fiser360 Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 My ex and I were together for three years, and we have been apart for about a month now. We actually work together so I get to see her quite often. Up until the last couple days we haven't talked much at all, I have been NC and letting her maintain any contact that she wanted. Well, the last couple of days at work were great with her there. She talked with me, flirted, joked and laughed. I heard her telling a friend of mine what a jerk her new boyfriend was being, he was telling her who she can talk to and who she can't. And she was getting really fed up with it. The new guy and her have been together for about 4 weeks. Well, she has taken interest in me again it seems like, she called me last night just to "chat" as she said. We talked for about 45 minutes, she was telling me how much her family missed me and she was going to see her mom tomorrow and that if I wanted to talk to her she would give me the number because her mother misses me. I'm just wondering if these are good signs to maybe a future relationship with her again. I don't think it's going to last much longer with her new boyfriend, he seems like a real jerk and I am really trying not to talk bad about him, but he is. I sure hope things keep looking up.
digitalwizard Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 Was the breakup caused by her finding the new boyfriend? If so, it sounds like you may be what they refer to as a "backup". In other words, she is keeping you on the side-line just in case any side relationships she starts don't work out. A woman always needs some form of security and you are her security blanket. Now, we could very well be wrong. She may have realized with this ******* of a boyfriend what a good thing she had in you. If that is the case, then take it slow, DO NOT PUSH her into any kind of relationship. Everybody deserves a second chance. If you do work things out (and we wish you the best) and she does this again, my advice is to back off and move on. Because in that case, you are definitely just the "go-between" while she looks for someone else. Keep in mind, we do not know the whole story. This is all based on your post details. If you have further information you would like to divulge to spread some more light on the topic, please do so. Good luck
Author fiser360 Posted August 5, 2009 Author Posted August 5, 2009 The breakup wasn't caused by her finding this new guy.
digitalwizard Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 All we can say is that everyone deserves a "second" chance. Sometimes it takes drastic or traumatic circumstances for people to realize exactly what they want in life. If she has had that wake up call and is coming around, then you may want to move ahead slowly and see what happens. Good luck. We wish you the best.
LostInLimbo Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 My ex and I were together for three years, and we have been apart for about a month now. We actually work together so I get to see her quite often. Up until the last couple days we haven't talked much at all, I have been NC and letting her maintain any contact that she wanted. Well, the last couple of days at work were great with her there. She talked with me, flirted, joked and laughed. I heard her telling a friend of mine what a jerk her new boyfriend was being, he was telling her who she can talk to and who she can't. And she was getting really fed up with it. The new guy and her have been together for about 4 weeks. Well, she has taken interest in me again it seems like, she called me last night just to "chat" as she said. We talked for about 45 minutes, she was telling me how much her family missed me and she was going to see her mom tomorrow and that if I wanted to talk to her she would give me the number because her mother misses me. I'm just wondering if these are good signs to maybe a future relationship with her again. I don't think it's going to last much longer with her new boyfriend, he seems like a real jerk and I am really trying not to talk bad about him, but he is. I sure hope things keep looking up. Hi Nath, I know u have read a few of my posts, I think even answered some, but anyhow, my advice is becareful and not get taken as a back up, I have been there, its not pleasant. Thats not to say she is doing that and not to say that woman needs a security blanket, as thats just not so, I have a fe female friends who break up, and goto nothing, all depends on the circumstances of the reationship.. Best Of Luck LiL
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