lucy loo Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 I had been dating someone for a few months (Until three weeks ago when I decided to cut contact from him.) we were sleeping together.. He is quite well known and I just found out from various google sources that he has a live in girlfriend.. what do I do?
Bejita463 Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 Well, if you've already cut contact, seems the best course of action would be to get tested for STDs and move on. I say to get tested because if he can lie about one thing, he can lie about another. You might not be the only person he cheated on his girlfriend with after all.
Author lucy loo Posted July 31, 2009 Author Posted July 31, 2009 should I tel the girlfriend... i know her name... also we live in the same area so im bound to bump into him...
norajane Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 Why were you googling him now if you broke contact weeks ago? He's not your concern anymore, so it seems best to drop it and move on. Why get further entangled in this mess? However, if I were his gf, I'd want to know he was cheating. I guess it depends on why you want to tell her. If you're angry with him, you should confront him directly instead of getting your revenge through telling his gf. If you really want to do something nice for her, then you may be able to handle the call properly. I don't know. Are you sure of these google sources and are they recent? Perhaps they broke up before he started seeing you.
Author lucy loo Posted August 1, 2009 Author Posted August 1, 2009 I checked the date on the source and it was recent.. However, I had googeld him afew weeks before this and it did not say anything about a girlfriend.. it hads been added recently People who know me have also spotted him around with other girls and one girl in particular.. I just don't get it how could I have not clocked on to this.. The source says he lives with her and I went round to his house numerous times.. The source also quotes the girls name... what on earth am I going to do... It also seems strange that he has not been in contact.. I ignored his last text (three weeks ago) however he didnt ask any questions in it just spoke about himself... he then was away for two weeks (by himself) according to his friend...
You'reasian Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 I checked the date on the source and it was recent.. However, I had googeld him afew weeks before this and it did not say anything about a girlfriend.. it hads been added recently People who know me have also spotted him around with other girls and one girl in particular.. I just don't get it how could I have not clocked on to this.. The source says he lives with her and I went round to his house numerous times.. The source also quotes the girls name... what on earth am I going to do... It also seems strange that he has not been in contact.. I ignored his last text (three weeks ago) however he didnt ask any questions in it just spoke about himself... he then was away for two weeks (by himself) according to his friend... I didn't know that google can tell you if a person has a girlfriend or boyfriend. That's amazing. Well he lives in a house with a girlfriend, presumably in the city that you all live in. He has not been in contact, maybe he's busy?
Art_Critic Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 LL.. why are you concerned with who he is living with ?.. You had already dumped him for other reasons 3 weeks ago ? Are you thinking of trying to get him back or something ?
Author lucy loo Posted August 1, 2009 Author Posted August 1, 2009 I don't want him back.. Its just killing me not knowing if this source is true and if he does have a live in girlfriend.. If he does he lied to me for months and it doesnt seem fair that he should get away with this sort of behaviour... to the girlfriiend or to me. Maybe she just moved in?? or is it possible she could have neen away? I can find out this info on google as he used to be a football player.
Art_Critic Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 Since you dumped him and don't want him back then wouldn't it be healthier for you to put your energy into something else ?... Telling his GF isn't going to solve anything.. and since you don't know their relationship they might see others.. or have been on the outs at that time and made up.. It seems he isn't part of your future so why let the cheating jerk take up any more space in your thoughts ? Next !!!
Author lucy loo Posted August 1, 2009 Author Posted August 1, 2009 But he just completely lied to me... yes maybe they got back together but if she has moved in again straight away they must have been together a bit before that happened. He was away for two weeks and I last slept with him three weeks ago... so he must have been dating both of us... A week is not long enough to get back with an ex and move in together... Plus I saw his friend this week and he was talking as if me and this guy were still together..
You'reasian Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 But he just completely lied to me... yes maybe they got back together but if she has moved in again straight away they must have been together a bit before that happened. He was away for two weeks and I last slept with him three weeks ago... so he must have been dating both of us... A week is not long enough to get back with an ex and move in together... Plus I saw his friend this week and he was talking as if me and this guy were still together.. You're being a bit creepy
huck Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 Looking at your other post - hes an ex Prem footballer yer ?? They dont have the best of reputations with staying faithful ( from what i read in the papers!) Can you give us a clue to who he is??
