t0ri Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 My ex contacted me (through text) 4 days ago for the first time since he dumped me over 3 months ago (for the second time). Last night I went to a party and ran into one of his best friends/recent ex roommate. I didn't ask about my ex, but his friend brought him up and proceeded to tell me that my ex was hooking up with some chick for a short while that he met at work, but they don't hang out anymore. Coincidental that my ex texts me not long after the "new" girl and him are "over?" The friend also tells me that my ex has been partying excessively since we broke up. Hm. I didn't pry any info out of him, but I didn't stop him from telling me either Anyway, ever since my ex text me, I can't stop thinking about him and missing him. I know better to assume that he wants me back, but now I'm playing hypothetical situations in my head as if he DID want me back. I'm retarded. And on top of that, my family, well mom in particular, is worried that the ex making contact is the first step in him creeping back into my life. She insists that I'll hear from him again. Is that likely? When he text me, he said he just wanted to apologize for hurting me because he promised me he'd NEVER do that. I accepted his apology and then he started making small talk...asking how my summer is, how my dogs are, how it is being an aunt, etc. Was he just curious what I've been up to? His friend last night told me that my ex did really love me, but he "couldn't put up with me anymore" because we fought too much. I guess I'm posting to hear some perspectives on this. I'm expecting to hear that he doesn't miss me, will not contact me again, was just relieving his guilt by saying sorry, whatever. My mom saying those things is clouding my head, when really I know he just felt bad for hurting me and wanted to apologize - nothing more...right!?!? My mom asked if I'd take him back if he tried to come back, and I wasn't sure. Good grief, maybe I should change my number.
RedDevil66 Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 Why did u two break up? How long were you together with him? and was it a good relationship?
Author t0ri Posted August 3, 2009 Author Posted August 3, 2009 We were together for 2 years 3 months. Our relationship was really good for the first year and a half - until I got pregnant and miscarried. That seems to have been the turning point in our relationship. I became more attached, and he became more distant and it gradually turned into me being the only one working on our relationship. I think I should add, though, that right before I found out I was pregnant, I broke up with him because I was so hormonal and got angry over something stupid and said let's just break up, not even thinking or really meaning it. We got back together a few days later, but he claims that's what pushed him away, not the pregnancy. I really blame the hormonal changes for that. Anyway, that was over a year ago and long story short: He broke up with me suddenly in February, claiming he didn't want to be in a relationship and he was sick of fighting with me and being stressed out. So I guess that is why we broke up. Then he came back 3 weeks later and told me that he made a mistake and wanted to reconcile and start fresh, with BOTH of us working on our relationship because he knew it was one-sided for awhile. Then he abruptly ended things again in April. He didn't contact me at all until the other day, at which he told me he had treated me so poorly because he was "angry and bitter" towards me...I have no idea why!
moo Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 Hey t0ri, This are some sections of what you wrote in another thread when you were trying to advise someone: "I was dumped by text also, the 2nd time around. First time he dumped me by changing his relationship status to single on social-networking sites! What a quality guy I had!" and "I don't know why your ex would tell you that crap after he dumped you. Mine told me similar things right BEFORE he dumped me, but then refused to talk to me after he dumped me and told me he wanted me out of his life forever. If I were you, I'd go NC and if he does try to contact you for whatever reason, I'd tell him you're done with his bull **** and to leave you alone!" Be strong hun.
Author t0ri Posted August 5, 2009 Author Posted August 5, 2009 Thanks, Moo. It's easier to advise than follow your own advice sometimes I guess. I have two important finals tomorrow, and I can't even concentrate for very long because he pops back into my head! So I had to come here and get this out. WTF!? I was doing fairly well before he text me. I was right where I needed to be, and now I'm back to crying, missing him, constantly thinking about him, etc. Is this happening because I had some brief contact with him!? Honestly, is he likely to contact me again??? I just want to know. I'm not hoping for that, if that's what you're thinking.
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