That's not an accusation, it's a question. I have a friend who had a very volative r/s for nearly 3 years. She did EVERY thing I could think of to make it dramatic, she always said "god I hate drama". But one day I told her point blank, no- you love drama and that's why you do everything in your power to cause it. If she would embrace that, she would figure out why she needs that and learn to even out some. You could do the same thing. I don't know if you thrive on drama or just appear to.

[Birdy]

Are you still "being guarded" and having the atitude of "whatever, I'll just keep this to myself." For a love relationship to grow and strengthen, both parties must be vulnerable, you can work up to what level of vulnerability you each show in stages, but there can't be one vulnerable person, and the other hiding, or both hiding.

 

Why are you referring to him as "true cat-mouse-fashion", you're the one that's driving this behavior because you want to hold yourself inside of your head.

 

(It's me)

 

Uh, notice from my last post that I'm being completely open and sincere with him now, so I don't know what you're talking about. In my last post, the only one talking about being guarded is him. Read it again.

[Ariadne]

"I love you too, but you know I just got out of a really bad relationship and I'm still sore about it," his self-esteem is shot, in the back of his mind he's scared to get hurt again, that's why he's a little guarded, etc.

 

Oh, oh, very predictable.

 

He still wants to see you and is setting the grounds for a FWB.

 

Well, I don't think you love this guy either so might as well.

[hoping2heal]

(It's me)

 

Uh, notice from my last post that I'm being completely open and sincere with him now, so I don't know what you're talking about. In my last post, the only one talking about being guarded is him. Read it again.

 

This is why I asked if you were STILL being that way. Also, here's a tip, he's being guarded because you gave him a reason to be, with all your behavior at the begining of the relationship. If your behavior has changed, then that's a step, but you need to realise it's going to take quite awhile for this guy to feel safe and secure with you again, so consistency is going to be key.

[Birdy]

Oh, oh, very predictable.

 

He still wants to see you and is setting the grounds for a FWB.

 

Well, I don't think you love this guy either so might as well.

 

........... :lmao:

 

Are you kidding me?

 

Are you feeling OK, Ariadne?

 

I guarantee you he is NOT "setting the grounds for a FWB". Dude, you are like the queen of negativity... no offense...

[Birdy]

This is why I asked if you were STILL being that way. Also, here's a tip, he's being guarded because you gave him a reason to be, with all your behavior at the begining of the relationship. If your behavior has changed, then that's a step, but you need to realise it's going to take quite awhile for this guy to feel safe and secure with you again, so consistency is going to be key.

 

I know, I know, that's why I'm trucking on... sigh...

[Ariadne]

........... :lmao:

 

Are you kidding me?

 

Are you feeling OK, Ariadne?

 

I guarantee you he is NOT "setting the grounds for a FWB". Dude, you are like the queen of negativity... no offense...

 

Well, before all this, the guy was professing undying love.

 

After this mess, the guy completely backed down and started giving her stories.

 

I imagined he'd still want to see her, but now he is putting up the wall.

[Birdy]

Well, before all this, the guy was professing undying love.

 

After this mess, the guy completely backed down and started giving her stories.

 

I imagined he'd still want to see her, but now he is putting up the wall.

 

(It's me)

 

He's backed up a little, yes, but he's still sweet and wonderful to me, makes an effort make me smile, and is overall being attentive. And he did tell me he loves me, so I at least know that's still there. I hurt him - I acted a little like his horrible ex during that huge fight, and surely that scared the bejesus out of him - and I have to deal with the consequences, of course, but he IS coming back around. I'm trying to do all the right things to win back his trust. And yes, I DO love him. Unequivocally. Don't go declaring doomsday just yet

[hoping2heal]

Well, before all this, the guy was professing undying love.

 

After this mess, the guy completely backed down and started giving her stories.

 

I imagined he'd still want to see her, but now he is putting up the wall.

 

Yeah, he was professing his undying love because it was safe to do that. He hadn't seen her pack herself up and leave with another man. (It doesn't matter that he's a PMF, he's still another man in guy's world). He also hadn't yet been through her closing herself off and deciding to keep all her feelings to herself. Now he's seen it, and he just wants to make sure her attempts to clean up her act are legitimate and he needs to feel safe before he can be completely unguarded with her. She showed him that at the time- letting his guard down wasn't safe at that time.

