lucy loo Posted July 30, 2009 Posted July 30, 2009 This is quite a long story so I will try and simplify it as much as possible. I work and live in a trendy area in London. This average looking guy and his friend live in the area and were constantly coming into where I work (a trendy designer mens and womens boutique) My boss mentioned that this guy used to be a footballer who played for a massive team (I cant mention which team on here, but one of the biggest ones) and that I should give it a go with him.. I constantly laughed it off... I was not about to get involved with a womanizing footballer type! I continued to see this guy around the area but never really gave him the time of day... Once I was just finishing work and they were driving past in his flashy car and my boss waved them down and said give her a lift its raining and she is not well...They gave me a lift home, his friend was lovely but he was quiet and didnt say much so i wrote him off as an arrogant bastard. A few weeks later he came in the shop and came up to talk to me he said hm and his friend were having a party in a few weeks time and would i like to come and bring some friends (while he was doing this his friend was saying in the background finally they are exchanging numbers!!) He then gave me a lift home and text me seconds later asking what my plans were tonight and thiat him and his friends might join me and mine.. In the end we didnt meet up but he text me the next day asking me to go for a drink on the monday.. I relucantly went along and was very suprised... we got on well and he seemed very shy and private, not your usual footballer type. He told me that he had quit football as he did nto like the lifestyle and idea that u couldnt trust anyone in those circles of life. He now worked in property... He drpped me home after the date and was immediately texting me saying he could not wait to see me again.. He text me like mad the whole week..I saw him that friday he picked me up and took me to a very nice restaurant and we had an amzing time again.. i went back to his but we only kissed and he dropped me home the same night... I was busy the next week but the week after that i saw him again... we went out and then he came back to mine.. we had sex and i worried that that may have been all he wanted but he stayed just as interested as ever... He came over to stay for a few more night sthat week... After a while however the dates stopped and he seemd just to want me to come over to his... he did ask me out on one or two dates but couldnt meet until tenpm so i refused making it clear i would not go out with a guy at such a late hour... He still continued to text me every day, but not once in our encounter did he ever call me (Not even to say he was outside to pick me up) The only time he did call me was when he wanted me to fix a jacket of his for him (I went and got it fixed for him) and he was finding out if i had suceeded... I did think such behaviour was odd but i genuianly thought it was because he was shy, he calimed he was so shy he couldnt even come into the shop I work in anymore and would walk round the long way to avoid my boss asking questions about us.. If he did come in he would not kiss me hello and ould avoid all eye contact with me.. The weeks went b and soon i was going on holiday, i hadnt seen him in a couple of weeks as we had both had things on but he begged to see me before i went... we arranged to see each other on the thursday however that day he was texting me with no mention to meet.. i asked if we were still on and he said unfortuantly he had a birthday he had to go to and had only found out yesterday and put a sad face at the end of his text..I got really pissed off and said fine and that maybe i would see him around when i got back.. he text back saying your not going until sunday i still have time to see him to which i replied i was too busy...The next day he text me saying he had to see me anyeways as i had his necklae that he had lest at my place and he needed it back.. I was so pissed off at this point that i told him i would leave it in the shop for him and he could get it whenever he wanted.. The aturday before i left he was walking past the shop with ANOTHER GIRL when my work colleague summoned him in and said i had left something for him.. I heard the commotion and came to the front. He just said alright how are u and left with the girl... seconds later he text me saying thanks for the necklace could i please fit him in before i went..i told him i couldnt and didnt respond to his goodbye text. Toward the end of my two week holiday i text him just to see how he was he replied asking when i was back and saying he had just got back from rome.. when i asked him who he had gone to rome with he relied "a friend" The week i arrived back he ext me asking me when he was seeing me.. i told him i had plans for the thurday for dinner but could see him after.Thursday came and at about seven i got a text ssaying that his sister had just come over after having had a fight with her boyfriend and that he didnt know what she was doing but that if she left we could meet up..i didnt respond.. twenty mins later I got a text saying she has left so can meet.. I had dinner with my friend and then text him he told me to bring my friend to his for drinks.. we went round there and he was sooooo rude... He didnt offer us any drinks and then when his friend offered us a drink and we told him wat we wnated the footballer guy said ohh but thats mine i bought it for myself... my friend left shortly after and he then proceeded to fall asleep on the sofa while i was still there... i said i would go home and he wouldnt let me he said he would give me a lift later on.. we wnet into his room and stuff happened (I didnt sleep with him as it was that time of the month) but i made him happy! Eventually i asked if he could drop me home it was two in the morning.. he refused and said i should have just bought my stuff and stayed