live without my soul mate

[fishhunk]

first time on here saw some of the posts looks like im not the only one going tru the pain on getting a divorce.my story...well i fish in alaska been married going on 9 years to the woman i thought was the one for me we both been married before twice so we thought in a joke 3 times a charm...WRONG!!!!! the marriage I thought was going fine of course we had few problems like not giving her enough attention when i come home from fishing which was my fault.Never really fought during are marriage untill about 3 years ago when she had one of her sons his wife and there baby move in.It was suppose to be a short time maybe 6months but its been going on for almost 3 years now.

 

Since they moved in her son who has a drug problem has stolen almost everything you could steal out of are house from jewlery, to tvs..you name if he could carry it out he would pawn it.Of course the wife would not do anything about it and everytime i bring up kicking them out...well the results would end up ugly in fights so i gave up and withdrawn from bring it up anymore being so frustrated i withdrew my attention to my wife even more because of that.

 

well even though I thought we were ok and get thru this while i was at sea my wife started to be in touch with one of her ex-boyfriends from out of state enough to where they would meet and spend time together more then one occasion.This was without my knowledge theis started in january just when i noticed her change in behavior with me her change of habits ...working out,tanning,new clothes and so forth.

 

Of course she denied all of this but the evidence i had from others who have told me including family members was overwelming.so now im going to a lawyer friday to file papers for divorce because afetr i new what was going on i still wanted to make this marriage work but her heart was somewhere else had she told me yesterday it was over.Why does this happen if the kids were not there i think there would not be a problem i think she wanted to get away from all of this be single and not have any responsibiltys toward any of her family.

 

make a long story short when i come back from sea i leave again for 2 months she will be out of the house not even taking her kids and granson with her she is abandoning them and I just can,t kick them out so i have to take them in untill they can get there act together and move on.

 

I want my wife back and always will shes 49 im 53 she is going thru mid-life im sure but is there a chance she might come back after what she get out of her system the person she is seeing is married with 5 kids a doctor mormon but who knows if hes the only one,

 

anyway thanks for reading my painfull story im so hurt and pained from all this just don,t now what to do anymore.

 

 

any advice out there from anyone or anyone gone thru the same pain as me

[digitalwizard]

Wow. That is a very difficult post to read. We can't imagine someone being so selfish and uncaring. According to your post, your wife doesn't care about you. To leave you with the same people that caused all the problems to begin with is just unacceptable. She is being a childish baby and you are far better off without her. If there was any sign that she had compassion, I'd say to try to work things out, but in this case, my best advice is to try to move on the best you can. It takes two to make a marriage work, and she is out of the picture now. You are better off without her. Find someone that will treat you well and be independent enough to not need tons of affection and attention.

 

Best of luck