 

He's still interested or he wouldn't still be there after all that crap.

[Ariadne]

(It's me)

 

He's backed up a little, yes, but he's still sweet and wonderful to me, makes an effort make me smile, and is overall being attentive. And he did tell me he loves me

 

Ok then, good luck with this guy.

[vertical]

I see a big problem here is that everyone is voicing their opinion, and what they say sometimes is not what Fay/Birdy wants to hear.

 

The guy is still with you, so you have another chance. But like many have said he is very guarded and probably doesnt want to get hurt again. Yeah, again, because leaving with another guy probably hurt him a lot.

 

What would be wrong with telling him exactly what you have told us? Asking him the exact questions that you asked us?

[DSM-IV]

He says: "I just got out of a really bad relationship and I'm still sore about it,"

 

How the hell did you miss this? He jumped to such a deep level with you so he could escape the pain of his last relationship. He needed someone to say "I love you" to. That's why he said it after 2 weeks. (Come on, that's pretty psychotic). Love is not born in 2 weeks. This is so fake...

 

They'd broken up maybe a week or two before I met him.)

 

Further backs up my last point.. He hasn't even FELT the loss of this other girl. He jumped to you. Literally, you are his scape goat. He isn't a victim anymore, YOU are now.

 

I've read/heard all the pop psychology pertaining to this.

 

You need another lesson. BADLY.

 

Besides, I can't talk because I started seeing him two days after my ex left me for a girl he'd never met in person.

 

At this point I almost think this is a joke topic. Seriously.

 

 

 

"No, it's not like that. I'm just saying I'm still sore in general and that's why I seem guarded. I obviously want to be close to you - I wouldn't have even considered dating anyone, under these circumstances I'm in. You're the only one who could make me do it."

 

Lol hilarious. This guy is such a devious manipulator.

 

"Just know that I'm never going to hurt you - my only goal is to make you happy 24/7

 

Between the two of you, Dependent Personality Disorder is ringing CLEAR.

 

 

I just want it to be known - I want you all to be clear on this - that I love him with all my heart. The longer I'm with him and the more I get to know him, the stronger it grows. He is beautiful, and he doesn't even know it.

 

First off, how long have you known him again? Don't give me love at first sight, or any of that. It doesn't work like that. PERIOD. Lastly, of course he doesn't know he's beautiful. HE IS LOST AND DROWNING IN CONFUSION AND EMOTION FROM JUST GETTING OUT OF A RELATIONSHIP. His coping mechanism is to JUMP IN THE ARMS OF ANOTHER. If you weren't here for him, he would've found someone else. In fact I'm SO SURE OF THIS, that I promise you, right here, right now, that if you break up with him, he will have a new girl in a week if he at all can. I GUARANTEE THIS.

 

This is just so wrong on so many levels.

[hoping2heal]

How the hell did you miss this? He jumped to such a deep level with you so he could escape the pain of his last relationship. He needed someone to say "I love you" to. That's why he said it after 2 weeks. (Come on, that's pretty psychotic). Love is not born in 2 weeks. This is so fake...

 

 

 

Further backs up my last point.. He hasn't even FELT the loss of this other girl. He jumped to you. Literally, you are his scape goat. He isn't a victim anymore, he is going to ****ing DEVASTATE you.

 

 

 

You need another lesson. BADLY.

 

 

 

At this point I almost think this is a joke topic. Seriously.

 

 

 

 

 

Lol hilarious. This guy is such a devious manipulator.

 

 

 

Between the two of you, Dependent Personality Disorder is ringing CLEAR.

 

 

 

 

First off, how long have you known him again? Don't give me love at first sight, or any of that. It doesn't work like that. PERIOD. Lastly, of course he doesn't know he's beautiful. HE IS LOST AND DROWNING IN CONFUSION AND EMOTION FROM JUST GETTING OUT OF A RELATIONSHIP. His coping mechanism is to JUMP IN THE ARMS OF ANOTHER. If you weren't here for him, he would've found someone else. In fact I'm SO SURE OF THIS, that I promise you, right here, right now, that if you break up with him, he will have a new girl in a week if he at all can. I GUARANTEE THIS.