at his and that taxis were there to give you lifts home.. I had work the next day and dint have any of my stuff so orderd the taxi.. he was asleep before i left and i let myself out... I was appaleed by this behaviour but text him to say i had got home safely he replied saying he was glad and he bad been so tired the night before... I was also intrigued b that night as his friend and housemate had acted like we wee very much a couple and wanted to get me a helmet for this new motorbike they had... they also both talked about coming round to mine to play tennis little things like that... That sunday i hadnt heard from him so i text him asking him how he was etc... i didnt get a response for hours,, during which time my boss had called me to say he had seen him walking in the area with another girl.. at about eleven that night i got a text back answering my questions but not asking me anything about me.. i competely left it and havent heard from him since (f nearly four weeks ago) I know that he has been on holiday in this time, he had mentioned it to me but again was reluctant to give any detauils about it. I did see his friend/housemate in the area a couple of days ago, we had a nice chat and he told me the footballer had gone to south america by himself and was back on tuesday (a week ago now) Apparantly he got so lonely that he had flown to america to see some friends during this trip... the friend asked me if i had heard from him and was again acting like we were ac ouple.. i mentioned jokingly that my friend didnt like him and he said it didnt matter as he was with me and was taken??? I stil havent heard from the footballer and do not know what to think of this situation at all!! i googled him this eve and it said he is a former footballer for blah who lives in blah with his girlfriend and then names this girl?? Now i really dont know what to think?? Please help!!!!!!!!!!
Fay Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 Copied from the other post: Well, I read the whole thing. Sounds like a real winner You should read a book called He's Just Not That Into You. It opened my eyes to a lot of things. His friends are being nice, or they're maybe trying to keep you on the hook in case he has further use for you in the future, or maybe they're trying to convince him to date you because they hate his other woman/women and want him to settle down with a nice girl like you. In the end, does it matter? His friends are the ones who are interested in you, not him. His actions speak loud and clear. I'm sure you don't want to waste your time on this guy who is obviously not that into you when you could be finding someone who actively pursues you and brings you flowers, or at least drives you home after you polish his knob
Author lucy loo Posted July 31, 2009 Author Posted July 31, 2009 Thanks fay... Do you think he had a girlfriend the entire time i was seeing him... i know he cant possibly live with her so some of th info on the internet must be incorrect! But it would explain his behaviour???
Fay Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 Thanks fay... Do you think he had a girlfriend the entire time i was seeing him... i know he cant possibly live with her so some of th info on the internet must be incorrect! But it would explain his behaviour??? Maybe, maybe not. He's been seeing another girl at least some of the time - you know that much. But the question is, does it really matter? No. Suppose he had a girlfriend - if he liked you enough he would have dumped her for you anyway. He wouldn't be taking other girls out. His behavior is explained very simply: He took you out a few times in the beginning to give it a try. He lost interest, but kept you on the hook in case he needed sex.
Author lucy loo Posted July 31, 2009 Author Posted July 31, 2009 I think your right..i just dont know what to believe right now... also im worried as i will bump into him at some point the area we both live in and i work in is very small and we hang out in the same places... what should i do if this is to happen.. what do i say??
Fay Posted July 31, 2009 Posted July 31, 2009 "Hey, how's it going. Long time no see. How's work?... How are Bob, Jeff and Roy?... Good? Cool! Well, I have to go see a man about a dog now. Catch you later!" Smile. That's all there is to it.
Author lucy loo Posted August 1, 2009 Author Posted August 1, 2009 Do yu think he will contact me again.. we never ended things we just have not been in contact for the last month. He was away for two of those weeks... I know I shouldnt be wondering whether he will but just out of interest..
Lucky_One Posted August 1, 2009 Posted August 1, 2009 He hasn't contacted you for a month? And you have to ask if he is interested? Has he ever mentioned this other girl's name? Most guys will mention their last live-in GF, especially if it was serious enough that she was listed on his bio on the internet (I am just giving benefit of the doubt that the internet info just has not been updated). I mean, didn't you two talk about past relationships and stuff? Regardless, though, you already know the answer. You know he is seeing someone else, you know that he isn't being honest, and you know that he isn't all that into you if he can go a month with no contact.
Author lucy loo Posted August 1, 2009 Author Posted August 1, 2009 He mentioned an ex girlfriend various times but said they broke up a year ago as she was going travelling and they both wanted different things and had lived in Newcastle together.. he said that when they broke up he moved to where he lives now and his best friend moved in with him who I have met. The thing is is that if this info was on the internet the whole time I could let it go as not having been updated but it has just been added recently.. The line about his girlfriend was not there a few weeks ago.. It also says they live together in the area he lives now not in newcastle...
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