steveraves Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 I feel weird about admitting that I met a girl on Craigslist, but I did. Anyways, the first email I received had "from Jessica" and then the email was signed April after that all other emails (same email address) had "from April" and signed with the same name. I didn't think much of it, and put it out of my mind when we went to a theme park and she asked me to hold on to her pass and it was signed with the name April. Her cell hasn't been working the past few days so today I called where she worked and she answered the phone and used the name Jessica. Obviously I hung up. I suppose this raises a bit of a red flag, as well as, the fact she always seems to be a bit hesitant in coming over to my house. We've known one another 2 months. The bigger part of me believes that she does have feelings for me. When we speak on the phone it's not uncommon for our conversations to last over an hour, we kiss/hug, she's not out for money or gifts, and she must enjoy spending time with me otherwise we would've stopped talking a long time ago. I don't want to jump to conclusions because it's possible there may be a logical explanation, for one you never know who you're gonna meet on Craigslist. It's possible she's just being cautious. I would think though with as much time as we spend together in person and on the phone that she'd be comfortable with me by now. So the questions are.... Should I be concerned about this? Should I bring it up and if so HOW? Should I just let it go and wait and see if she brings it up eventually? Do you think she's just being cautious? Any feedback appreciated. Post questions if you have any and I'll follow up. Thanks
Author steveraves Posted August 2, 2009 Author Posted August 2, 2009 Just curious anyone have any thoughts, ideas, suggestions on how to proceed...
bac Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 What is the Craigslist? How to find a date there? You have the right to ask her any questions. I do not understand why you are afraid of doing that? If you do not want to offend her, just be accepting and understanding to her answers no matter what your values are.
Citizen Drawn Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 Next time you are out together, bring it up casually like it's not a big deal. Even asking her jokingly "hey what's all this jessica, april business about"... if she acts really defensively or does not want to talk about it then it's red flag.
Athena Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 Lol! I too have two names I go by every day -- one is my 'official' name, the other the name my family calls me... so... if I call the dentist or the pharmacy sometimes I slip up and say it's *my usual name* instead of the *official* name used on all official paperwork... It could be something as simple as that... she may be called Jessica because it is the name on her social security card, yet she may go by her second name because she prefers it... Yes, ask her about it... I see no reason why not to.
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