 

This is just so wrong on so many levels.

 

Oh snap, I never saw that he had just broken up with someone else a few weeks prior. Well what the hell. That's what I get, damn ADHD. DSM-IV, do you like that movie? The Tommyknockers?

 

Anyway, now that I have a clearer understanding (my own damn fault to begin with for not having one, sorry) What are either of you thinking? Why the hell would you EVER think it was a good idea to get involved with someone who's still hurting over someone else? We already know what he was thinking, but how did you never see how much nonsense this whole thing was?

[Ariadne]

he is very guarded and probably doesnt want to get hurt again.

leaving with another guy probably hurt him a lot.

 

No guy ever acts like that in a million years.

 

Guys when they are into a girl would justify "anything".

 

She can go to bed with this other guy and tell him, I went to bed with him because I was so mad at you, and it'll fly.

 

Btw, good luck Fay with the job search and the housing.

 

If I were you I'd try and strike a deal with this guy to pay him some money so you can live with him (since you'll be seeing him) and pay less rent.

[DSM-IV]

Why yes hoping, I do.

 

And I pray that she reads my post. This is twisted, going nowhere, and I promise within a 100% accuracy window, Fay, you are going to get your heart BROKEN the SECOND he starts dealing with the loss of the last girl.

 

He is using you, my God. And you are happy to be used, because you need someone. This is how you appear from a neutral viewpoint. I love you after 2 weeks, you BOTH just getting out of relationships?

 

This is just twisted. Whoever is the more intelligent of you two, should know so much better. Come on, seriously?...

[Birdy]

Please, don't refer to me as Fay/Birdy. My name is Fay. I just had to make this account because I retardedly made some overtly sexual post on the porn thread which apparently didn't sit too well with the mods, and now all my posts on that s/n have to get modded.

 

Anyway, look, tonight has sucked.

 

A, I'm sick of you looking at me with emptiness behind your eyes when they used to be filled with adoration. I'm sick of you pulling away from a kiss too soon when your lips used to linger on mine like you wanted to die in that embrace. You f*cking hurt me tonight and I don't know who to blame, if blame even really matters. I brought it up because I've been bottling up all these f*cking thoughts so long they're starting to drive me insane. You practically yelled at me that you were tired and didn't want to talk about it right now. But if I asked you at noon you'd do the f*cking same. It's all bullsh*t.

 

You're mad because of that angry poem I wrote you that night we fought. So THAT'S what this whole thing is about. You can't forget it and realize I was drunk and thinking you were kicking me out of your house and your life. You're not mature enough to judge my consistent actions before my words, words written in a one-shot fit of rage which I have apologized over and over again for.

 

I broke down and said to you, "The only thing I want in this world, the only thing that would make everything better, is if this magically disappeared. I can't take it anymore. The only thing I want is for you to grab me, take me in your arms, look me straight in the eye and tell me that you love me just as much as you did before. It's what I need to hear because I'm going insane. But I know it wouldn't be true." And you snapped, "No, it wouldn't!" And I said to you that when I see you there lying next to me and I'm frustrated because you're so close yet so far away, I get this nearly uncontrollable urge to grab you and pull you in and melt into you and end the bullsh*t once and for all. And you said, "That's the problem, you try too hard!!!" (DO YOU PEOPLE HEAR THAT? ALL OF YOU WHO SAY I'M INSINCERE AND ALOOF AND GUARDED AND BLAH BLAH BLAH? LOOK WHAT OPENNESS AND SINCERITY GET ME! I "TRY TOO HARD"!!!)

 

And afterward you had the GALL to tell me I shouldn't make assumptions about how you feel, and that I overanalyze things! People only say that when they don't want to be scrutinized! If I was "overanalyzing", you wouldn't have confirmed my entire analysis! Or what, do you want me to be blind??? I can see the way you feel in every gesture, every look, every kiss. You f*cked me and then when I went to kiss you after, you had to get up and do A, B and C. I wanted to cuddle, I wanted SOME F*CKING ROMANCE AFTER I JUST MADE LOVE TO YOU. You verbally confirmed my "overanalysis"!

