mortensorchid Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 I said I was off the market and I wasn't getting involved with these stupid guys anymore. Sure enough, as soon as I said that, something dropped in my lap. I met this man through a theater group I am involved in. We met, chatted here and there for a few scenes I was in (we were filming a scene for a play we were both in, I was an extra he has a main part). Eventually we started chatting on Facebook as I was tagging the photos he was in through the Instant Messenger. I came to the play for final dress rehearsal, he asked if I would like to have drinks with him at a bar around the corner, which we did. We hugged good-bye. Afterward, I went to the premiere of the play last weekend and it was great. He then asked me if I would like to come over to his house and watch some TV. I did on Monday of this past week. And we WATCHED TV, nothing else. He laid his head on my lap during the movie we were talking, we talked, we had fun for the most part. Afterwards, I had to go to an evening class and we left on a nice note. Just a hug, no kiss. We said "We'll talk soon." It's been 3 days now. I have not contacted him with one exception. I sent a mass text message to others (including him) of me in a costume which I found funny (for a class I was in, it was not adult by any means). Some responded that they thought it was cool, he did not. Although truth be told I am not sure if his phone receives picture text messages or not. Should I just sit by and wait? I am of the mindset that the man should be chasing me rather than me him. Is it ok of me not to contact him? I like him, he seems nice. What do I do?
WTRanger Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 While it is natural for the guy to do the chase, this is the 21st Century. You want to be equal? Then be equal and you contact him for once. You can't do buffet equality, it's all or none. Okay, I'm off my soapbox now. He could be wondering the same things you are. When is too soon, what's too late? So just give him a helping hand, and let him know that you are interested too. I can say from experience that when I'm doing 100% of the contacting, and even if the girl response 100% of the time, I'm still not sure if she is totally interested or if she's just responding to be nice. It's nice to hear from the girl for a change, it really let's me know she's interested as well.
tinklebell Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 I might wonder this. Even if his cellphone doesn't receive picture texts, he could still reply asking you what it was (I think the text would still have been still received but the picture not shown if his cellphone doesn't support such programs). That said, I would still try one more time to talk to him or ask him out if I really want another shot. If he doesn't reciprocate enough, then I know where I stand.
Author mortensorchid Posted July 31, 2009 Author Posted July 31, 2009 Well I gave him a ring today and we chatted for about 15 minutes. I told him that I'd been quite busy for the last few days, with a test I had and all. Which was the truth, I've been holing myself up in the house studying and things. He said he'd been busy as well, doing his thing. I don't think he's interested. He didn't make a reference to our getting together again anytime soon. I told him I'd read some good things about the play he was in in our local arts weekly. He said thanks, he'd read the same things. We chatted a bit about movies and what others in the theater are doing. Then he ended it by saying he had to call his doctor's office to clear up something about a billing problem. He said "Talk to you soon". *Sigh* Alone again, naturally.
Shygirl15 Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 Yep, he's not. For some reason. It's fine. Don't even try to figure him out. Just forget him and move on.
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