DSM2709 Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 My ex and I have only been broken up for about a week or so now. I called her today after not speaking with her for a few days, although she contacted me a few times last week. I wanted to see if she wanted to get together tomorrow night since I don't have to work, and her reply was "We'll see". How should I interpret that response, positive or negative? We broke up because simply put, I was too much of a "nice guy", and was needy, and insecure. I know now what I need to change about myself, but am having a really hard time with this breakup, she's amazing, sexy and smart and is strong willed and quick on her wits, and I'm afraid I have lost her. If we don't go out tomorrow night, then I will def. lose contact with her for at least a few months and try to move on, unless she contacts me first. We were together for almost 2 years, and in April is when it all started. We moved in together after just one year together, and then she bought a house, and my insecurities and being a "nice guy" got the best of me, and she saw that and I think she took advantage of it, because I started noticing different phone numbers and that she wasn't being very honest with me. I think she was messing around, and everytime I asked her about it, she had an answer for everything (quick witted). I was such a dumbass to not see the signs, but she has told me what she wanted in a man, but I still didn't "GET IT", now that I got it, I am afraid it's too late. How do I get over this? It's not easy. PLEASE HELP!! Thanks.
boogieboy Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 Best thing to do is completely cut her off. You dont need to hear from her, because it will torture you. SHe has completely lost interest in you, but when she says "well see" shes too chicken to tell you no, because she doesnt want to feel guilty. You have lost her for good. Theres nothing to salvage in her mind. Once you lose her attraction, its gone for a loooong time. Especially when you keep hanging around and reminding her of what she wanted to leave. DOnt take any calls from her, no texts, no emails, leave her be. You will have to deal with not hearing from her at all. Especially since you think she might have been seeing someone while she was with you, dont be a friend to her while shes seeing other people just because youre desperate fro her company. Right now while youre hanging out with her, you have been "freind zoned". You know what that means. As long as you still play the nice guy that doesnt make any moves, you have no chance. Also you are too available to her and still needy after the breakup, its even moe unattractive. Read this thread so you can understand why what you are doing will never get her where you want her. Read this thread through; http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=196251&page=3
Author DSM2709 Posted August 1, 2009 Author Posted August 1, 2009 I feel like such a SAP for believing everything she was telling about certain things when I asked her about them, whether it was phone numbers I found, or who she's been messing around with if she actually was...and because I think she knew I was a SAP, she kept playing along, and proclaiming her innocense to me, because I didn't want to lose her. Everytime, I accused her of something, she would say it was because of my "Insecurity", and that everything was fine, she always had an answer for whatever I threw at her. I knew something was wrong, not once but freakin twice in as many months she pulled this crap on me, and now it's over. Why didn't I realize the first time what was going on, and why am I so insecure and stupid. I know there are other fish in the sea, but I felt I caught a good one this time, it's more like she had the hook in my mouth the whole time.
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