tomtom26 Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 So I just starting dating this new girl. I kissed her for the first time last week. She's not the greatest kisser. She's definitely has a passionate drive, but she just gets up into it a bit too much. Without coming at me with a full open mouth, I think she needs to slow down, with a mouth opened just a bit, then work your way up, and even then, not suck on my entire mouth.......haha How do I go about telling her that and what should I say? Will she get embarrassed or insulted?
SoulSearch_CO Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 I don't have issue with gentle guidance - have given and received it, myself. I had only kissed two guys before my ex boyfriend before my XH. Admittedly, the first guy I kissed is a bad kisser (looking back NOW) and taught me some bad habits. LOL The second guy I kissed, we kissed upside down, so I didn't learn much and it was only one kiss. So when I kissed my 3rd - my xbf - something felt "off." He pulled back from the kiss a little and whispered gentle pointers. If you're into pleasing your partner, then I don't understand what the big deal is. If she's inexperienced, she may appreciate it. If she gets upset, then I'd say that maybe she was self-conscious about being a bad kisser, anyway. But the whispered pointers in the moment worked just fine.
You'reasian Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 Different women have different kissing styles. She might be kissing you per repetition of the last guy she kissed or have little experience.
Lucky_One Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 You can always use a little gentle dominance. Spread your fingers and run them carefully into her hair, and hold her head softly but firmly. Start teasing her mouth with yours, and gently but physically keep her mouth from coming towards you full-on. You control the pressure, you control the mouth and tongue movement, and you can withhold a full French kiss for ages doing this, teasing and teasing her. Let her see (and feel!) that lip nibbles and pulling her bottom lip into your mouth and little light tongue strokes feel exquisite, and she will learn how to be a better kisser with your guidance, without your having to say much more than a whispered "Slow down - I want to kiss you all night".
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