DSM2709 Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 Just wondering if anyone has had any luck with online dating? If, so I am a guy who feels better doing online dating, but not sure what to write for a profile. I obviously want a profile that will get alot of attention and replies from potential dates, but don't want to sound like a goof either. Anyone have any good suggestions?
ddnnee Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 online dating sucks. tried it a few times. the girls usually lie, tend to be full of baggage and drama. not to mention some surprise children too! maybe others have better experiences?
2 Honest Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 Online dating can be a good thing. It can be hard to find honest people, and people without lots of drama. I have meet some very nice guys online, but also some real losers. Keep an open mind and always be honest that way if you do meet someone then you have nothing to hide they will get to know you for who you are.
LostoneTwice Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 I have to go with it sucks I use it out of desperation only
maria_patheticsoul Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 OMG online dating....from my own experience....i used to do this **** only for killing time when i am bored...play and fool around...until i met this guy that hit me so bad. I say it's fun if you only want to have fun...try it for sometime but be careful. Don't put your guards down unless you are very sure but then again...just try it for fun.
Disillusioned Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 It's much better to run an online dating service than to join one. Guess why.
MSUE Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 my BFF is addicted to match.com she has been a member for like 2 years and she's met loser after loser after loser...but she's also had a lot of fun sexwise so I guess it depends on what you are looking for.
leap83 Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 Which website are you planning on using? I used a website and met an incredible guy (even though he was and still is going through some emotional turmoil from his previous relationship... he's hands down amazing). If you need more info, let me know which site you're using. In my case, I used eHarmony. Profile differs from one site to another.
Green Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 Online dating in my opinion can be a good tool in getting dates. But you should not make it your only tool. Meeting girls in the real world will always put you ahead of the game because you actualy have to start from a farther back point if you meet girls online. If you meet a girl at the park or what ever and you hit it off and go on a date then the flow has already begun you guys are attracted but when you get a date from a girl online then its your first time meeting and not until the second or third date will a true flow probably start if it ever happens. Obviously you might meet a great girl online but if you see a pretty girl at the mall or what ever I suggest you peek your courage and start a conversation and see if you hit things off with the girls you encounter in real life
Rose_mermaid Posted August 10, 2009 Posted August 10, 2009 My opinion with online dating because of the huge pool you can easily become of of grass-is-always-greener mentality or the Dating Attention Deficit Disorder person . I used the online dating and the benefits was lots of dates, I had hard time to manage my dates and also confuse on the information I got about the dates, but I could not go in a deep relation with someone because I could not focus on him. My therapist told to me to stop the online dating.
Author DSM2709 Posted August 13, 2009 Author Posted August 13, 2009 Thanks everyone. Plentyoffish.com is what I am using right now. Match.com is second. Fling.com, well no luck there.
dunstable Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 I've had a lot of luck with online dating and, before online dating existed, with telephone/newspaper dating systems, and traditional dating agencies. As a reserved person, I would never meet anyone if I relied on chance encounters. As a choosy person, I need to screen a lot of people and could never do that through chance encounter. Sure, there are a lot of people on any dating site not worth considering but they are easy to screen out. One way of starting off from a better database of potential partners, is to go somewhere where they charge a LOT of money to join. But that does not make the people on the database nicer people -- it just means either they are affluent or they have invested their savings in the hope of meeting a "better" class of person. I used one such agency many years ago -- they required all their clients to have degrees and a professional job and to meet a minimum level of physical attractiveness (assessed by personal interview by the lady who ran it; she also refused to take female clients over 40!). It worked well for me at that time but I don't think one needs to go to that expense nowadays. I thoroughly recommend online dating.
LovedByHim Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 I've met my man on plentyoffish, but it sure took a couple of creepoids before I found him. He's a great man, though. Neither of us really have any outstanding weird issues that would make us want to try online dating - it was just far easier than picking up someone from a bar or something like that. What most attracted me to him was his light-hearedness I managed to get from his profile. He was true to himself and seemed like he just wanted to have a good time and some good laughs, which is what I wanted at the time. Who knew we'd fall in love? Anyhoo, good luck with it. There are some decent people out there who want match-making done a little easier for them. Meeting them online is a good way to do it. I did meet some real whackos though, and my man admitted that he met a few head-cases from the female department. So you just have to wade through the bad before you get to the good. Kiss enough frogettes and.. well.. you know the saying. Good luck! Don't let the nay-sayers who say that it's a ridiculous way to meet your partner get you down. I just moved in with my guy, and I'm on constant cloud 9.
