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Is it possible to date someone with 5 kids and you have none?

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Okay so I'm 20 years old and my boyfriend is 26 and he has 5 kids with 3 different women who constantly give me hell. I don't have any kids. He has no job no car and lives with his parents. We have been together for 13 months and I think the only reason we have lasted this long is because I know how much he loves me and I love him too but at the same time I know that it can't be forever because he wants to get married and for me to be a step mom and I don't want that right now am I wrong for thinking that? I feel like I have to share him with his baby momma's. I love being around him he makes me so happy untill his kids come around. Is this normal and can it ever get better?

TaraMaiden Established Member

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Okay so I'm 20 years old and my boyfriend is 26 and he has 5 kids with 3 different women who constantly give me hell.

No, he gave them hell. They're just paying him back. 26 5 kids, 3 different women??? Is this not enough of a red flag for you??

 

I don't have any kids.

Good.

Keep it that way. The best method of contraception is the word 'NO!'.

 

He has no job no car and lives with his parents.

Oh, you mean he's a scrounging loser.....gotcha.....

 

We have been together for 13 months and I think the only reason we have lasted this long is because I know how much he loves me and I love him too but at the same time I know that it can't be forever because he wants to get married and for me to be a step mom

Think about how long you'll be a step-mum for.

 

The word 'For Ever' springs to mind.

Kids and exes will never NEVER go away. Period. That's it. End of story.

 

and I don't want that right now am I wrong for thinking that?

I would normally classify that as a dumb question, but - NO!!!!!

 

YOU ARE NOT wrong to be thinking that!!!

In fact, you are extremely sensible!!

 

I feel like I have to share him with his baby momma's.

Yup. Always. Because his kids will always be his kids, and his flesh and blood and will - and should - come first. Within reason....

His kids' mommas will also always be there. So you will have a portion of him. A variable portion, but never just him, and all of him, and him alone.

 

I love being around him he makes me so happy untill his kids come around. Is this normal and can it ever get better?

"Until his kids come round"...which as they get older, will be more frequent....

 

Yes it's normal.

No, it will never get better.

Although it depends what your definition of 'better' is.... :rolleyes:

And if ever you do have kids with him.... wow, imagine how complicated THAT will get!

 

Two words:

 

Say Goodbye.

Now.

Quickly.

While you're young, free and able to escape and find someone more responsible, dedicated and independent.

 

Sheeeeesh!!

anne1707 Established Member

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26 years old, 5 kids, by 3 different women, not working (and I guess therefore not paying maintenance for his children)....

 

Everything Tara said and more. Get out of there before it's 6 children and he moves on to someone else.

Enema Established Member

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Y'all have been trolled methinks.

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If this is a real post, and let's hope it's not, the answer is NO and run for your life. Also use 2+ types of birth control with a back-up.

 

Seriously, no 20 year old needs this kind of burden.

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kati21 New Member

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Yeah this is a real post, sadly but true it's my life and I love him more than anything and I know if I break up with him because of his kids he's going to think i'm selfish and didn't really care about him like I say I do. Would I be being selfish for that?

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Yeah this is a real post, sadly but true it's my life and I love him more than anything and I know if I break up with him because of his kids he's going to think i'm selfish and didn't really care about him like I say I do. Would I be being selfish for that?

 

 

You're not being selfish by admitting that you're not ready to be the step-parent to five children. Parenting is extremely hard and being a step-parent is one hundred times harder. Honestly, and please know that I am not trying to be cruel, this man has nothing to offer you except for some highly fertile sperm. At twenty-six he should at least..the very least, have his own car and a job. As for the kids, who is paying child support on them? How can he afford it without a job?

 

Back on the post, please do yourself a favor and leave. You will not regret it.

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kati21 New Member

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I don't think that was cruel at all. And as for the child support, he doesn't pay. He goes to jail for it often.

Rhythmic Established Member

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Okay so I'm 20 years old and my boyfriend is 26 and he has 5 kids with 3 different women who constantly give me hell.

 

 

 

 

Only read up to here. Run away from him.

Fast.

TaraMaiden Established Member

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I don't think that was cruel at all. And as for the child support, he doesn't pay. He goes to jail for it often.

 

Oh -

My -

God.

 

Listen to yourself.

You're infatuated and dazzled by something this guy has. (Plus an over-active dick. he needs it cutting off.....!!)

You sound like a rabbit caught in headlights....

 

Stop this now, it will lead only and always to serious problems.

The shine will wear off and you'll be left with something hollow and worthless.

Really, please.

Listen to reason.

Because staying with him doesn't have one....

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I don't think that was cruel at all. And as for the child support, he doesn't pay. He goes to jail for it often.

 

I HATE men who don't pay child support.

Enema Established Member

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Come on guys, even after that line you still think this is a real post?

 

Hook. Line. Stinker.

Lizzie60 Established Member

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Enema... I love you...

 

You're right on... AGAIN... I totally agree with you on this one..

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Come on guys, even after that line you still think this is a real post?

 

Hook. Line. Stinker.

 

Uh yeah, if it wasn't already blatantly obvious, the jail thing certainly made it so. :rolleyes:

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kati21 New Member

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Too bad it is real, and he really has went to jail for the child support.

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Too bad it is real, and he really has went to jail for the child support.

 

Read that poorly constructed sentence again and tell us why you are with this guy? :rolleyes: He has 5 kids at the age of 26 to three different women. He's a man slut. He doesn't support his children and apparently has no intention of doing so because prison is preferable to him than feeding and clothing the poor little mites that have to call him daddy. So he goes to jail again and again. And you are having to ask if it is possible to date this guy?

 

If the answer isn't blatantly obvious to you, the only logical conclusion I can come to is that you are a troll. Because no-one is that effing stupid.

TaraMaiden Established Member

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Oh really?

You never watch Jerry Springer, Ricky Lake or Judge Judy?

 

I can't wait to see this one, on one of those.....:rolleyes:

 

It's prime and ripe material!

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