Jimmy's_Brother Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 It's a nice day and all we do here is analyze situations, both hypothetical and occasionally real. What did people ever do before dating advice sites? Use instinct? Reason? Logic? Emotion? Intelligence? Most of what I see here is musings on Why Are Guys Jerks, Why Don't Nice Guys Get Action, What Does it Mean that She F-ed My Friend. Really? Are we unable to solve our own problems anymore? I'm starting to suspect that a large number of the people on here who always have a bevvy of stock dating answers and advice aren't Don Juan/as, anyway. Time to go outside and live life, insteading of playing pretend life on the internet. PS. Please point out the irony of my creating this thread, on the internet, in the first place.
Trialbyfire Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 You first, go out to play!! Some of us are tied to our computers, since we have to work. So why not work, as well as "play" on LS, at the same time?
Author Jimmy's_Brother Posted August 2, 2009 Author Posted August 2, 2009 I'm going, I'm going! I understand the work aspect, but it's like geez people, do some thinking on your own.
dreamergrl Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 People do thinking on their own, but what does it hurt to gain more of a perspective about a situation?
Author Jimmy's_Brother Posted August 2, 2009 Author Posted August 2, 2009 @ dreamergrl: Well, to begin, a lot of the advice on here is nothing more than bitterness projected. Secondly, if you do some of the things these people on here say to do, you will distance and upset people. If you do what YOU think is right, it leads to independence, self-trust and better self-esteem. Asking for and taking advice a lot is a bad thing, because the "answers" come from some external, faceless force who DOES NOT have your best interests in mind.
Els Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 PS. Please point out the irony of my creating this thread' date=' on the internet, in the first place.[/quote'] Since noone has, I will. Why are you creating a thread on an internet dating forum about living life instead of creating threads on dating forums? For that matter, how'd the rest of your posts come about as well?
Sam Spade Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 People do thinking on their own, but what does it hurt to gain more of a perspective about a situation? That's pretty much it for me. However, there are still dangers - some myths are so pervasive/opinions so wildly shared that it is not impossible to get swayed, even while making up your own mind.
dreamergrl Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 @ dreamergrl: Well, to begin, a lot of the advice on here is nothing more than bitterness projected. Secondly, if you do some of the things these people on here say to do, you will distance and upset people. If you do what YOU think is right, it leads to independence, self-trust and better self-esteem. Asking for and taking advice a lot is a bad thing, because the "answers" come from some external, faceless force who DOES NOT have your best interests in mind. There will always be bad advice, no matter where you go, but there are a lot of people with good advice on here. You just have to learn to look past the bad and see the good.
SoulSearch_CO Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 I don't see how visiting a site like this is a whole lot different from the days BI (before internet) when you'd ask somebody IRL. I've run situations by someone I don't know that well. Sometimes it's interesting to hear a 3rd-party that's uninvolved emotionally. Besides, IMO - sometimes when somebody IS involved emotionally (like one's mother, for instance), it makes you think that their judgment is clouded for their feelings about YOU that they're not looking at the situation objectively. But I highly doubt anyone takes every single bit of advice given to them, here. I usually have a pretty good idea of WHAT I'm going to do about something, but when I ask a question as to what I should do...usually I'm seeing if someone can confirm that my choice isn't that bad - or give me a good reason why my choice is pure insanity. LOL
Citizen Drawn Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 I generally avoid the cliché threads on subjects like "nice guys finish last", "older women suck" "people should settle" etc. I do think situation specific advice is very helpful and the experiences of posters are invaluable. On the other hand more generic subjects I tend to avoid because they usually end up in two camps arguing over whether their dating approach is more successful. I don't think it's fair to say most threads are like this, they just stand out more because they contain 150 pages of bickering intertwined with nothing that's ever going to make a difference to anyone. I would love to go out right now but I'm ill.
EddieN Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 I'm here when I don't have anywhere to go in real life...which on weekends is most of the time. =/
Trialbyfire Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 I was thinking about the advice portion of the OP and remembered a convo with my mother about how she used to drive her sisters and friends crazy, asking for advice and opinions about Dad. She thought he was so amazing and wasn't sure if he felt the same way about her. Well, apparently he did! Anyways, so pre-Internet, advice and opinions were given by peoples' social circle and for some, family too. For that matter, if it's feasible, I continue asking friends and family for advice. Sometimes it's not feasible, so I ask on LS only. While the end decision is mine to make, I like to know if I've considered every angle and that's what LS is good for, differing opinions. But it's also true that nothing can push me from my stance, if I've already decided.
neowulf Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 I enjoy reading others experiences. The internet has allowed people to connect that would otherwise never have met or shared such stories or experiences. By allowing anonymous posting, people are able to talk about things which they might otherwise be too afraid to voice. LS helped me through one of the toughest experiences of my life to date and I'm grateful for the thoughtful insights offered. Sometimes it's not about getting the answers. Sometimes it's just about sharing some part of yourself and feeling that some one, some where, hears you.
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