WineCountry Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 Bob, I was just reading another thread on this site where the chick is like 23 and the guy 30 years older. She gave him her number and he REPEATEDLY CALLED her the SAME NIGHT basically saying something like I want to talk to you but you don't answer your phone. This chick is still contemplating whether to talk to this guy or not and even possibly start a relationship with him....and I haven't heard anyone say that was CREEEPY....but yet your little email is creepy....get real. . Hell yeah that is creepy. Gimme a break. I hadnt read that thread yet. You know, Dysfunction comes in all forms. There are also women who get their a$$es beat and still keep relationships with the men. So, some chick still thinking about dating a guy who acts like that is no surprise. That control starts some where. but yet your little email is creepy....get real. Makes me wonder how many ' little emails ' you have sent out.
Citizen Drawn Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 Can you understand that, lil' buddy? Now, why dont you go ride your trikie, and let grown folks talk. No need for this If she finds it creepy, she'll spend about 10 seconds thinking "creepy" and that will be the end of that. I don't see what Bob has to lose even if it's unlikely she'll respond. As for the comment about it not going anywhere if she responds because "she's just not that into him", well they haven't even met up, so I think you're jumping the gun a bit.
WineCountry Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 Trahn..you have a post asking whether you should go on a date with a chick who blew you off for a date, or just blow her off in return. Yet here you are telling this guy to go for it. LOL Why couldnt you take your OWN advice? You are telling Bob to go for it in the face of a blow off. Yet, you hestitated in the face of a supposed blow off..got insulted even. Bit of a hypocrite?
Author BobSacamento Posted August 3, 2009 Author Posted August 3, 2009 Ok so that's a very passionate and definite YES to it being Stalkerish behavior. Got it. I find it funny you think I'll still get the date.
WineCountry Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 Yeah I sent it. Now I play the waiting game. What's it going to be? Positive response or restraining order? Place your bets. Dawn..first of all, i will post whatever i want. You dont need to tell me 'no need for this'. You can, but I wont listen, because who are you? Dont waste your effort. As far as me "jumping the gun" about what will happen with Bob. Read the above quote. He asked what we thought was gonna happen. Said to place our bets. Well, what I posted is what I think will happen. He asked, I told him. Alrighty then. You want a trikie too?
trahn Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 @ WineCountry, hey, I didn't mean to rattle your pacemaker...just kidding...listen, I understand your viewpoint and was not attempting to insult you. I was just saying the facts as I see them. I think in your case you're making way too many assumptions. Let me explain. You keep "assuming" that this lady closed her account without getting in contact with Bob because of something "HE DID." Or maybe she closed it for other reasons but he wasn't important enough to her to finalize these plans and this is why he should not email her. The problem is that you're assuming way too many things. Follow me slowly. He was talking with this chick. He asked her about getting together for a coffee date. She ends up closing her account, WITHOUT setting up that date, and WITHOUT giving him a way to contact her. You think she didnt KNOW what she was doing?? You know what "ASSUMING" does, right? This chick gave Bob her NAME so obviously she felt good enough to do that. What kind of person is gonna give their name out...especially a woman if they aren't pretty damn comfortable? What part of that DON'T YOU GET? Let's suppose this lady was setting up dates with many men and one of them ended up saying nasty things to her on the site, or even worse, she set up a date with that person and it ended on a real bad note for her..then that person got in contact with her and she was like "screw this, i'm outta here" without really thinking about it. I serously doubt a real "psycho" was after here or she would of probably had enough sense to close her "facebook" account to. The point is, of course Bob isn't gonna be that important to her, they never met, but he is adament that she didn't close her account 'BECAUSE OF HIM' so for this reason alone it is NOT creepy to contact her off facebook. If she said something negative to him or even said leave me alone and just left out of the blue and he contacted her on facebook, then YES, that would be CREEPY, but this is NOT the case. It seems to me with all the facts provided here that something else with "someone" else happened with this lady and she wanted to get away from that person...so she did. Now