BackUpOrGetStung Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 Yesterday, I had a discussion with a couple of friends and they agreed that they would not date someone who had a double digit number of sexual partners. I am almost 24, so I have been sexually active for the better part of 8 years. I've had two serious girlfriends for a total of 3 years. My second girlfriend was my eighth partner in 7 years, and since we broke up almost a year ago, I've been with 7 new partners(and 2 prior ones). So this brings the total to 15 women in 8 years for an average of roughly 2 partners per year of sexual activity. So as far as the average goes that's pretty much a new partner every 6 months. Is that really so bad that you would hold it against someone, 2 partners per year?
laRubiaBonita Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 i personally would NOT want to know your number, nor would i ask. i do not think it is terribley relevant.... my only question would be about your sexual health (STD's and the like) and i would hope that would the most important concern to you. numbers are numbers, it's doesn't mean you were a good lay or that you aren't.
Thaddeus Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 The only time a person's sexual history should come into play is if there's a possible issue with STDs. All that can be avoided by getting checked out by your local health unit or family doc before getting into a new relationship. As far as numbers go, it's frankly nobody else's business, and that includes your new partner.
sally4sara Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 As a personal rule, whenever a guy I dated asked me how many my number was I would say "You first". After they told me their number, I would say "what a coincidence! thats my number too!" If they didn't act stupid about it and the relationship because something worth talking about, I might actually answer the question truthfully. I don't hide my number, but if I even get a whiff of a judgmental attitude about this subject I lose all respect for them, no matter how many or how few past partners they've had.
utterer of lies Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 Yesterday, I had a discussion with a couple of friends and they agreed that they would not date someone who had a double digit number of sexual partners. I am almost 24, so I have been sexually active for the better part of 8 years. I've had two serious girlfriends for a total of 3 years. My second girlfriend was my eighth partner in 7 years, and since we broke up almost a year ago, I've been with 7 new partners(and 2 prior ones). So this brings the total to 15 women in 8 years for an average of roughly 2 partners per year of sexual activity. So as far as the average goes that's pretty much a new partner every 6 months. Is that really so bad that you would hold it against someone, 2 partners per year? The formula (obviously) is π * C * (N/Y) * Had = X with C = conservativism/old-fashioned-values quotient N = number of sexual partners Y = number of sexually active years Had = honesty factor, adjusted by alcohol and drug consumption π is just in there because it we all love it so much. Feel free to date people with X in the range [0.3, 0.6]. Everyone else is a player, a slut or asexual.
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