lucy9216 Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 This guy I have been talking to for almost 2 months, we would email eachother every 3-4 days nothing really persistant. This went on for a month until he sent me his phone number one day then we started texting eachother probably about every 3 or 4 days. It did take us a while to finally meet due to conflicting schedules with our kids.So we finally met, had a good time hung out for about 4 hours and just walked around, talked and had coffee. He said he wanted to see me again. A week went by after we met and I hadn't heard from him so I sent him a text saying hi how are you, he replied and we talked for a few he said he wanted to see me again and I told him that he knew when I was available then he never responded. So I let it go, one week later I get a text saying sorry I didn't respond sooner I have been busy blah blah, I waited a couple hours then finally responded. he said he needed a fun night out I said me too then nothing again! I found some music that I planned on sharing with him, you cannot buy this music anywhere it is really hard to find and I knew he would like it. So I thought well crap! should I send it to him or not? because I really wasn't mad at him I could tell he isn't a bad guy he just wasnt really that interested in me, so what these things happen. I decided to go ahead and send him the songs via email but I didn't want to look like I didn't get the hint either so I just said something joking like hey what happened? it's okay I understand no worries it was nice talking with you and wish you the best blah blah and remember that band I was telling you about here are their songs think you will enjoy them and take care. So he responds I was so embarrased and upset that he even responded, I was really hopeing that he wouldn't. He said: hey I have been super busy it's nothing with you silly. things are starting to slow down and I want to hang out with you again and soon. I have not responded to him and really have no intention to, I feel like such a dip****! I shouldn't have even sent him that email but I am just so dang passionate about music and I like to share! I am pretty sure he is only saying that he wants to set up another date out of guilt now and that was not my intent. What do you guys think? should I respond? or just leave it? I mean he has my number if he does want to hang out again? but if I don't respond does that make me look like a bitch? He is sooo dang flacky though, but I honeselty only met him once so what do I really expect from him right? was the email a bad idea too?
2sunny Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 the email was a kind gesture, so don't worry about it. he seems to be capable of responding as long as he sees you making the effort, or if he thinks you are going away. either way... his actions are telling you that he unwilling to make the effort to correspond first. this is usually an indication that he has someone he's more interested in and spending his energy on. i wouldn't respond. wait and see how long (if ever) he waits to contact you. most men will move mountains to spend time with you if they are interested (even if they are super busy). he's being a dork to you. i would cut off the contact and spend the energy finding a man who wants to make you his priority.
dreamergrl Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 Yeah, I agree with 2sunny. It doesn't take much effort to be the first to make contact. And even if he is really busy, it's not hard to book in an hour for coffee or lunch. I think he's seeing someone else, and is keeping in touch just in case. I'd move on and date someone who will be worth your time and effort.
Author lucy9216 Posted August 3, 2009 Author Posted August 3, 2009 I know you are right, he could make a little more effort if he really was interested in pursuing me and only me. I did meet him only once so I honestly don't expect much and really wouldn't want too much anyway. I felt there was potential at one point but now I know that he has to be spending his energy on someone else so it is frustrating when he does contact me and then flake and him saying that he wants to see me again really soon. this is the 3rd time he has said that since we met almost 3 weeks ago and it is just really frustrating and annoying now. I mean why even keep any contact with me? I already told him I understand, I am really not upset with him for not being interested in me but what is upsetting me is him pretending like he is. Whatever i am moving on
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