all Bob is doing is saying Hi and that he hopes all is well....that he knows it may "seem odd" or peculiar he wrote her off facebook but that it was a quick search he did and just thought it was odd himself the way she abruptly left when he did nothing wrong to her at all. I mean what kind of person is gonna CLOSE HER ACCOUNT WHEN SHE'S ASKED OUT FOR COFFEE? C'mon WineCountry, you can do better then that. Bottom line, it appears he already WROTE THIS LADY and we'll see if she responds and if so what she says. Worst case scenario she will say it was odd she felt like he contacted her....so what.....as long as he moves on and doesn't contact her again, nothing wrong with that at all. That will ease his mind as well as he'd always wonder about "what if" and what opportunities he may of missed...now he won't have to wonder much longer. As far as I go, I don't get dissed too often WineCountry but if a woman ever told me she was uninterested, it would the last time she ever heard from me again...you only need to tell me once. I'm 34, 6'6 and pretty fit..not saying i'm super GQ but I don't have problems getting dates. I'm 50% Italian, a Taurus and the Bull definitely depicts my demeanor. I show respect and give it but when i'm disrepected the person that disrespected me ends up regretting it. I believe in you give what you expect to get. As far as spending money on women...yeah, that part you have right...i've been guilty of that on many occasions but don't regret it one bit...I do what I feel is right but I never try to buy a woman's affection. I feel I have enough solid qualities that I don't have to do that anyway. I'm not rich and I work hard for my money but I have no problem spending it on a woman i'm into. Last but not least, your idea of "technolocy" is a bit askew. Sure facebook can be used for highschool classmates, but it can also be used to find just about anyone from former co-workers to people you knew years ago for a quick fling. Myspace is the same way and people that are total strangers "HOOK UP" all the time on both sites.....but I suppose that's super CREEPY too, huh? Anyway, as stated, Bob said he sent the messaage, so it's a waiting game now and i'm interested to see how this ends up. By the way, thanks for calling me "pumpkin" that was my mother's favorite word for me growing up as a kid...I feel kinda cuddly inside when I read it.
WineCountry Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 Ok so that's a very passionate and definite YES to it being Stalkerish behavior. Got it. I find it funny you think I'll still get the date. Well..without going back to re-read your post on her personality, some folks can be kinda soft on how they...to put it kindly...nudge people aside. And im not all that sure about u getting the date. LOL
Citizen Drawn Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 [/b] Alrighty then. You want a trikie too? No I already have an ignore button to play with. (ps. flaming is uncool.)
Author BobSacamento Posted August 3, 2009 Author Posted August 3, 2009 Well..without going back to re-read your post on her personality, some folks can be kinda soft on how they...to put it kindly...nudge people aside. And im not all that sure about u getting the date. LOL Well I think when you ask the person out and they say yes then that's not nudging aside.
WineCountry Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 Oh my freaking GAWD I couldnt be bothered to read all your blather Trahn. But i will comment on what i skimmed over. I never said she closed the account because of something Bob DID. Where did i say that?? For whatever reason she closed it, SHE DID NOT GIVE HIM ANOTHER WAY TO CONTACT HER! WHAT DONT YOU GET?? I dont give a flip if she gave him her name. I have given guys my damn PHONE NUMBER and then changed my mind and just not answered the phone when they called. Wrong of me, but there it is. And as far as the technolgy stuff, gimme a break. I was just humoring you because you tried to bust me about being too old (im 43 by the way) to know about technology. Hah..thats a joke if you knew me. Anyway, I wasn't saying FACEBOOK was some big hotbed of technology..I was being sarcastic..understand the concept? I tell you what. Let's just see what happens with bob and the Closer. I call her the Closer because of the closing the account thing. Yeahh..hehehhahahah funny, eh Pumpkin? Now, lets come back this time next month and see what is going on with bob and the Closer. Im getting tired of typing the same thing over and over, and you are becoming quite the gnat. HOPEFULLY..bob will be raise -his -hand -to- GOD honest and tell us what really has happened with her. I say that even if he gets a date or two, it wont go anywhere because this woman's behavior shows she is not that into him. And he should have just left her alone. If im wrong, im wrong. ha.... But we shall see, as long as bob is willing to come back and honestly fill us in. See u at this thread in one month.
