alli02 Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 ok so i have known this guy for at least 10 years went to hs with him and worked with him. hadnt really talked it a very long time then in october he sent me a message on myspace and we messaged back and forth a few days then he gave me his number and told me to text him. so i did then we started texting daily. well nothing really happened and i started dating someone else and we stopped texting for the most part. then a few weeks ago i got a text from him and we started texting alot. we talked about almost everything and anything and flirted a bit. he said that it was too bad i had a man and i happened to mention that things were not going well with him. about a week later i broke up with my bf. we decided to have dinner this past tuesday. he came to my place and made me a wonderful dinner and we talked and joked and flirted. i had a wonderful time and thought he did too. he went to leave and before he did he kissed me and things got a little hot and heavy. since this happened i have not really heard alot from him. just a text or 2 a day...nothing like it had been before. he had told me that he was gonna be busy but i cant help wondering if i scared him off?? its just weird because he has always initiated everything and now he has stopped. why would he stop texting like he had before?? i dont know what to think. i actually asked him if any interest he had in me was gone and he said no that he was just busy. please tell me what you think
Hkizzle Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 All I picked up was a text or two a day........ How's that bad? It's not like he's only texting once every third day. He says he's busy, don't think too much of the situation.
Author alli02 Posted August 2, 2009 Author Posted August 2, 2009 but i am texting him first if i dont say anything he doesnt say anything
Lucky_One Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 It's only been 5 days, and he told you he was going to be very busy. At least he is answering your texts. But personally, I would stop for a bit, and give him some time to get his head above water and decide if he is missing your company (in person company or text company). Let him make the next move. Guys like the chase.
Lucky_One Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 You had sex with him? That is what "a little hot and heavy" meant? I assumed you meant some touching and heavy making out. Sounds, in that case, as he may have lost some respect for you OR he got what he was after in the first place, which was apparently sex.
Citizen Drawn Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 I don't think you've scared him off, but I think you will if you continue to go at the pace you are going. Give him some room, let nature take its course and see what happens. You are forcing the issue right now and it's really not a good idea. Hold fire on the texts and stop asking him about his level of interest in you. If you asked me that after a few dates and a little bit of intimacy I would be scared off, and I think a lot of guys would.
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