lofi_tokyo Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 Has a one night stand ever lead to a relationship - either short term or long term - for you? Just curious. I recently hooked up with a guy I've known for ages (we've played co-ed sports together growing up, and still play in the same sporting community) that I've never considered dating or even really had a crush on. Our one night stand was exactly that - a one night stand - I don't think either of us saw it coming, or had been particularly attracted to one another before that night. The thing is, now hes on my radar! Its kind of like "wow where did HE come from?". I don't have any expectations for the future, just to be clear, but I'm now wondering... Have any of you out there ended up falling for and dating a one night stand?
Citizen Drawn Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 no, for me the whole point of a one nighter is for it to be a one nighter, but a friend of mine (who must have slept his way through half the city), married the woman he last had a one night stand with 3 years ago..
xpaperxcutx Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 You do understand there is a difference between ONS and FWB? ONS means having sex once and once only. There is no possibility of any emotional development because the both of you have already " put out". Think high school. ONS is basically " I'll tap that" and getting there without the attachment. Maybe you're asking for a FWB.
Author lofi_tokyo Posted August 1, 2009 Author Posted August 1, 2009 no, for me the whole point of a one nighter is for it to be a one nighter, but a friend of mine (who must have slept his way through half the city), married the woman he last had a one night stand with 3 years ago.. lol well I guess you never know huh? and I guess it would kill the fun of a one night stand if anything was expected afterwards
Fay Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 Have any of you out there ended up falling for and dating a one night stand? Yes, half of my relationships have started off as ONS's. But I'll do you one better, and this one ought to give you heart. This girl I know (won't mention any names) was a call girl for a few months. No one knew she was doing this, except for her clients. While doing this, she got into a relationship with an old friend of hers, who obviously also didn't know. The relationship was lukewarm and the guy ended up leaving her for a girl he'd never met even though my friend had given him the world. Even though she was in that business, she knew how to separate business from pleasure and treated him like a king. She was way too good for him, and he still ditched out. A week before that happened, she had gotten a call. New client, found her on an ad site. She thought from the sound of his voice he'd be some stern middle-aged guy. She showed up and found this GLORIOUS boy around her same age who, judging by the way he looked, frequented the same circles as she did in her personal time. (My friend has very specific circles she runs in. Relating to music.) They hit it off from the start, talked music, philosophy, politics, religion, movies and TV shows... the works. They turned out to have close friends in common and swore each other to secrecy. He had apparently called her because he had just broken up with his long-term girlfriend a few days before and was very lonely. When it was time to leave, my friend invited the guy out to karaoke the coming week, because she likes to sing. He happily promised to go. He called on karaoke day just like he said he would. They went. A pitcher of beer into the night he tells her he could "so easily fall in love" with her. She shyly reciprocates. They make plans for dinner the following Monday. That weekend the boyfriend leaves her for the girl he'd been seeing long-distance on the side. She gets a text from the client guy on Monday. She was heartbroken over BF's ditching, but says nothing on the matter. Just that she couldn't make it tonight, but could they meet tomorrow night instead. Agreed. Client guy shows up on Tuesday with a bouquet of red roses. At the sight of them, my friend breaks down crying. He asks, "Why does it make you cry? I brought them to make you happy..." She tells him the story: she had told the boyfriend that same day that the only way he could ever win her back is if he showed up to her doorstep with a bouquet of roses. He says, "Maybe it's fate that I should be the one to bring you the roses instead." And so they lived happily ever after. They fell in love and he was the last client she ever took. In one of their recent fights, she threw him all the money he'd paid her (not a small sum, I assure you), and even after their making up, she never took it back. Even though she desperately needs it right now. She loves him with all her heart and even if they were to break up someday she has told me that he's left such a stamp on her heart that she could never, NEVER go back to it again. How's THAT for a one-night-stand-turned-romance story? And it's 100% true.
caramel c Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 No, I've never had a one night stand. I only know of one couple who slept together the first day they met who ended up in a relationship and eventually got married. They're divorced.
