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Am I so ugly that I can never marry?


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Malkor, for those of us in the US trying to convert from metric to ****ed up...what is 1.73? Is that meters, or something? Cause I could say that I'm 67. But does that help you in trying to convert?

 

he is 5ft 6.75 inches

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he is 5ft 6.75 inches

:confused: Google must be ****ed up, then. It converted 1.73 meters to 68.11 inches, which would be 5ft 8in. ???????

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I really would not want into those room-mate stuff in Netherlands, probably im gonna be the guy who plays all day with photoshop. But, I'd do it at least for a year, experience probably could not hurt at all.

 

People are generally open-minded in Holland, sexually speaking and otherwise...

 

A plus for you if you are smart and well-educated, you can get a good job and make good money -- attractive to some women... :p

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I used this to go from meters directly into feet

 

http://www.calculateme.com/Length/Meters/ToFeet.htm

OK, but there are 12 inches in a foot, not 10. So .675 multiplied by 12 = 8.1 inches. ;) The stated measurement from that site is a decimal number - not a foot/inches measurement. .675 of a foot.

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A friend of mine recommended buying a wife ...

What do you think of it? It really seems low.

She probably would be as frustrated as me.

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Yeah, man, you're not a model material, but you're not that horrible. As other have suggested, take care of the grooming aspect - there's a lot of work there and doing it will provide immediate and noticeable improvement.

 

The biggest problem however is in your eyes - the look on your face is sad, and defeated, and pretty much dead on the inside. Unfortunately it is not surprising given all that you've been through, but the single thing that would elevate your atractiveness is finding something - anything - to feel happy and excited about, so it shows on your face...

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A friend of mine recommended buying a wife ...

What do you think of it? It really seems low.

She probably would be as frustrated as me.

 

Seriously, I think you are WAY too young to be Worried about a Wife right now! Especially since you are still busy with your studies, and have yet to establish yourself in a career. You are 25 years old, and I think you should be more interested in dating (and or sex) than in marriage just yet.... seems a bit drastic to be looking for a Wife, especially one from a catalogue... what's the hurry?

How would you take a bride with you to Holland anyway, c'mon... quit the monastery/catalogue bride extreme talk. Start presenting yourself in the best light you can.

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Well ... im thinking reasonable. Im looking at my options!

Dating or sex requires good looks.

Sure, maybe I could not afford a wife right now, but,m it would be the only chance for dating or sex.

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I wish I can show you two pics of friends who are physically not attractive, but are AMAZINGLY gorgeous inside. They both got great/good looking partners.

 

I've met some of the most physically beauitful people who were SO UGLY inside that their insides made them ugly.

 

Women LOVE confidence in men. You need to gain some esteem and confidence and the TRUE gems will love you for who you are.

 

That's advice from a 40 something woman :-)

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*waves cheerfully* Hellllo!! Okay, allow me to share my insightful and thoughtful ramblings to the conversation.

 

 

Are you attractive? No, but you already know that! I'm not either, so don't feel lonely!! Are you 'children run away screaming in fright and even with a pork chop tied around ya neck the dogs still won't play with ya' ugly? Nope.

 

BUT

 

That attitude? Is ugly!! Nobody is going to want to be with someone that is

d o w n all the time!! Cheer up!!

 

You were abused as a kid, guess what? A lot of people were!! It's not a 'mope your way through life' pass!! :laugh:

 

Plastic surgery can change your outside, but it sure can't fix the inside and from where I am sitting, the INSIDE seems to be the bigger problem right now!!!

 

Someone suggested counseling, and I am going to second that motion (and not because I am going to school to be a counselor :lmao:), and I truly do hope that you take the things being said to you to heart, because honestly...you need a boost to your ego kiddo!

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Thanks all for your help.

 

But the choice is mine. Im gonna forfeit the work place and study. I wont go there just to sit around while others shmooze. Is demeaning to my ego. I do have an ego, a pretty big/good one. Let's be serious, the inside rule is indeed worthy, but only if you have the minimum on the outside. I dont, however much I'd work on it, head-shape will still remain the same. I searched and talked only with women for over 5 years. It does not matter the mind at all on the internet. You break the ice, and after you exchange pictures it's all over.

The gloom in the face is indeed important to be removed, but let's be serious, which women on this would go to bed with me, with or without the gloom!

 

Anyway, thanks a lot for your time and help invested!

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Do you realize there are women out there with head-shape issues and other things. Go find one of them; I'm sure they would marry you. :)

 

I have'nt met ONE with such issues.

OTOH, I could always go for a blind chick. :)

It's actually funny ... can you imagine such a couple? My frustrations + Her Frustrations would make the Prince of Darknesss yellow with envy.

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I have'nt met ONE with such issues.

OTOH, I could always go for a blind chick. :)

It's actually funny ... can you imagine such a couple? My frustrations + Her Frustrations would make the Prince of Darknesss yellow with envy.

 

Don't know if you qualify as disabled, but have you tried this site? http://www.disabledpassions.com/

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I have forgotten about the most important thing for attractiviness.

Your clothes should be new, clean and stylish. Clothes are an important turn on for girls. All girls like shopping and clothes and if you have attractive outfits, girls feel a connection with you.

 

As for your self-image, my guess is that you see yourself ugly mostly because you have depression. There are many ugly people around but they are great with their looks because they do not have the depression.

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The gloom in the face is indeed important to be removed, but let's be serious, which women on this would go to bed with me, with or without the gloom!

How can anybody answer that when you STILL have not posted a happy picture? :p

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Stop sugarcoating, guys. I'm not surprised that the OP has had great difficulty finding a girlfriend. I wouldn't call him ugly, but he appears to have some kind of deformity, which is in line with what he said. Most women will reject a guy simply for this reason. How many of you can honestly say you would give a guy a chance who had a facial deformity?

 

Shrugs, I would.

 

There are some women out there who see past the surface. OP, I think your best bet is to meet women online, where you can impress them with your intelligence first.

 

I actually agree with this. As stigmatised as meeting people online is (given the way 'online-dating' has been literally twisted into a rotting heap of cybersex and conjobs, I'm not surprised), if you do it the right way you might find it really does work for you. Don't do the dating site thing, those things are every bit as superficial as picking up random girls in a bar -- pictures will always be of prime importance. Instead, join a community (forums, games, etc ;)) and start talking to people. You may be surprised what you find.

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