dreamergrl Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 There is this guy I'd love to flirt with that I've been seeing almost daily at the library. Today I looked at his left hand ring finger, which sports a silver band, but doesn't look like a traditional wedding band. I wanted to flirt with him a bit when he held the door open for me, but I don't want to hit on a married guy! But every day I see him in a suite and tie, and I drool and drool....
Jimmy's_Brother Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 The only single guy who ever wore a ring was George Costanza, and that didn't work out for him very well.
Author dreamergrl Posted July 31, 2009 Author Posted July 31, 2009 Well I've seen guys sport rings before - just not on that finger - so I thought maaaybe he was just wearing it. Perhaps I'll check the finger out next time, and if it's not there, I could assume it was just for wear?
Jimmy's_Brother Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 Dude, of course the finger on which he has the ring is the most important thing. If it's not on his left RING finger, then hit on him!
Author dreamergrl Posted July 31, 2009 Author Posted July 31, 2009 That sucks Oh well, life goes on, and other hotties I shall pursue Buuut.. What if it's not on the next time I see him? I just can't remember if I saw it the other day.
rod_in_gtown Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 Actually most cultures wear the wedding band on the left hand before marriage (e.g. during engagement) and when they marry, they switch it from the left hand to the right hand. I think north America is the only continent that still wears the ring on the left pre and post wedding.
rod_in_gtown Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 Yeah, as a single guy I wouldn't wear any ring on that finger unless I'm purposefully trying to get the message across that I'm married. But hey, you should still flirt. As we say in Colombia: "Mejor pedir perdon que pedir permiso", (better to apologize than to ask for permission), kind of like shoot first, ask questions later.
Star Gazer Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 Buuut.. What if it's not on the next time I see him? I just can't remember if I saw it the other day. If he takes it off now, I'd still assume he's married (even if to another male... ).
samspade Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 All things being equal, I'd bet that the man with the wedding band on his left hand would attract more women than the man without. Women love going after what they can't have.
Jimmy's_Brother Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 Reference the Seinfeld episode where George wears a wedding ring to attract women. Works like a charm but they won't sleep with him out of respect for his "marriage".
samspade Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 Reference the Seinfeld episode where George wears a wedding ring to attract women. Works like a charm but they won't sleep with him out of respect for his "marriage". That's TV fiction....go to the "Other Man/Woman," "Marriage," or "Cheating" thread and you'll see that there are plenty of women willing to sleep, knowingly, with a married man - and plenty of willing, married men who will partake.
Jimmy's_Brother Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 God forbid I should try to bring a comedic ray of light to this gloomy place.
You'reasian Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 All things being equal, I'd bet that the man with the wedding band on his left hand would attract more women than the man without. Women love going after what they can't have. Includes everything from wearing a wedding band, entering the place with an attractive woman, not returning phone calls etc. And when a guy doesn't wear a wedding band, is hanging out solo and is attentive - he's a creepy guy, friend potential at best
Lucky_One Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 I've never seen a guy wear a band that didn't signify commitment of some kind. He can wear a signet ring, an onyx ring, a class ring - but a band means a woman (or a man, if he's gay).
JohnnyBlaze Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 DG if he is not wearing one next time yeah maybe' date=' but I've never heard of any guy wearing a ring on either hand on the wedding band finger unless he absolutely HAS to. They are not like us in that respect....[/quote'] I do. It's not on the left, but it is on the right side ring finger. Given that it's quite obviously a biker ring, I don't think it can be mistaken for an engagement ring. Unless you think I'm engaged to an anorexic, chain-smoking blonde named "Sabre". Years and years ago, I had a ring that my fiancée had given me early on that I wore on my left ring finger (it was a cute little ring with bunny rabbits - blatantly a girl's ring). After we split up, I left it on for a while, not wanting to admit that it was really over. Even though I was down in the dumps (and I'm sure I looked it), I got hit on so many times, it was unbelievable. Even the girls I knew couldn't believe the attention I was getting. If only I was a quick rebounder...
BobSacamento Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 As a single guy the last thing I would want to do is cause confusion for single women to flirt with me.
carhill Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 OP, it's possible the man has a gold allergy and is wearing platinum or titanium, in addition to your suggestion of silver. The ring being on his wedding ring finger is a pretty good sign he's committed to someone. FWIW, I've done it both ways, ring on and ring off, since my wife and I separated and have noted no difference in how I interact with women. So, at least in my case, it's the man and not the ring.
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