redant Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 Should I feel bad if bf has a hard time reaching orgasm while on top? If I am he can or any other way but alot of times he can't when he is. I never had this problem and it bugs me. I feel as if we shouldn't even do it that way. As for me I rarely do so he wonders why I don't either. Main question is should I feel bad that he has a hard time on that one particular position?
bac Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 As for orgasms and erection, the best reaction to any failure with both of them is that you do not pay any attention to that. Other words, go with the flow like everything is perfect. If you say something, especially during the performance, it will not do any better. The orgasm depends on age of your partner, perhaps he takes antidepressants, stress or smth else. As for positions, you do several positions before he has an orgasm. In general, I guess the longer he goes without an orgasm the better. I do not understand why you want your guy to cum in a specific position. It does not matter how he does it or if he does it at all.
Lucky_One Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 I did chuckle when I read this, because man-on-top is my favorite position, and I was thinking "So what's the problem here??"
Author redant Posted August 1, 2009 Author Posted August 1, 2009 Well the prob is -- why can't he reach orgasm that way? I love your picture Bac. I guess I'm feeling inadequate or want to make sure it's not because of ME that he can't reach orgasm on top. Although he can in most other ways and once in a while on top.
Lucky_One Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 It's just a different sort of stimulation or movement for him. I can't reach orgasm in every position by penetration only. I imagine it's the same way for other people, men or women.
bac Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 From what I know, when a man on top , he can not penetrate very deep. Therefore he receives less stimulation. The best position for a man to orgasm when a girl in doggy position because there is the deepest penetration and she touches his b......smth.
Author redant Posted August 1, 2009 Author Posted August 1, 2009 I didn't get the last part she touches his B__LS? is that right? I have not done that sounds funny! OK thank you!
New Again Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 From what I know, when a man on top , he can not penetrate very deep. Therefore he receives less stimulation. The best position for a man to orgasm when a girl in doggy position because there is the deepest penetration and she touches his b......smth. If that's what the "problem" is you can try different things to get deeper penetration - like putting a pillow under your hips, or putting your legs over his shoulders.
bac Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 It was balls. Do not force him to have an orgasm for you. Do not tell him anything. Because if you ask him to have an orgasm, he has the only choice to fake it. He can fake it, if he has a condom on and after sex he puts it in trash, pretending that there is some sperm. If you want to relate to his situation, here is an example of the same situation but when a man wants an female orgasm and a woman fakes it. A man is trying hard to do oral sex for female. He has the expectations that she must cum. So she fakes an orgasm to please him. The problem is that if you fake it all the time, it starts to suck.
steveraves Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 No you shouldn't feel bad. Not all men can orgasm in every position. Maybe that is a position for him that just isn't as stimulating as other positions.
Hkizzle Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 Some people simply find it easier or harder to achieve orgasm in certain positions. It's not an intimacy issue, but to do with the amount of physical stimulation they get in various positions.
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