contax Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 So it's been almost 3 months of me n/c with the girl who cheated on me after 5 years. Now she is pulling all sorts of excuses trying to talk to me. It's a little bit of an ego boost, but have decided I need to let that go too. Every now and then I get triggered and feel like I'm going to break down, but I'm doing better these days. I went through it all, wanting her back at first, but decided hell no. I'm way better than someone who cheats. I forgave her and hope she is happy, and I am moving on.
Thomas X Forever Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 Based on your post, it sounds like you have all sides covered. So what compelled you to make this topic? If you forgave her, why are you laughing at her? You have to be careful not to lie to yourself. You won't heal that way.
SunnySad Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 Maybe he posted to let everyone know that ex's do sometimes contact us after we get over them and we don't want them anymore and actually I do find it funny, good for you!
Author contax Posted July 31, 2009 Author Posted July 31, 2009 Thomas, I have been doing well. I can see what you mean by why I made this post. Like I'm still hurt etc. Also to be careful not to lie to yourself as this does not help healing. I know. I guess I made this post as a "ha ha, you didn't want me when you had me, now you want to talk? The grass isn't greener on the other side" etc - which is still wrong. I still get hurt over this. I did decide not to deal with her again though. It was very, very, very hard..as this girl was my girl. Thing is though, she didn't work, only grade 10 education...love doesn't sustain relationships, and I am better than having an emotional cheater. I write my emotions out - my hurt, fears etc... It's funny she emailed me thinking I was knifed, wanting to know if I was okay..I didn't reply...then saying that she thinks she has a disease....but she has yet to go to the doctor - and she said please please answer my calls...I know talking to you will make me feel better. Learning from my own and the horror stories of breaking n/c here I decided to stay n/c. My goal is to move on without her, with no anger or torture. In the beggining I wanted her back, when I found out she went all the way with the new dude - decided not to. I am healing too. I have been n/c for 3 months now, and feel alot better. SunnySad, that's exactly it! Thanks so much, and I'm happy you found it funny! I also quit cigarettes, and alchohol for a few months! I'm the best!
CaliGuy Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 Excellent example of self control. GOOD JOB! Watch it though. She's going to up beating at your door.
Author contax Posted August 1, 2009 Author Posted August 1, 2009 Excellent example of self control. GOOD JOB! Watch it though. She's going to up beating at your door. Bahahahaha! Thanks for the compliment as well! It's good because there have been streaks of days when she wasn't on my mind at all, where just a few months ago I was scared I was gonna be obsessed for life. Thanks again guys.
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