Author lucy loo Posted August 1, 2009 Author Posted August 1, 2009 no im not... im upset that i have been badly treated.. wouldnt any other person feel the same
Art_Critic Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 Can you give us a clue to who he is?? Why ?.. this is an anonymous forum.. if you know his name you might figure out who she is ?
Art_Critic Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 no im not... im upset that i have been badly treated.. wouldnt any other person feel the same Of course.. You have to throw yourself into something to take your mind off it and pick yourself up and go life some life.. Make him part of your past and not your present...
loveslife Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 But he just completely lied to me... yes maybe they got back together but if she has moved in again straight away they must have been together a bit before that happened. He was away for two weeks and I last slept with him three weeks ago... so he must have been dating both of us... A week is not long enough to get back with an ex and move in together... Plus I saw his friend this week and he was talking as if me and this guy were still together.. This behavior really is a bit creepy. You had to have known he was a jerk all along. Right now you're probably mad at yourself for letting that be okay. Warning the girlfriend? She probably knows he's a jerk, too.
Author lucy loo Posted August 1, 2009 Author Posted August 1, 2009 I cant say who it is... but he is not that famous only made a couple of appearances... I know I seem like im being creepy but I just can;t seem to get over this.. I just feel like such a fool.. Things just ended with no explanation from both of us and no closure... Everyone has told me not to even bother confronting him or contacting him but I cant seem to get over it.. Maybe I should confront him and get closure...
huck Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 Art-Critic. 1. I wasnt asking you to start with - but thanks for the comment. 2. I dont live anywhere near London so wouldnt have a clue who the OP is. 3. My question was being humorous anyway. You read about this every week in the Sunday papers - Prem Footballer cheats on his Wife/GF etc... If I was a Girl id be careful with getting involved with any Footballer... They literally have girls throwing themselves at them. OP - this is no offence to you at all.. Sorry your going thru this...
Author lucy loo Posted August 1, 2009 Author Posted August 1, 2009 I know that I should have known... my boss introduced us and I was so weary at first because he used to play football... However, he came across as really shy.. he used to come into where i work and couldnt even look me in the face. He also told me he left football as he didnt like the lifestyle and was a very private and shy person. He told me how his days of playing around were over and how he would never cheat on a gf... he didnt even seem experienced enough in bed to be such a player... My boss told me to send a text saying you really dissaponted me and u should grow up just to end it for good...
You'reasian Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 I know that I should have known... my boss introduced us and I was so weary at first because he used to play football... However, he came across as really shy.. he used to come into where i work and couldnt even look me in the face. He also told me he left football as he didnt like the lifestyle and was a very private and shy person. He told me how his days of playing around were over and how he would never cheat on a gf... he didnt even seem experienced enough in bed to be such a player... My boss told me to send a text saying you really dissaponted me and u should grow up just to end it for good... Its good practice to not date anyone you work with.
2sunny Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 Its good practice to not date anyone you work with. assumption are made... i read this as not someone she works with - but someone who CAME INTO her work... could be an office or a restaurant or strip club... could be anything... but not necessarily someone she works WITH. she said her boss introduced them - that's all.
2sunny Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 for the record - i find it hard to believe you can find out that info on a google source... what was the ACTUAL source of the info? it could really be inaccurate... or old info - if it's not a reliable source.
MSUE Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 Why on earth do you care? You broke up with him...he owes you no explanations...and googling it doesn't mean you are getting the truth anyways...just keep on moving with your life
preciousb Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 I went through this situation last year, i met this guy at uni and his charm immediately caught me and i became sprung. I liked him a lot, he however never told me that one of my girls friend was his girlfriend. he met me late at night and always backed out when it was plans for the afternoon. But when he was with me he said all the right things, he always texted me, he gave me attention etc. But then one night i went to a local club and he was there, this time he acted funny, no hugs no greeting and when i bumped into him at the toilets he then revealed. It was hard but i knew no matter how much i liked him i deserved a better man in my life. So my advice, it may be hard and you want to try avoid cuting full contact or you dont want to see it etc. You gotta check down below and make sure that you have not caught anything off of him and then you gotta cut him out. Go out with friends and try forget him.
Sam Spade Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 I don't approve of what he's done, but I'm nevertheless fascinated by his ability to actually pull it off , almost. I'm sincerely impressed.
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