nab0610 Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 been dating this girl for 8 months...things have been a bit different that last month or so hard to really put my finger on it i'm in college and i've been working like 30+ hours a week with 3 total classes spread between the two summer sessions...she works at most 20 hours a week no classes... last like week or two she's been angry/upset...she's accused me of not having/wanting to have sex with her (despite us having sex twice in the last 5 days and her being out of town one of those days, I worked 4 of them and had a final Friday)...she accuses me tonight of not liking her anymore and storms out of my apartment I've told her i'm tired and have been tired for like the last two weeks because in our summer sessions classes meet every day and we just got done with finals on Friday and I had 6 tests in two weeks plus 60+ hours of working...she says i'm just saying i'm tired at like 10 at night when i get off lets just relax is an excuse...then I go to bed around 12 because I have to get up for my morning class... Tonight I went to a movie with her, we laid in bed and just talked and after like an hour I was still really tired and told her I was going to bed, she just said OK whatever and left...comes back like 10 minutes later turns on my light and wakes me up to give me my shirt! back?...then comes in 10 minutes later wakes me up again and says wtf is wrong we talked for a minute and she was like bye i'm leaving early to go to the beach (she was supposed to leave around 11am tomorrow) I'm just really confused here and I'm tired of having accusations thrown my way...I tried talking to her, but all she keeps saying is words aren't enough (as in you look good today) and we aren't having sex everyday anymore or multiple times a day (self-esteem)...I said look I'm sorry I've been really busy lately...she continued attacking...so I fired back and said look if you really think we have problems why are we starting at physical attraction, there's a lot more that goes into a relationship than just that. What are we going to do if 5 years down the road from now were married and we don't have sex as often anymore?...This really pissed her off and I mean it was a low blow, but I was tired of being attacked...she left my apartment after I said that
Author nab0610 Posted August 3, 2009 Author Posted August 3, 2009 well maybe my questions a little bland after re-reading it but i'm not asking should i break up with her, but more thoughts on the argument did i say the wrong things? etc
boogieboy Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 Apparently youre taking her for granted and shes a lil immature with calling you out on it, but she wants to know why. She might think youre cheating on her if she thinks the sex isnt as good as it used to be. So youre going to have to show her that youre still interested in her. You will have to push past her annoying you, and put in a real good effort to show her that you are still into her. If you dont she will walk. If you dont WANT to do that, or you dont want to make the time to do that, then do her a favor and break it off with her.
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