 

I CAN'T DEAL, I CAN'T DEAL, THIS IS GOING TO GO THE WAY OF THE 8-TRACK, I CAN'T F*CKING DEAL, I JUST NEED A BOLT OF LIGHTNING TO TAKE MERCY ON ME AND STRIKE ME DOWN RIGHT HERE AS I TYPE.

 

This is torture!!!!!!!!!! I F*CKING LOVE HIM AND HE JUST KEEPS SLIPPING FURTHER AWAY!!!

 

Whoever said I was stupid for letting a heartbroken man suck me in - YOU'RE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT AND I'M A F*CKING MORON AND IF I HAD ANY SORT OF BALLS I WOULD GET OUT OF THIS RIGHT F*CKING NOW! But how can I when he consumes my every waking thought. This is sick. This is unhealthy. He lured me into this trap and I was dumb enough to follow. What do I do now. I can't walk away.

 

I HATE YOU SO MUCH RIGHT NOW

[hoping2heal]

Please, don't refer to me as Fay/Birdy. My name is Fay. I just had to make this account because I retardedly made some overtly sexual post on the porn thread which apparently didn't sit too well with the mods, and now all my posts on that s/n have to get modded.

 

Anyway, look, tonight has sucked.

 

A, I'm sick of you looking at me with emptiness behind your eyes when they used to be filled with adoration. I'm sick of you pulling away from a kiss too soon when your lips used to linger on mine like you wanted to die in that embrace. You f*cking hurt me tonight and I don't know who to blame, if blame even really matters. I brought it up because I've been bottling up all these f*cking thoughts so long they're starting to drive me insane. You practically yelled at me that you were tired and didn't want to talk about it right now. But if I asked you at noon you'd do the f*cking same. It's all bullsh*t.

 

You're mad because of that angry poem I wrote you that night we fought. So THAT'S what this whole thing is about. You can't forget it and realize I was drunk and thinking you were kicking me out of your house and your life. You're not mature enough to judge my consistent actions before my words, words written in a one-shot fit of rage which I have apologized over and over again for.

 

I broke down and said to you, "The only thing I want in this world, the only thing that would make everything better, is if this magically disappeared. I can't take it anymore. The only thing I want is for you to grab me, take me in your arms, look me straight in the eye and tell me that you love me just as much as you did before. It's what I need to hear because I'm going insane. But I know it wouldn't be true." And you snapped, "No, it wouldn't!" And I said to you that when I see you there lying next to me and I'm frustrated because you're so close yet so far away, I get this nearly uncontrollable urge to grab you and pull you in and melt into you and end the bullsh*t once and for all. And you said, "That's the problem, you try too hard!!!" (DO YOU PEOPLE HEAR THAT? ALL OF YOU WHO SAY I'M INSINCERE AND ALOOF AND GUARDED AND BLAH BLAH BLAH? LOOK WHAT OPENNESS AND SINCERITY GET ME! I "TRY TOO HARD"!!!)

 

And afterward you had the GALL to tell me I shouldn't make assumptions about how you feel, and that I overanalyze things! People only say that when they don't want to be scrutinized! If I was "overanalyzing", you wouldn't have confirmed my entire analysis! Or what, do you want me to be blind??? I can see the way you feel in every gesture, every look, every kiss. You f*cked me and then when I went to kiss you after, you had to get up and do A, B and C. I wanted to cuddle, I wanted SOME F*CKING ROMANCE AFTER I JUST MADE LOVE TO YOU. You verbally confirmed my "overanalysis"!

 

I CAN'T DEAL, I CAN'T DEAL, THIS IS GOING TO GO THE WAY OF THE 8-TRACK, I CAN'T F*CKING DEAL, I JUST NEED A BOLT OF LIGHTNING TO TAKE MERCY ON ME AND STRIKE ME DOWN RIGHT HERE AS I TYPE.

 

This is torture!!!!!!!!!! I F*CKING LOVE HIM AND HE JUST KEEPS SLIPPING FURTHER AWAY!!!

 

Whoever said I was stupid for letting a heartbroken man suck me in - YOU'RE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT AND I'M A F*CKING MORON AND IF I HAD ANY SORT OF BALLS I WOULD GET OUT OF THIS RIGHT F*CKING NOW! But how can I when he consumes my every waking thought. This is sick. This is unhealthy. He lured me into this trap and I was dumb enough to follow. What do I do now. I can't walk away.