WineCountry Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 Well I think when you ask the person out and they say yes then that's not nudging aside. BOB..did you actually GO on the date???????? NO. Oh GAWD..I give up.
D-Lish Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 [quote=trahn;2307132 This chick gave Bob her NAME so obviously she felt good enough to do that. What kind of person is gonna give their name out...especially a woman if they aren't pretty damn comfortable? What part of that DON'T YOU GET? Honestly, if I respond to someone on a dating site- I'll sign my first name. So whomever I am sending the response to could potentially find me on facebook with my first name and city if they search a bit. Let's suppose this lady was setting up dates with many men and one of them ended up saying nasty things to her on the site, or even worse, she set up a date with that person and it ended on a real bad note for her..then that person got in contact with her and she was like "screw this, i'm outta here" without really thinking about it. I serously doubt a real "psycho" was after here or she would of probably had enough sense to close her "facebook" account to. Well, she could have sent him a response with a forwarding e-mail address I guess. I would have if I was choosing to leave the site and wanted to stay in touch. ....that he knows it may "seem odd" or peculiar he wrote her off facebook but that it was a quick search he did and just thought it was odd himself the way she abruptly left when he did nothing wrong to her at all. well, it's probably not a great approach to lead with that greeting:rolleyes: I mean what kind of person is gonna CLOSE HER ACCOUNT WHEN SHE'S ASKED OUT FOR COFFEE? C'mon WineCountry, you can do better then that. Hmm, I dunno- she's married, not who she says she is, has a bf, is a 50 year old man sitting in his parents basement in a dirty bathrobe and matching slippers getting his jollies. Maybe she got cold feet and second guessed her readiness for dating. The point is she closed her account- and as an extension, closed down communication with anyone she was talking to on the site. Bottom line, it appears he already WROTE THIS LADY and we'll see if she responds and if so what she says. Fair enough. if i'm disrepected the person that disrespected me ends up regretting it. your view of "technolocy" is a bit askew. How is that pronounced? By the way, thanks for calling me "pumpkin" that was my mother's favorite word for me growing up as a kid...I feel kinda cuddly inside when I read it. You should add winecountry to facebook:cool:
WineCountry Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 No I already have an ignore button to play with. (ps. flaming is uncool.) Whatever. Use that button, it's your friend. He actually flamed me first, but thats ok i suppose. Regardless, im not concerned about what you think. If something bothers you, next time just play with your button first instead of crowing at me. Have a sparkling day.
WineCountry Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 [quote=trahn;2307132 You should add winecountry to facebook:cool: Ohhh..I would LOVE that!! But, he fancies me to be too old to figure out stuff like that and whatnot. Besides, I've been quite the naughty biatch today! I dont think i would get an invite! Oh well..im just gonna wait until bob comes back in a month and tells us what happened with the Closer!
D-Lish Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 Ohhh..I would LOVE that!! But, he fancies me to be too old to figure out stuff like that and whatnot. Besides, I've been quite the naughty biatch today! I dont think i would get an invite! Oh well..im just gonna wait until bob comes back in a month and tells us what happened with the Closer! He said he's 34 in his post! That would make him older, no?
Hkizzle Posted August 3, 2009 Posted August 3, 2009 This is not a difficult question to answer. It's the same as hitting on a girl in real life. If she's ignoring you and doesn't want to talk to you take the hint. If the girl really wants to talk she will respond back. So send her a message and if she doesn't reply back then she's not interested. I've had sex with two girls I met purely through facebook. Through that application friends for sale. They started buying my friends, I bought them back, then bought the girls and started flirting with them. Then said why not meet up for a drink? If I didn't try interaction with them I never would have met them. Stalking is only when someone clearly shows they are not interested and you still push forward with it.
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