Bayern Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 I wouldn't mind at all. In fact I haven't had any alcohol in a good 7 months or so. Not because I've said I don't want it, I just don't go looking for it really. I love a few drinks, don't get me wrong.
GorillaTheater Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 If I had been asked this question 20 years ago, I would've said "no". Goes to show, I guess, how large a roll alcohol played in my life back then. Now, even though I enjoy a drink on occasion, the question strikes me as a little silly.
Trialbyfire Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 It is, unless you live in the Middle East. LOL It's a lifestyle here. Bunch of drunks. I honestly don't understand the lifestyle thing. Unless you're dependent on alcohol to sustain a habit, it's a beverage. The judgements of both drinkers and non-drinkers in this thread, also make no sense to me. Alcohol neither makes or breaks an individual, unless it's a dependency.
Trialbyfire Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 I'd have no problem dating a non-drinker. Why doesn't your response surprise me, Pyro? It's like drawing negative or positive conclusions about someone who drinks or doesn't drink soda pop! Oh noes... Soda pop is the devil! Or soda pop shows what a fun individual you are!
Pyro Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 Why doesn't your response surprise me, Pyro? It's like drawing negative or positive conclusions about someone who drinks or doesn't drink soda pop! Oh noes... Soda pop is the devil! Or soda pop shows what a fun individual you are! I think I must be from the only state that calls it just pop. Obviously I'd get to know the person first, but its not a make it or break it thing for me.
Trialbyfire Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 I think I must be from the only state that calls it just pop.I call it pop too but thought I would use the entire phrase for those darn easterners...oh hang on... Obviously I'd get to know the person first, but its not a make it or break it thing for me.Well yes, that's just too much common sense.
Pyro Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 Well yes, that's just too much common sense. You have to remember who some of our audience is.
whimsical_memory Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 For myself, I will not date a drinker. Simply because I used to have an alcohol problem, so it's just easier for me if I am not around that lifestyle choice.
Art_Critic Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 Whether they drink or not didn't have any bearing on whether or not I would date them... I will say though that I have dated a couple of drunks.. after the first one I was less tolerant of the others.. who wants to be around someone who has to change their emotions to be around me.. and honestly sloppy drunks just are not any fun.. at least the few I've dated.. If they opposed all drinking then I would hope they were tolerant of my lifestyle at least to the point that they didn't try and enforce their will or try to change my sobriety and how I maintain it..
carhill Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 For myself, I will not date a drinker. Yes, that makes sense, but will you date a non-drinker, since that is the topic.. I hope your answer is yes
alexlakeman Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 I drink and love to party... I've been dating a woman for 3 yrs that doesn't drink much.... I am about to break it off today or tommorrow... I just kept putting it off b/c she was marriage material but not party material.. In talking with one of my female freinds this week, she is like "alex, you love to drink and party, this woman is not a match"... I guess... It s.cks when you go out, everyone is at a certain buzzed level, and this girl is straight... oh well...
alexlakeman Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 I don't think I'd date a guy who doesn't drink. My experience with non-drinkers is that they tend to be super judgmental about drinking and consider themselves morally superior to those who "need" alcohol to have fun. I don't NEED alcohol to have fun, but lets be honest, it can add a good deal of fun to some situations. And I don't want some debbie downer looking over my shoulder and informing me that I've already had three drinks as if I just downed the whole keg! Plus, in my experience, it's those who refuse to drink who really need a drink the most...lol. Deserves a quote ... my feelings exactly! LOL, i dated a drinker a while back and she said the same thing, "non drinkers consider themselves morally superior and you can't trust them" .. lol... Personally I think the non drinkers fall into the same boat as religious fanatics, lol
Mahatma Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 I will not date a party-er, but to say "I will never drink" is just ignorant and usually means they have never drank before. Nothing is more annoying than someone who just wants to go out and drink every night though.
You'reasian Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 Everyone goes through the weekend party drinking phase. Some folks stay in that phase longer than others - the happy hour deals keep em coming as do friends who enable them the fun. I drink very little. I would be ok with someone who doesn't drink.
vertical Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 I drink and love to party... I've been dating a woman for 3 yrs that doesn't drink much.... I am about to break it off today or tommorrow... I just kept putting it off b/c she was marriage material but not party material.. In talking with one of my female freinds this week, she is like "alex, you love to drink and party, this woman is not a match"... I guess... It s.cks when you go out, everyone is at a certain buzzed level, and this girl is straight... oh well... In your other thread you said you dated a girl a few months ago..?