boogieboy Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Just be honest and make yourself out to be fun and busy, and love everything about your life. Most of the time, the women look at your height and picture first. So if youre not much to look at, online dating wont work for you.
moo Posted September 4, 2009 Posted September 4, 2009 Thanks everyone. Plentyoffish.com is what I am using right now. Match.com is second. Fling.com, well no luck there. Plentyoffish.com is the bottom of the barrel...strange, weird, just really bottom of the barrel. I met the worse boyfriend I ever had in my life on singlesnet.com, but I will say, overall, I like it the best. The strangest people and creeps I have ever met in my life were from online dating...men with enormous baggage, liars, married men, etc. I met this one man who was divorce, but that his divorce was a secret. For holidays his ex-wife pretend to be married to please his mother. If I were to become his girlfriend, I would never be allowed at family functions until after his mother dies. This is the kind of scum that is on online dating. I met a man whose ex-wife left him for another woman. It was all he ever talked about. He kept calling her his wife. I also got a long letter from someone one day, and the same letter from someone else another day. People play games online. I met a man with a rash all the way from his forhead down to his groin, who demanded to know how much I weighed. When I expressed my displeasure at his attitude, he acccused me of "trying to set him up." I've met scam artists. I'm gratful that I was able to see them for what they were. When I did not give them any money after they told me their sob stories, they went to somone else. Fortunately, with almost all scum, it never went anywhere past the first phone call.
Calendula Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Avoid the following vague and poorly defined terms in your profile description: laid back, easy going, down to earth, light hearted, fun. Avoid spelling errors and grammatical errors, at least big ones, anyway. Use proper capitalization and spell out words (don't use the text message abbreviations). Good writing in your profile description shows a lot about your education level and your attention to detail. Make sure your first three sentances actually say something besides: "I hate writing these things," "I don't know what to put here," "I'm just a great guy looking for a good time," etc. When searching, a woman may never get past your first three lines of your profile description so make sure the beginning of your pofile description isn't wasted space, or indirectly say to her that you have no clue and aren't really serious about finding a good date. While a lot of people may look at only height and pictures, if you are serious about online dating to find someone to be with, these aren't the people you want to be contacting you anyway. Take some time to think long and hard about what you would want from a potential match and try and put as much detail in your description as you can, both about you and what you are looking for in a partner. If you are not sure about something important, say this. Be honest. Be specific. Even if it means admitting that you may not be a perfect 'fun loving, good times' kind of guy.
Calendula Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Oh, and don't refer to a woman as a girl unless you really want a girl.
serialdating Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 Hi, On my side I had many good experiences with online dating websites. I guess that you need to find the right site for you. There is so many possibilities out there. You should start your search with a website like Matebook.net that list online websites by categories and countries. Good luck with your search for love.
Neutrino Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 IMO online dating is great if you know what you're doing. I met 2 guys that way (not at the same time of course) the first one I dated for some 6 months but since our future plans were different we stayed friends (he really wanted a family and I chose to be child-free), then a couple of years later I met my BF now (over 5 years). I was not impressed with the offer at the local bars, my BF (now) was not impressed with women in bars asking him what car he drove and how much he earned before they kindly allowed him to buy them a drink... (prostitution is at least honest... ) We chatted for over 2 months before we met though. Be honest in what you say - any lie would be found out when you meet the person. Add a nice picture - but still a realistic one. Be aware of scammers (beautiful Russian women who turn out to be big, hairy and sometimes armed dudes...), be aware what information you put out there. If you have the slightest suspicion - do not pursue a contact. Take the time to get to know someone - save records of convo's so you can later analyze and check for inconsistencies.
whiteberry Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 Just wondering if anyone has had any luck with online dating? If, so I am a guy who feels better doing online dating, but not sure what to write for a profile. I obviously want a profile that will get alot of attention and replies from potential dates, but don't want to sound like a goof either. Anyone have any good suggestions? Online dating is good only when you don't have enough time to go out and meet new friends like going to a party etc... I have friends who got luck in online dating where they found someone special. The good thing about online dating is here you can find a serious and long time relationship. But ofcourse not all the people here are perfect, that's why you might meet a person who have children already. If ever, don't discriminate them... because they just here to find true love... to find someone who will accept them and heal the pain in their heart.
Neutrino Posted September 15, 2009 Posted September 15, 2009 Or as evidence in a murder trial. Clarify, if you don't like someone - you can also just refuse an appointment of say goodbye... No need to resort to extremes... LOL
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