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Yesterday, I had a discussion with a couple of friends and they agreed that they would not date someone who had a double digit number of sexual partners.

 

I am almost 24, so I have been sexually active for the better part of 8 years. I've had two serious girlfriends for a total of 3 years. My second girlfriend was my eighth partner in 7 years, and since we broke up almost a year ago, I've been with 7 new partners(and 2 prior ones). So this brings the total to 15 women in 8 years for an average of roughly 2 partners per year of sexual activity. So as far as the average goes that's pretty much a new partner every 6 months. Is that really so bad that you would hold it against someone, 2 partners per year?

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i personally would NOT want to know your number, nor would i ask.

 

i do not think it is terribley relevant.... my only question would be about your sexual health (STD's and the like) and i would hope that would the most important concern to you.

 

numbers are numbers, it's doesn't mean you were a good lay or that you aren't.

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The only time a person's sexual history should come into play is if there's a possible issue with STDs. All that can be avoided by getting checked out by your local health unit or family doc before getting into a new relationship.

 

As far as numbers go, it's frankly nobody else's business, and that includes your new partner.

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As a personal rule, whenever a guy I dated asked me how many my number was I would say

 

"You first".

 

After they told me their number, I would say

 

"what a coincidence! thats my number too!"

 

If they didn't act stupid about it and the relationship because something worth talking about, I might actually answer the question truthfully.

 

I don't hide my number, but if I even get a whiff of a judgmental attitude about this subject I lose all respect for them, no matter how many or how few past partners they've had. ;)

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Yesterday, I had a discussion with a couple of friends and they agreed that they would not date someone who had a double digit number of sexual partners.

 

I am almost 24, so I have been sexually active for the better part of 8 years. I've had two serious girlfriends for a total of 3 years. My second girlfriend was my eighth partner in 7 years, and since we broke up almost a year ago, I've been with 7 new partners(and 2 prior ones). So this brings the total to 15 women in 8 years for an average of roughly 2 partners per year of sexual activity. So as far as the average goes that's pretty much a new partner every 6 months. Is that really so bad that you would hold it against someone, 2 partners per year?

 

 

The formula (obviously) is

 

π * C * (N/Y) * Had = X

 

with

C = conservativism/old-fashioned-values quotient

N = number of sexual partners

Y = number of sexually active years

Had = honesty factor, adjusted by alcohol and drug consumption

 

π is just in there because it we all love it so much.

 

 

Feel free to date people with X in the range [0.3, 0.6]. Everyone else is a player, a slut or asexual.

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