C-i-C-u Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 Yes, half of my relationships have started off as ONS's. But I'll do you one better, and this one ought to give you heart. This girl I know (won't mention any names) was a call girl for a few months. No one knew she was doing this, except for her clients. While doing this, she got into a relationship with an old friend of hers, who obviously also didn't know. The relationship was lukewarm and the guy ended up leaving her for a girl he'd never met even though my friend had given him the world. Even though she was in that business, she knew how to separate business from pleasure and treated him like a king. She was way too good for him, and he still ditched out. A week before that happened, she had gotten a call. New client, found her on an ad site. She thought from the sound of his voice he'd be some stern middle-aged guy. She showed up and found this GLORIOUS boy around her same age who, judging by the way he looked, frequented the same circles as she did in her personal time. (My friend has very specific circles she runs in. Relating to music.) They hit it off from the start, talked music, philosophy, politics, religion, movies and TV shows... the works. They turned out to have close friends in common and swore each other to secrecy. He had apparently called her because he had just broken up with his long-term girlfriend a few days before and was very lonely. When it was time to leave, my friend invited the guy out to karaoke the coming week, because she likes to sing. He happily promised to go. He called on karaoke day just like he said he would. They went. A pitcher of beer into the night he tells her he could "so easily fall in love" with her. She shyly reciprocates. They make plans for dinner the following Monday. That weekend the boyfriend leaves her for the girl he'd been seeing long-distance on the side. She gets a text from the client guy on Monday. She was heartbroken over BF's ditching, but says nothing on the matter. Just that she couldn't make it tonight, but could they meet tomorrow night instead. Agreed. Client guy shows up on Tuesday with a bouquet of red roses. At the sight of them, my friend breaks down crying. He asks, "Why does it make you cry? I brought them to make you happy..." She tells him the story: she had told the boyfriend that same day that the only way he could ever win her back is if he showed up to her doorstep with a bouquet of roses. He says, "Maybe it's fate that I should be the one to bring you the roses instead." And so they lived happily ever after. They fell in love and he was the last client she ever took. In one of their recent fights, she threw him all the money he'd paid her (not a small sum, I assure you), and even after their making up, she never took it back. Even though she desperately needs it right now. She loves him with all her heart and even if they were to break up someday she has told me that he's left such a stamp on her heart that she could never, NEVER go back to it again. How's THAT for a one-night-stand-turned-romance story? And it's 100% true. Where is this large metropolis that you live in? I had sex with an hooker once, and I was burned. I don't ever get into a relationship with a hooker because they are not nice people.
MSUE Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 I've had plenty of ONS and that's all they were...Thank GOD! lol
Fay Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 I don't ever get into a relationship with a hooker because they are not nice people. Well, that's kind of a blanket statement based on one single experience. My friend is the nicest and most kindhearted person you'd ever meet.
Hkizzle Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 The thing is, now hes on my radar! Its kind of like "wow where did HE come from?". I don't have any expectations for the future, just to be clear, but I'm now wondering... Have any of you out there ended up falling for and dating a one night stand? The thing you experienced happens to many people, more women than men though. It's to do with pair bonding hormones that are released after sex. Whilst it doesn't mean every time a woman has a ONS with a guy she will fall for the guy, there is the potential there.
tinklebell Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 The thing you experienced happens to many people, more women than men though. It's to do with pair bonding hormones that are released after sex. Whilst it doesn't mean every time a woman has a ONS with a guy she will fall for the guy, there is the potential there. You mean it happens to men too? The pair bonding hormones?
whimsical_memory Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 Has a one night stand ever lead to a relationship - either short term or long term - for you? Just curious. I recently hooked up with a guy I've known for ages (we've played co-ed sports together growing up, and still play in the same sporting community) that I've never considered dating or even really had a crush on. Our one night stand was exactly that - a one night stand - I don't think either of us saw it coming, or had been particularly attracted to one another before that night. The thing is, now hes on my radar! Its kind of like "wow where did HE come from?". I don't have any expectations for the future, just to be clear, but I'm now wondering... Have any of you out there ended up falling for and dating a one night stand? Married my one night stand. Stayed married for 7 years.
