hardlover Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 Broke up with my ex 3 months ago. First she wanted to get back in 3 months time, but i contacted her so much, that she lost interest. When she didnt answer my call, i once called her 30 times in a row until she changed her number. Then i started knocking on her door, but since she didnt open the door, i started lingering outside waiting for her, in which case she called her mom,who then called me to say that I've to stop. Once i stumbled upon her outside her house, following her to the car, and since i wanted to just talk, but she said she was in a hurry, and i forced myself to the car, but she screamed that i had to get out of the car,unless she would call her mother, and she told me that she was afraid of me, and when asking her if she ever wanted to meet me again, she said no. 20 days have passend, i've completely stopped contacting her after this incident, because she has never screamed like this to me, and was noticably more cold to me. She has always before had a friendly tone. I wont contact her again. I'm just wondering, if i can call her in 3 years time. Would 3 years, be enought to heal the damage? Because, she is afraid, and interpret me as a ****ed up psycho, which i'm not. Ive had my reason to be this, becasue i gave up everything,family,studies,friends, and prioritized her most, and when i lost her, i really got into deppression. So the question is, can 3 years really heal the damage? I was her first love and the only one she had relationship with, which lasted 6 months. I've been dating 100 of girls, and she was the best of them, thats why its hurting so bad, that i might have lost her forever.
northstar1 Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 Broke up with my ex 3 months ago. First she wanted to get back in 3 months time, but i contacted her so much, that she lost interest. When she didnt answer my call, i once called her 30 times in a row until she changed her number. Then i started knocking on her door, but since she didnt open the door, i started lingering outside waiting for her, in which case she called her mom,who then called me to say that I've to stop. Once i stumbled upon her outside her house, following her to the car, and since i wanted to just talk, but she said she was in a hurry, and i forced myself to the car, but she screamed that i had to get out of the car,unless she would call her mother, and she told me that she was afraid of me, and when asking her if she ever wanted to meet me again, she said no. 20 days have passend, i've completely stopped contacting her after this incident, because she has never screamed like this to me, and was noticably more cold to me. She has always before had a friendly tone. I wont contact her again. I'm just wondering, if i can call her in 3 years time. Would 3 years, be enought to heal the damage? Because, she is afraid, and interpret me as a ****ed up psycho, which i'm not. Ive had my reason to be this, becasue i gave up everything,family,studies,friends, and prioritized her most, and when i lost her, i really got into deppression. So the question is, can 3 years really heal the damage? I was her first love and the only one she had relationship with, which lasted 6 months. I've been dating 100 of girls, and she was the best of them, thats why its hurting so bad, that i might have lost her forever. Who knows, in 3 years both of you could be with other people. If you seriously 'scared' her that much after the breakup, it's not likely she's going to every forget that. Best to learn from the relationship and the breakup and appy that to your next relationship. Find yourself again with your family, friends and your studies.
NopeNah Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 Wow... you're planning on waiting 3yrs? She'll probaly be married with kids by then. Just move on, man. You did come off as a stalker. I'm surprised you don't have a restraining order against you right now. She's not the only girl out there..trust me.
wontgohomewou Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 Wow dude. I honestly do not blame her for getting pissed. You are one creepy guy. Don't EVER do stuff like that when you break up. You're putting her before you and you never do that. Girls find that unattractive. Just leave her alone for good, or if you really want closure, apologize for acting like a psycho lunatic. Also tell her that you'll honor her request to leave her alone. Then..... actually leave her alone. E-MAIL THIS, NOT IN PERSON. She obviously doesn't want to see you, I wouldn't either. It's just so creepy and annoying. And by 3 years, you won't even think about her. SO yeah, don't talk to her for 3 years and you'll be fine.
Soul Bear Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 wow.... I wouldn't even post this if I were you. I would be to ashamed of myself. that is scary scary scary. the title of your thread is a bit wrong ... you don't have a chance. move on with your life and remain in No contact- indefinitely. its the best chance you have of winning yourself back. I would email her a sincere apology and tell her just how crazy you must have looked, then leave her alone.
CaliGuy Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 What you did is called STALKING. There's nothing romantic or attractive about it. In fact, it's downright creepy. You should a) Leave her alone and b) See a counselor to find out why you are behaving this way.
hopefulguy Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 i know you are hurting, but this is the wrong way you should have approached it. if anything, you are just pushing away all the chances that you did have with her. try to be stronger.
Author hardlover Posted August 1, 2009 Author Posted August 1, 2009 Ok i will leave her alone forever. Because I've completely ruined all my chances to ever get her back. Obviously, calling her in 3-4 years time wont change anything, if I've understood everything. Though i had a strategy. That if i ever saw her outside, i would ignore her, which would indicate to her, im not stalking her anymore, and that i've moved on and that i could make a phonecall to her after 3-5 years.That would be the only chance, if i had anyone.
wontgohomewou Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 Ok i will leave her alone forever. Because I've completely ruined all my chances to ever get her back. Obviously, calling her in 3-4 years time wont change anything, if I've understood everything. Though i had a strategy. That if i ever saw her outside, i would ignore her, which would indicate to her, im not stalking her anymore, and that i've moved on and that i could make a phonecall to her after 3-5 years.That would be the only chance, if i had anyone. A post like this is still kinda creepy. Let her go dude.
Beeotch Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 I really can't take this seriously... refuse to believe this is serious. But if it is: you need help and I am pretty sure in 3 years she won't want you.
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