imonyourside Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 WHORE!!!!!!!!!!! Just kidding. You are 18, I am 22 - haven't got a whole lot on you ...but I know that you may think you are in love with him but you aren't. Infact, a lot of people think they are in love when they aren't. Everyone is soo excited to be in love, they think they are in love once they hit a certain time marker in their relationship. True and absolute love is NOT cheating. Infact, how would you feel if your bf said he loves you and then told you he had been cheating on you with MULTIPLE people. As in , it was not an accident because it happened more than once? Would you really think he loved you whole-heartedly? Like others have said, if your sex life is so important you should consider being with someone who shares that opinion. Obviously this guy does not fulfill your needs and never will. He needs a girl who doesn't care much about a sex life - doesn't sound like you, right? I understand where you are coming from, I do. I've been there before....... but he is not "the one". You will realize this down the road after you've left him, and started dating someone else. There are millions of people in this world - you don't think any other guy will be just as charming or sensitive or whatever other qualities you listed to begin with???
Hkizzle Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 Errr........does he finger or go down on you? You know a guy that knows how to finger or go down on a girl well can keep that girl happy even if the actual sex doesn't do it for her. As for what the other people have to say, forget it. Lots of the people here have had cheating partners and out to lynch anyone that cheats even if they come for advice. I don't know why they even bother to post.
loveslife Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 Lalalauren, you don't realize it because you're feeling defensive but the answers you got are good ones. Mature adults do take responsibility for their actions.
2sure Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 Why get married ? Why get married at 20? Do you want a crappy sex life for the next 50 years? Do you want to go into the marriage knowing you will probably cheat on him? You said he wanted to make good money and buy a house some day. When? When he finishes college or gets moved to first shift? You get engaged and married when those things are reality. He is already as you describe physically disabled (20 yr old w/ body of a 90 yo). If the money, house, family, and sex are important to you....you may want to hold off to see if any of them can realistically happen.
Hkizzle Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 Why get married ? Why get married at 20? Do you want a crappy sex life for the next 50 years? Do you want to go into the marriage knowing you will probably cheat on him? You said he wanted to make good money and buy a house some day. When? When he finishes college or gets moved to first shift? You get engaged and married when those things are reality. He is already as you describe physically disabled (20 yr old w/ body of a 90 yo). If the money, house, family, and sex are important to you....you may want to hold off to see if any of them can realistically happen. That's a good point. Why get married at 20? So you get divored at 23? There's no rush to get married. I don't know why so many people want to get married so soon these days when the divorce rate is so high.
MrFun Posted August 4, 2009 Posted August 4, 2009 There's no rush to get married. I don't know why so many people want to get married so soon these days when the divorce rate is so high. Sign of the times. It's easy these days. Everyone on TV tells you to be a rock star, products tell you "you're worth it", role models get married and then get divorced on the same day, everyone cheats, it's all one big gang bang, and then you click together your ideal partner online at one of the big dating agencies. Problem is, when you turn 25, you've done all the threesomes in the world, you've been married and divorced, own two houses, you're in debt and raising a kid as a single mum. If only you could get rid of that tramp stamp you'd be right I'm getting old...
Spectre Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 Eh, I'd say she is a whore. Being a whore can mean different things. It doesn't always mean said whore has slept with a bunch of guys. I mean to me, if you're in a relationship and go sleep with another guy..I think that in itself is pretty slutty. You're saying you had a threesome with two other guys, and you did this while you're with a guy you claim to be in love with. I don't see how that isn't slutty. If you were single, fine, more power to you. But to do so while in a relationship? Bah, it's disgusting to think of a girl doing that and then going and being with her bf. I sometimes wonder what the world is coming to if people can treat people they claim to love in such a way. Also, as others have said, you do not love this guy. You can come here and tell us that you do and tell us that you're sorry and tell us that you won't do it again..and that's all fine and dandy, and perhaps you truly are sorry...you'd have to be a pretty messed up person to not feel bad over doing this. Thing is, actions speak louder than words. If you truly loved him, you would of stopped yourself from doing these things, yet you did not. It's easy to feel bad and say you're sorry after the fact, but it takes true love to say..you know what, I love my bf and I'm simply not gonna do this to him. You failed to do that. You're 18 years old, the fact that you're so concerned with sex that you'd go have a threesome is not a good sign at the person you'll potentially become in the future. Again, not because of the act itself, but because you did while in a relationship and are lying about it. Think about how in the future guys you are with will react to the information that you cheated on a guy you claimed to love multiple times, one being a threesome. I feel sorry for this guy because I can tell you aren't going to tell him the truth. I can also tell that you probably are going to cheat on him again. However, I say this to you: If you truly think you love this guy, then break up with him. If you truly care about him you would want him to be able to be with a girl who actually cares for him and won't do this to him. You would realize you are not the right girl for him. That's the sad thing, people who cheat never think of it that way, the best thing you can do when you cheat is to just stay out of that person's life. They might say they forgive you, but in the end they deserve better.
Dexter Morgan Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 So.. I've cheated on him. with 4 different people. ya don't say? well its real simple......break off the engagement. you clearly don't love or respect him. He deserves better and you aren't about to want to stop cheating anytime soon. He doesn't know about any of these because if I tell him, he will leave me with no questions asked, and no explaining. whats to explain? you got an explanation for him as to why you cheated? you think any explanation will matter? you need to leave this relationship anyway. I love him, don't get me wrong. bulls#t and onions....no, you do not love him. you don't f#ck other people if you love someone else. I really do love him. no.....you REALLY don't. But I need good sex, and I'm just not being fully satisfied. then break off the engagement and go off and have all the sex you want with as many people as you want. set him free from you. I know it was wrong of me. But survey shows that most women in marriages these days do cheat if they have bad sex with their partner. oh, so a survey justifies what you did? truly pathetic. I'm not married to him yet, but I'm afraid I'm going to be one of those people. you will be...you already are.....break up with him and spare him even more pain in the future.
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