Jimmy's_Brother Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 I'm a guy in his twenties. I talk to my mom about once every week to once every two weeks. She loooves to guilt-trip me about this. She goes, "The last time I heard from you was when I lent you money!" I said, "Mom. It's not normal for a guy my age to talk to his mom all the time. Don't guilt-trip me. Get over it." Anyone else deal with this kind of parental guilt-trip thing?
Star Gazer Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 My BF talks to his dad every day, and his mom almost every day. I talk to mine 3 times a week, on average. Perhaps she's just irritated because she feels like you only call her when you need cash?
Author Jimmy's_Brother Posted July 31, 2009 Author Posted July 31, 2009 My BF talks to his dad every day, and his mom almost every day. That's a bit needy for a grown man, IMO. Perhaps she's just irritated because she feels like you only call her when you need cash? Yep. Welcome to the world of 20-somethings.
Athos Posted August 5, 2009 Posted August 5, 2009 If you don't have any older siblings, it could just be that she is not used to not keeping in contact with her children. I'm sure she will stop guilt tripping you over time.
TaraMaiden Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 My parents are in another country, but at least twice a week, sometimes more. A guy your age is just finding his feet in the adult world, flexing his wings and gaining independence. Mums hate that. She's been your carer all your life so far, so it hurts when we cut the strings. A lot. As you get older, you'll probably become more comfortable with talking more often, especially if you start a family and create your own world.... Stop ringing her with motive, and just ring her out of affection. You'll wish you'd spoken more with her when she's not there any more.
Citizen Erased Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 I usually talk to my mother about once a week, sometimes less and sometimes more. I see her every fortnight or so. My dad, maybe twice a year. Three if we bother to call each other at Christmas.
HsMomma Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 I talk to my mom every day - usually twice! 'Course, we're extraordinarily close, so I'm sure this isn't the norm, but I enjoy talking to her.
2sure Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 Guilt Trip ? My parents have been dead since I was 17. I miss them every single day. Call your Mom.
Crimson Tide Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 Guilt trip?! She's your mother, carried you for 9 months and went through all the pain in giving birth... Unbelievable.
KikiW Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 Wow, some of you are quite sharp in your criticism! I have gone a week to two weeks without talking to my mother. I do try and make the effort because I know she likes to hear from me at least twice a week, but to be honest if it didn't matter to her, I'd probably go back to every week to two weeks. If you ARE calling her every week to two weeks and asking her for money when you do, she is simply making an observation that she feels like your personal bank, and she has every right to tell you so. Try upping the contact to every few days, and leave off asking for anything - just fill her in on the latest exciting news. She'll be thrilled you checked in and you won't feel like you're being guilted. I also found that since my mom joined Facebook, we catch up more often. Perhaps you can do the same and she will feel more included in your life.
TaraMaiden Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 "Q: When does Facebook lose its cool? A: When your dad adds you as a friend...." Nooooooooo way......!! Not a good thing....! you really want a 20-year-old to talk to his mom on facebook? And have access to his profile...?!? That's gonna happen, isn't it...??!? :laugh:
New Again Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 I call my mom once, maybe twice a week on average. She NEVER calls me, ever. But you can bet if she doesn't hear from me every couple days, my SISTER will get a phone call from her wondering why I hate her. I'm in my mid-20s, so I very much doubt the guilt trips will ever stop.
BUENG1 Posted August 6, 2009 Posted August 6, 2009 My BF talks to his dad every day, and his mom almost every day. I talk to mine 3 times a week, on average. Perhaps she's just irritated because she feels like you only call her when you need cash? I'd say I talk to my parents about the same as SG. Mom 3-5 times a week and dad, once a week, sometimes once every 2 weeks.
Eve Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 I usually get 'drop called' so that the kids can save their mobile phone credit for more important things.. and they still live at home! I get calls whilst at work just to say 'Hi' and talk about random things.. and now I am working locally again my youngest daughter will revert back to going out of her way to walk from school to my place of work so that we can do stuff after I have finished. My eldest starts Uni on September 13th and I think it will be a case of my responding to her 'drop calls' just to chat about whatever she is up to. So, I am yet to experience not being called on a regular basis. I think I will be happy to know that my eldest is happy where she is and safe and any gaps in communication I will take to mean that she is on some sort of adventure. She is very capable and smart so I dont think that I will worry too much. ... Or, come mid September I may be a crumbling wreck? I doubt it but my daughter thinks that I will be. No, I am actually looking forward to my kids being settled in their lives. Hubby and I have an adventure or two we would like to embark upon! Take care, Eve xx
Shygirl15 Posted August 7, 2009 Posted August 7, 2009 That's a bit needy for a grown man' date=' IMO.[/quote'] lol! Yep, that would turn me off completely. My dad is gone now, but I used to call him at least once a month. I text my mom every other day, and talk to her perhaps once a week, sometimes once a month, depends. She never takes guilt trips on me because it takes some efforts to call since she's about 10,000 miles away.
whichwayisup Posted August 8, 2009 Posted August 8, 2009 If you don't have 'issues' with your parents and things are more or less good between you all, (Other than the guilt trips) then once a week or so should be cool. The older you get, the more you'll appreciate your folks. WHO CARES what other people think! I had tons of friends, both male and female, who spoke to their parents afew times a week in their 20's once they moved out. One day they won't be around, so please keep that in mind..
bentnotbroken Posted August 15, 2009 Posted August 15, 2009 I usually talk to my mom a couple of times a day. We call to tell jokes or something silly. I talk to my son daily even if it is only to say love you:love:
Odyssey Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 When i was young i couldn't stand 'em because they treated me like a child. Stupid immature logic huh? But as you get older, I find i can talk more openly to them. Sometimes i can see they want to get away from me! Funny that.
Flyleaf7889 Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 I talk to my parents everyday! ^.^ But then again, I live with them, so that explains a lot...
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