nomadx Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 3 weeks of NC now. i still miss her and love her. i am clinging onto the hope she will accept me when she is ready for me in her life. the long complicated story is http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t196581/ she broke up because this was a very serious relationship that could not be maintained over long distance without getting in the way of other aspects of our lives. she was losing contact with friends, placing school a lower priority and so was i. basically she did not feel like she was old enough and mature enough to handle it when things went bad. she said it was not completely over, that later on, in about 2 years when she is ready we can try again. it's driving me crazy. NC doesn't seem to be helping because of this vision in my head of visiting her dorm room and hugging her after 2 long years. i think about her all day, every day. over the phone i asked her and she said she still loved me, wanted to be with me ("if at all possible") but there's no garuntee. she could not garuntee she'd take me back, because she doesn't know how the future will be. she says she might change a lot as a person, and that's something i will have to deal with. she isn't planning on dating seriously in the near future though, and she once told me that between me and other guys, there's no comparison. she told me she intends to fulfill her commitment to me. YET, she said later over text she doesn't love me, doesn't know if i'm the right man, doesn't know if it will work out. it is driving me crazy and preventing me from letting go. i have resolved it in my heart that i cannot possibly find someone better. i know i should let go to move on in my life completely but i would have to give up all hope! and i don't want to forget about her! have i really lost her?
Mustain2234 Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 YET, she said later over text she doesn't love me, doesn't know if i'm the right man, doesn't know if it will work out. This explains all her actions perfectly. If you love someone, you just don't break up and throw out an option two years from now. Additionally, if you love someone, you don't want to lose them under any circumstances; yet, she's taking that risk and knows full well she is. ! it is driving me crazy and preventing me from letting go. i have resolved it in my heart that i cannot possibly find someone better. i know i should let go to move on in my life completely but i would have to give up all hope! and i don't want to forget about her! have i really lost her? If you want hope, albeit slim, wait two years. Now, that doesn't mean mark a point two years on your calendar and show up asking "Are you ready yet," but keep in mind she may be different for the better. You may be as well.
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