Quickill Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 I prefer non-drinkers, they tend to be up for more activities on a Friday night than just hittin' the bar. Not that there is anything wrong with that it's just not my favorite place to be. I also love the absolute venom in some of the drinkers reply. It seems to me some of you need to get of your high horse(or stool). I don't drink, have never drank, and will never drink. Not because of some Moral Superiority, as a few would claim, or dreadful incident as a child, I just never saw the point. Also my lifestyle does not make much room for drinking. The activities I partake in do not mix well with drinking. I love to drag race, it's my favorite activity and we all know alcohol does not mix well with fast cars. I also love hunting, hiking, and camping, Not that pull into the campsite with a camper type of camping, more like "See that mountain over there, past the rapids, on the other side of the canyon, yeah that's the spot." So I see alcohol limiting my social options not enhancing them.
vertical Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 In relation to this thread, I would not date a drinker. I am a guy and i go to parties atleast 3 times a week if not more. The only thing is i dont drink, but i still have a blast. I dont drink because of my dad dieng when i was small from an alcohol related accident. And that is why i wont date a girl who drinks a lot because of fear of the dangers. But let me make myself clear, i will not date a girl who gets drunk. A little drink here or there is alright, even i do that.
Adunaphel Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 I am a very occasional drinker and I'd rather date a non-drinker... unless he does not make faces or comments when someone orders a drink in his presence.
JamesM Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 and she said the same thing, "non drinkers consider themselves morally superior and you can't trust them" .. lol... Personally I think the non drinkers fall into the same boat as religious fanatics, lol So...an atheist and an alcoholic makes for a more trustworthy person to date? Hmmm....who seems to be acting a bit "morally superior" here? I am amused by the responses given. It seems that alcohol is a deciding factor if one is dating material. The question then is....is a non-drinker or a drinker better for a marriage partner? Methinks many do not even bother thinking of this when they pick a partner for dating based on some of the responses given. Will someone who "loves" to party be a great father/mother for your children? Will alcohol be a necessary part of your life or if you would rather...an important "want" of your life? IMO anytime someone feels a substance of any kind is a reason to choose or not choose a person to date, then we really need to examine what kind of impact that substance has on lives. It is hard to imagine that the question would be asked here....would you date someone who needs to have ketchup with their meals? No, I do not consider myself "morally superior"...just maybe a little wiser.
sb129 Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 . Even one beer a day would be a yellow flag to me, because that can easily turn into an addiction. I wouldn't go that far.... In an ideal relationship only one partner drinks. The other drives. My marriage right now! If I had been asked this question 20 years ago, I would've said "no". Goes to show, I guess, how large a roll alcohol played in my life back then. . Same here. 10 years ago, I loved to party and it was a huge part of the culture of being at university. Dating a non drinker wouldn't have featured on my radar. However, out of the lifelong friendships I made back then, most of us are now either pregnant or have young families, and drinking just doesn't feature so much anymore. Many of us have given up alcohol during pregnancy and breastfeeding, I have found I don't miss it that much, and I have retained the same social circle- there are many more non drinkers in it now, and most of our socialising at the moment involves FOOD! It would be easier to date a non drinker at this stage of my life than a drinker, in fact I would prefer it. Non drinking wouldn't be a dealbreaker, but a heavy drinking would. I would struggle to date a vegan or a vegetarian too- I love cooking and food and its so much more central to my life than alcohol, in fact I think that would be MORE of a dealbreaker.
Chubbi Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 I would prefer a non-drinker or a social-drinking person like me. I would be hugely turned off by a person who desires beer all the time. I've just never got a taste for it. I would definitely prefer a non-smoker. Definitely. Some people said non-drinkers were boring. I hosted a Drag show. Cross-dressed with my friends as the YMCA, MJ and Bon Jovi (I'm a girl) and performed on stage- completely sober. Please don't tell me I'm boring or a prude. Not at all. Just a natural entertainer if I may say myself I'm a Leo. I found it the other way around: people who were drinkers tended to be... uncreative.
AlektraClementine Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 My fiance and I are both involved in the later-at-night entertainment industry. Being around that usually means being around alcohol. When we work, we don't drink. But we tend to socialize in the same environment so we both kick back a few every now and then. That said, I'd have no problem dating someone who doesn't drink at all. So long as he didn't mind my occasional glass of red wine when cooking Italian food or a few beers at the bar while we play trivia. For the record, I also know plenty of non-drinkers who have just as much fun socializing as I do.
sb129 Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 I guess it just depends on the person too. I was out for dinner last weekend with a vegetarian non drinker. The way she was so patronising and superior about her vegetarianism totally eclipsed the fact that she was a non drinker. I know a vegan who is a drinker and she is so annoying because she looks down on anyone who isn't a vegan! If a non drinker had that attitude- I would struggle with it. If it was just part of who they were and not a constant topic of conversation, no problem.
alexlakeman Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 In your other thread you said you dated a girl a few months ago..? My 3 yrs g/f is marriage material but doesn't drink!!! The other gf's are the party / drinking / fun type... so if I ever find a marriage material woman AND a drinknig woman built in ONE, I'll take it.. for now, I have to do the 2 for 1 ...
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