Dmoney28 Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 I guess this is more of rant, but i feel like im a crazy person. it has been a year after the break up( 4 year together), and still think about my ex and the relationship everyday. Now granted its not as much as the first few months after the break up. I dont cry anymore, ...its just i miss the relationship and our closness still. What makes it worse is that i have been unemplyed for the last year ( i start my new job tomorro), i had to move back to my parents and its hard to meet new people under my circumstances, I have no problem meeting women, its just hard to date with my situation. She has moved on, and has a boyfriend...so it makes it easier for me to move on. But i still wake up with the relationship on my mind. I have matured greatly in this last year and have made profound changes in my life. Im in a situation where i can be the man she wants me to be. This women did everything for me, and i was just too immature to realize how speacial she was. Dont get me wrong, i have moved on for the most part. Its just this year has been pure hell. We havent been in contact in 3 months, so i guess its sinking in that she is gone forever. I just wish i can just stop thinking about her, and all the good times we had together.
mickleb Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 Get a girlfriend. Wontgohome - this reply is childish. Please try to be more constructive. This guy's having a hard time and needs more respect that this. Lecture finished. I don't know what to say, really. My guy just ran out on me because he started living with his parents again a few years ago and hasn't sorted this out yet. He has also been very irresponsible with money, despite the fact that he lost his job last year. Much as I love him, he didn't want to talk to me about this stuff and, all of a sudden, decided he was ashamed of his circumstances and needed to sort himself out. Alone. I am mentioning this because you say you are now the man she wanted you to be but is this really the situation she would like you to be in? You start work tomorrow and it's the beginning of a new chapter in your life. You still need to be taking care of you and getting your pride intact before you think about dating anyone, let alone reliving your relationship dreams with her. Of course you miss her. She was so special to you but carry on improving your life, until you can be happy just with you, and then think about who might ice your cake (so to speak). You may feel a whole lot differently about your ex by then. Take care. x
Exit Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 This sounds exactly like my situation. I didn't realize how great she was. And now that I've grown a lot and could be the person she wants me to be, it's too late, and she's with someone else. It's been 3.5 months for me, I can only hope I won't still be missing it after an entire year. I've been going out, having fun, but can't help that sometimes right in the middle of having a great day, something reminds me and makes me feel like garbage. As blunt as the "get a girlfriend" reply was, it's probably true. You will miss what you had until you get lucky enough to find something even better.
Author Dmoney28 Posted August 3, 2009 Author Posted August 3, 2009 thanks for the kind words. I guess it's a bit tough seeing how she didnt want to break up, but certain circumstances on my part kinda forced her to do so. Its hard to forget your first love. She was my best friend and lover. I want to be completly over her before i start dating seriously. I went out with this girl a couple of times, but didnt pursue it any further, kinda of hard getting a GF at that point with no job and back living with your parents, lol.
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