Need A Shoulder

[tojaz]

I have been married for 6 years but 2 years ago my husband was unfaithful to me and I feel like he doesn't care about me anymore. Well a few months ago his ex-wife sent him a message and shortly after that she tried to get him to leave me for her. He has also slept with his friend of many years and gets erotic emails from a female friend from HS. I just don't know what to do because for a long time now he has just ignored me and I can't take it anymore.

 

Someone please help me.

 

Well, thats a bit different then where we started. Based off of all that you have posted, it sounds like you have made up your mind and to be honest have every reason to. WHat exactly do you need help with, or did you just need to talk it out?

TOJAZ

[ladyinmate1031]

Well I have never dealt with this before and I felt as though I needed some support or kind words.

[tojaz]

OK, just wanted to know how best to help is all. It does sound like the relationship is unhealthy, and he is leaning a lot on his sexual fantasies more then he is putting in to your marriage. Also, by making all these inapropriate requests, he is not showing you the respect you deserve. The fact that he threw you out of the house for declining his girlfriends advances for "experimenting" would be enough for any woman.

 

I don't think you mentioned, do you have kids?

TOJAZ

[ladyinmate1031]

I am unable to have kids.

[tojaz]

Sorry to hear that. When children are not involved, divorce is a pretty straight forward process, if that is what you want, there is not anything stopping you.

TOJAZ

[ladyinmate1031]

It is what I want because I feel like there is nothing left for me.

[tojaz]

Well, I would have to say that I don't see how anyone could fault you after all that has happened. I don't know that there is really anything else to say.

TOJAZ

[ladyinmate1031]

Goodbye says it all.