amorvincitomnia Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 Hi Everyone, I hope my husband isn't cheating, but he is definitely being inappropriate with another woman (and she with him). We have a counseling appointment on Wednesday, but I feel like I am losing my mind. Any advice on how to cope until then? (And I don't mean things like drinking or confronting the other woman - I'm looking for healthy ways) I alternate from angry to profoundly sad to numb. Mostly sad today. If you want some background the post thread is here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t196628/ My second post probably should have gone in this forum.
confusedinkansas Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 He has agreed to go to counseling & yet he continues this behavior? Does he have his head up his butt? Is he thinking that the counselor will tell you that YOU are the one with the problem & that you need to just relax - nothing's going on? If that's the case .. WOW - This story sounds familiar. Hang in there! Try to relax a little bit ( I know that is a very difficult task ) Get out of the house for a while, go shopping, alone - have a pedicure....do something to get your mind off of this. Otherwise you will FEEL LIKE you're going crazy. (that's assuming you don't already feel that way) In a round about way - I've Been in your shoes sista! Be tough!!
angie2443 Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 If your husband is still this woman while in counseling, the counseling will do nothing. It will be a big waste of time and money and maybe make you more bitter in the end. See how it goes. If he backs away from the friendship, then the counseling may help.
stuckinoz Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 I agree with angie. I think you still need to keep a watchful eye. If he's lying to you & seeing this woman on the side (although it doesn't seem like he's hiding anything) He will lie to the counselor. And they may buy it. Being the marriage Police - SUCKS...big time. If you aren't in a position to leave, that may be your only option. Police the situation until you are in a position to leave. - If that's what you decide to do.
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