BenThereDunThat Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 Has a one night stand ever lead to a relationship - either short term or long term - for you? Just curious. I recently hooked up with a guy I've known for ages (we've played co-ed sports together growing up, and still play in the same sporting community) that I've never considered dating or even really had a crush on. Our one night stand was exactly that - a one night stand - I don't think either of us saw it coming, or had been particularly attracted to one another before that night. The thing is, now hes on my radar! Its kind of like "wow where did HE come from?". I don't have any expectations for the future, just to be clear, but I'm now wondering... Have any of you out there ended up falling for and dating a one night stand? I just recently experienced almost the exact same thing. I've been going through some kind of personal sexual revolution lately. And it's been fun, I have no regrets, but I'm pretty much over it now. The one who wasn't on my radar? That's the one that made me realize that deep-down I am looking for a connection and I started hoping/thinking that it could happen with him. It won't but that's the lumps I have to take, given the way we got together. There was no promise of anything. I've seen it happen though. I don't think it's impossible.
Toasted Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 My one attempt at a one night stand turned on a 6 month relationship. FAIL In a good way at least...
WineCountry Posted August 2, 2009 Posted August 2, 2009 . This girl I know (won't mention any names) was a call girl for a few months. No one knew she was doing this, except for her clients. While doing this, she got into a relationship with an old friend of hers, who obviously also didn't know. The relationship was lukewarm and the guy ended up leaving her for a girl he'd never met even though my friend had given him the world. Even though she was in that business, she knew how to separate business from pleasure and treated him like a king. She was way too good for him, and he still ditched out. A week before that happened, she had gotten a call. New client, found her on an ad site. She thought from the sound of his voice he'd be some stern middle-aged guy. She showed up and found this GLORIOUS boy around her same age who, judging by the way he looked, frequented the same circles as she did in her personal time. (My friend has very specific circles she runs in. Relating to music.) They hit it off from the start, talked music, philosophy, politics, religion, movies and TV shows... the works. They turned out to have close friends in common and swore each other to secrecy. He had apparently called her because he had just broken up with his long-term girlfriend a few days before and was very lonely. When it was time to leave, my friend invited the guy out to karaoke the coming week, because she likes to sing. He happily promised to go. He called on karaoke day just like he said he would. They went. A pitcher of beer into the night he tells her he could "so easily fall in love" with her. She shyly reciprocates. They make plans for dinner the following Monday. That weekend the boyfriend leaves her for the girl he'd been seeing long-distance on the side. She gets a text from the client guy on Monday. She was heartbroken over BF's ditching, but says nothing on the matter. Just that she couldn't make it tonight, but could they meet tomorrow night instead. Agreed. Client guy shows up on Tuesday with a bouquet of red roses. At the sight of them, my friend breaks down crying. He asks, "Why does it make you cry? I brought them to make you happy..." She tells him the story: she had told the boyfriend that same day that the only way he could ever win her back is if he showed up to her doorstep with a bouquet of roses. He says, "Maybe it's fate that I should be the one to bring you the roses instead." And so they lived happily ever after. They fell in love and he was the last client she ever took. In one of their recent fights, she threw him all the money he'd paid her (not a small sum, I assure you), and even after their making up, she never took it back. Even though she desperately needs it right now. She loves him with all her heart and even if they were to break up someday she has told me that he's left such a stamp on her heart that she could never, NEVER go back to it again. How's THAT for a one-night-stand-turned-romance story? And it's 100% true. Yeahhhhhh... okay but you know what, OP? Dont start thinking that is going to happen to you. Some ONS may lead into something, but i'm willing to BET cold cash that most DONT!! Espescially when you are the female half of the equation. Men want to get laid. If you give it to them, dont start hoping for it to lead into a romance because it probably wont. Im not into ONS myself.
thegoodlife Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 I have a friend who's ONS developed into a 2 year relationship. That's the only time I've seen it happen though and I've never had a ONS myself.
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