possession1 Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 My boyfriend and i broke up 3 months ago I asked for it because he had started taking me for granted because he was so into work and running two companies. but he was very wounded. weve stayed in touch and even went on date 2 weeks ago he asked me on another date but go tin minor car accident so no date that night a few days later i came and took care of him i like being open and told him i did date a guy while we were broken up. he told me he didnt want to know who and that i did and since they're both on facebook and he knows it an ex Im afraid he's threatened... but I DONT want the guy after dating him. I actually see how great my ex bf was. weve been talking while he is on biz trip i miss him and want him back ... he knows this. but he keeps saying oh he thinks i must be moving away to be with guy i was dating and thats the logical step. why would he say thats the logical step ? does he think im lying about my feelings for the other guy ? i said no im not dating the other guy and why is he asking if im moving. he then said oh i have guys fawning all over me and i must have at least two guys in the other city.... he then acted flirty with me and said he wanted sexy photos of me because he was alone in his hotel room and thinking of me and missed me. WHAT the heck does he want from me ? why does he act like he 'knows' im moving away and going to be with some other guy ? Is he TRYING to push me to move on and away from him ?
boldjack Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 OP, you were the one who broke up, so how can you be angry that he isn't sure about you any more? He probably has trust issues with you, now. I mean, if you can break up with him once, you can do it again, right? If you want him back, YOU will have to be the one to make amends, not him. You resented him concentrating on work, and not paying enough attention to you. Now you will have to pay attention to him, if you want to reconnect. If you are resentful of this, you both should call it quits, permanently.
steveraves Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 OP, you were the one who broke up, so how can you be angry that he isn't sure about you any more? He probably has trust issues with you, now. I mean, if you can break up with him once, you can do it again, right? If you want him back, YOU will have to be the one to make amends, not him. You resented him concentrating on work, and not paying enough attention to you. Now you will have to pay attention to him, if you want to reconnect. If you are resentful of this, you both should call it quits, permanently. AGREED!! The keyword in the above paragraph..TRUST
Author possession1 Posted August 2, 2009 Author Posted August 2, 2009 OP, you were the one who broke up, so how can you be angry that he isn't sure about you any more? He probably has trust issues with you, now. I mean, if you can break up with him once, you can do it again, right? If you want him back, YOU will have to be the one to make amends, not him. You resented him concentrating on work, and not paying enough attention to you. Now you will have to pay attention to him, if you want to reconnect. If you are resentful of this, you both should call it quits, permanently. Never said I resented him....I was incredibly chill about him working by choice 6 days a week. (he doesnt need to , he wants to) it was when he canceled and or was late 2-3 hours over 6 weeks that I voiced my concerns. we only had saturdays as our set date night. so when we ended up only seeing over 2 times in one month I asked for a break and told him I wasnt asking for a break up. Just time out because he was taking me for granted.
steveraves Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 In my opinion, you sent mixed signals. You wanted a break, but didn't want to break up and then you went on a date with someone else and then told him about it. To me that's cheating. If you wanted to see other people then you should've broke up
Author possession1 Posted August 2, 2009 Author Posted August 2, 2009 In my opinion, you sent mixed signals. You wanted a break, but didn't want to break up and then you went on a date with someone else and then told him about it. To me that's cheating. If you wanted to see other people then you should've broke up I asked for a break and instead of treating it as something temporary he flipped out and removed OUR in a relationship status on facebook. I didnt go out on any dates for 3 weeks. And I KNOW from a close mutual friend that he has gone out on 3 dates. he just doesnt want me to know and get upset. Anyway we're slowly moving forward and I cant figure out why he would ask if im moving away to this guy's city.
Author possession1 Posted August 2, 2009 Author Posted August 2, 2009 In my opinion, you sent mixed signals. You wanted a break, but didn't want to break up and then you went on a date with someone else and then told him about it. To me that's cheating. If you wanted to see other people then you should've broke up and when i told him after 6 weeks I wanted the break to end he said how can you fix something thats broken. i said we could both try to make it better than before. he said well he was still on a break since thats what i wanted since that conversation we did go on one good date before he had a car accident. also the night he stood me up and had a car accident i was sitting home alone and finally texted him he sent a very angry text back that i never really call him and only send 'stupid little text messages' ...for some reason me texting a lot p!sses him off. maybe its because he is older... i consider phone and text the same.
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