 

I HATE YOU SO MUCH RIGHT NOW

 

You knew he had gotten out of a relationship 2 weeks prior. You also, have not done anything long enough and routine neough to call it consistent; granted consistency is a moot point in all of this, since this guy is still messed up over an ex. My point is, you walked point blank into a bear trap, and suddenly you don't like it. Don't do that to yourself in the future.

[You'reasian]

Please, don't refer to me as Fay/Birdy. My name is Fay. I just had to make this account because I retardedly made some overtly sexual post on the porn thread which apparently didn't sit too well with the mods, and now all my posts on that s/n have to get modded.

 

Anyway, look, tonight has sucked.

 

A, I'm sick of you looking at me with emptiness behind your eyes when they used to be filled with adoration. I'm sick of you pulling away from a kiss too soon when your lips used to linger on mine like you wanted to die in that embrace. You f*cking hurt me tonight and I don't know who to blame, if blame even really matters. I brought it up because I've been bottling up all these f*cking thoughts so long they're starting to drive me insane. You practically yelled at me that you were tired and didn't want to talk about it right now. But if I asked you at noon you'd do the f*cking same. It's all bullsh*t.

 

You're mad because of that angry poem I wrote you that night we fought. So THAT'S what this whole thing is about. You can't forget it and realize I was drunk and thinking you were kicking me out of your house and your life. You're not mature enough to judge my consistent actions before my words, words written in a one-shot fit of rage which I have apologized over and over again for.

 

I broke down and said to you, "The only thing I want in this world, the only thing that would make everything better, is if this magically disappeared. I can't take it anymore. The only thing I want is for you to grab me, take me in your arms, look me straight in the eye and tell me that you love me just as much as you did before. It's what I need to hear because I'm going insane. But I know it wouldn't be true." And you snapped, "No, it wouldn't!" And I said to you that when I see you there lying next to me and I'm frustrated because you're so close yet so far away, I get this nearly uncontrollable urge to grab you and pull you in and melt into you and end the bullsh*t once and for all. And you said, "That's the problem, you try too hard!!!" (DO YOU PEOPLE HEAR THAT? ALL OF YOU WHO SAY I'M INSINCERE AND ALOOF AND GUARDED AND BLAH BLAH BLAH? LOOK WHAT OPENNESS AND SINCERITY GET ME! I "TRY TOO HARD"!!!)

 

And afterward you had the GALL to tell me I shouldn't make assumptions about how you feel, and that I overanalyze things! People only say that when they don't want to be scrutinized! If I was "overanalyzing", you wouldn't have confirmed my entire analysis! Or what, do you want me to be blind??? I can see the way you feel in every gesture, every look, every kiss. You f*cked me and then when I went to kiss you after, you had to get up and do A, B and C. I wanted to cuddle, I wanted SOME F*CKING ROMANCE AFTER I JUST MADE LOVE TO YOU. You verbally confirmed my "overanalysis"!

 

I CAN'T DEAL, I CAN'T DEAL, THIS IS GOING TO GO THE WAY OF THE 8-TRACK, I CAN'T F*CKING DEAL, I JUST NEED A BOLT OF LIGHTNING TO TAKE MERCY ON ME AND STRIKE ME DOWN RIGHT HERE AS I TYPE.

 

This is torture!!!!!!!!!! I F*CKING LOVE HIM AND HE JUST KEEPS SLIPPING FURTHER AWAY!!!

 

Whoever said I was stupid for letting a heartbroken man suck me in - YOU'RE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT AND I'M A F*CKING MORON AND IF I HAD ANY SORT OF BALLS I WOULD GET OUT OF THIS RIGHT F*CKING NOW! But how can I when he consumes my every waking thought. This is sick. This is unhealthy. He lured me into this trap and I was dumb enough to follow. What do I do now. I can't walk away.

 

I HATE YOU SO MUCH RIGHT NOW

 

Sorry to hear your sad situation. I do hope you are able to find some peace after all of this.

 

The unfortunate part about all of this, is that experiences like this show us that many women love unavailable men - the more we don't care, the more you want us.

 

And when we do care, you get bored and leave. What a viscious cycle.